How to educate the only child?

Since most families are only children now, children's education has become a very common and serious problem. So, how should parents educate their children?

First, be good at encouraging. Everyone likes to hear people say yes. No matter children or adults, anyone who wants to say no will always feel uncomfortable. Few people can reach the realm of happiness if they ask. Don't always compare your child's shortcomings with other children's strengths. Just say that you think someone is more obedient than you and how good your academic performance is. Why can't you win some anger for your parents like a person? Such comparison will only hurt children's self-esteem and dampen their self-motivation. Therefore, more encouragement in the process of children's growth can cultivate and enhance their self-confidence!

Second, we should not indulge. Nowadays, children are the apple of their parents' eye. They can't fight or scold. They want to eat high-grade, wear famous brands, and buy whatever toys they want. If they don't buy, they have to play. This situation is obvious in many families, which makes children develop many bad habits. Finally, children will blame their parents for "why don't you understand our generation?" We cannot tolerate children's mistakes. We should point out what is right and what is wrong in time. If it is right, we will continue to encourage it. If it is wrong, we will help the children correct it together! At the same time, it is necessary to train children to do what they can, and parents should not do everything.

The third is to pay attention to words and deeds. Parents are the children's first teachers and will always be the children's most direct teachers. Parents' words and deeds will play a great role in demonstrating their children's lives. Parents should do what they ask their children not to do. Just as many parents now prohibit their children from indulging in the internet, staying up late and enjoying online games; Parents want their children not to smoke and drink, but they smoke and drink all day. How can they let their children do this? As the saying goes, don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you!

The fourth is to cultivate children's behavioral ability. First, we should carefully observe life and the surrounding environment with our eyes; Second, listen carefully with your ears to how others express their views; Third, carefully record what you see and hear by hand (keep a diary); Fourth, we should use our brains to think carefully about what we have seen, heard and recorded, and form our own ideas and opinions; Fifth, express your thoughts and opinions accurately with your mouth. To achieve this, we need a process, and we can't rush for success, but as long as we persist in doing it, children's observation ability, writing ability, thinking ability and language expression ability will be gradually exercised and improved.

Fifth, be good at making friends with children. Parents should not always compare with each other. They always think that I gave birth to you and raised you, so you should listen to me and do things according to my will. Children also have children's self-esteem, children also have children's privacy, and children also have children's opinions. They should be good at communicating with children as friends. Children who don't understand should also explain the truth clearly and let the children understand and accept it slowly. Don't make mistakes for your own face, so that children lose respect and trust in their parents.

Of course, different children live in different family and social environments, and they have their own personality characteristics. When educating children, we must try our best to find their interests and potential points in combination with their own children's reality, instead of obliterating their individuality and cultivating education in a targeted manner.