According to your custom, what should a man prepare before getting engaged?

I think the man has a lot to prepare before he gets engaged. First of all, he has to meet his parents, discuss the auspicious day of engagement, book a hotel, decide on the guests to attend the engagement party, invite a matchmaker, choose an engagement ring, gold jewelry, prepare a gift for the woman, and many other requirements.

Every place has different customs and different requirements for engagement. Take me for example. If you really want to follow the customs in Xi 'an, the engagement procedure is really complicated, and you have to buy a lot of things and prepare a lot of procedures. However, because my home is far away, it is not easy for my parents to come. After discussion, the two sides decided to simplify the engagement ceremony.

On that day, the woman's parents, grandfather, uncle and cousin all attended the engagement banquet. My parents came to Xi 'an from Jiangsu to attend the engagement ceremony. Because of the pursuit of simplicity, I bought a set of red cloth before engagement, and then bought some candy and peanut seeds. Our engagement ceremony was only held at the dining table of our own house. First, the parents of both sides talk, then introduce my daughter-in-law to each other, and then sit together and chat. After serving, my daughter-in-law and I toasted everyone one by one from Grandpa. I followed my daughter-in-law to ask them, and they gave each of us a red envelope with a change fee as a gift. Then my parents covered the prepared gift money with red cloth and gave it to the woman. At first, the wedding day was definitely over, and everyone began to eat and chat freely.

My engagement is as simple as that. I didn't buy an engagement ring, gold jewelry or anything. I think as long as two people are happy, there is no need to pursue formal perfection. Happiness is the best reward for parents and relatives. If we really have to prepare according to the custom, it will really tire both parents.