On the saddest day, I didn't send a circle of friends.

QQ space has a function, that is, after one year, it will show the trends posted by friends on the same day last year.

Yesterday, I accidentally brushed a friend's news last year: "No one knows the taste of instant noodle seasoning package better than me ..." I opened the news comment to find out, but I only saw "What's the matter?" However, no reply was received at the bottom of each comment. At the same time, I looked through the WeChat circle of friends. As expected, nothing was sent.

About this good friend, I know her character very well. She is so filial, she doesn't want her parents to worry, and she is so gentle, and she doesn't want people around her to say that she is fragile and melodramatic. No matter how sad things happen, she will cover them up with teasing. She once told me that she was afraid that sending sad things or words in her circle of friends would make others misunderstand that she was a very sad person because that was not the real her.

It is said that everything in the world is trivial except birth, aging, illness and death, but for all sentient beings such as you and me, the daily troubles are usually not such grand propositions, but some daily things that are said to be melodramatic and swallowed.

The number is a dime a dozen, and the weight may crush Mount Tai in an instant.

I think everyone must have experienced this moment.

Today, in this article, I want to talk to you about how to solve these negative emotions whenever we are sad but unwilling to send a circle of friends to make others misunderstand our vulnerability, and how to stand up when we are about to insist.

There has always been a saying of brainwashing on the Internet-

There is no problem that a hot pot can't solve, so if there is, eat two meals;

There is no sadness that a cup of milk tea can't relieve. If so, keep drinking.

But in fact, not many people choose this adjustment method, and even if there are, they all know the disadvantages.

So, the first way I want to share with you today is to be alone.

The power of the "Lonely Party" is not small. In fact, it is to live and endure, do nothing, stay alone quietly, and slowly draw strength from the passing time.

@ Pei Xinyi: It suddenly occurred to me that when I was sad, I seemed to like being alone, sitting, just sitting, sitting. I didn't make noise, watch drama, listen to music or run. I may be lazy. Let me be happy for a while when I am lazy.

@ Tsing Yi: A desperate person is very sad on the balcony, and then when his mood calms down, he will pretend that nothing happened, laugh when he should, and make trouble when he should.

Yes, Lu is a deer, not a heron: the beach is crowded with tourists during the day. When I passed by the library in the middle of the night and went back to my dormitory, only the waves were rushing by. Whenever I am sad, I will take a look at the sea alone.

@ Peach: Just stay alone in the room, cover the quilt, close the curtains, turn off the lights, put on rhythmic songs, think nothing, lie quietly for an afternoon, then listen to sleep, and the next day will be fine.

Method 2: Recall the past. When you are alone, it is easy to think about the east and the west and recall the past. Surprisingly, different people have different ways to deal with those happy memories of the past.

@ Wei: If you are sad, just look at the past photos and let the memories play like movies. Or eat a big meal, eat something that once made you happy, and find the feeling of happiness.

@ Regret: Look at the photos you took when you were happy, and then contact the person who took the photos.

@ shriiiiiiiimp: Delete a circle of friends. Delete all those old cat movies, happy hours, precious memories and friend interactions, and then the current sadness will be replaced by the sadness of losing these treasures.

Method 3: If you can't sit still, it's better to travel. Just like eloping with others, you can temporarily escape from that familiar place, familiar environment, familiar people and create new stories.

@ Yuan: Running used to be fun, but now I leave my dormitory to surf outside. Last time I went to the movies alone, I ate alone. Last time, I was alone on the last subway to see the lighthouse where I changed my evening dress.

@L: If you are extremely sad, you can buy a plane ticket and escape as quickly as possible. You can digest your emotions and come back to live alone for a few days.

@Aarif: When traveling, playing and seeing beautiful scenery, everything is nothing.

@ The sun is turning: I went out shopping alone, ate a store that I usually can't bear to eat, stayed with my classmates in other schools for two days, and temporarily left an uncomfortable environment.

Method 4: Writing is also a way to create stories. Some of them record real daily life, and some fictional characters' joys and sorrows, but in fact they are all about their own grievances and melancholy.

@ He Tian: Before you go to bed, write down what you want to say and all your grievances in the memo, and then go to sleep as if you have finished.

@ 中中中: If you are really having a hard time and feel hopeless in the future, then keep a diary. You know your weakness. You know sadness is useless. You have to solve it, rationally reconcile with yourself and get better slowly.

@ 么么么: Write a novel, write your own story in the third person, and then be regarded as a bystander. Write it out and you'll know what's wrong, and then what should I do? In fact, I think a lot of troubles and unhappiness are caused by being around it. People think you are melodramatic because they are not in it and don't pester you. This is also a feeling of my writing novels. If you change your personal name, not "I" but "he" and "she", it will be particularly calm.

@ jingjingjing: Write something. Recently, code words have become my decompression method. Write anything, stories, moods or anything else. I feel particularly satisfied when the carefully selected words are presented to me. In addition, cleaning the house is also super decompression.

@: Play a trumpet in Weibo. You can say whatever you want to say but dare not. Anyway, no one knows, you are comfortable typing a bunch of words.

Method 5: It's good to have a hobby. Many people don't know what to do when they want to divert their attention. Maybe people who have hobbies can skip this step and jump directly into the field where they are good at and regain their confidence and strength.

@ Ginger & Fish Cake: Drawing, drawing colored lead, takes time and concentration, and it is especially beautiful to draw. Or writing, fill up all the old draft papers you can find, clean them up and fully release your compulsion.

@ Li Xiaotian: Practice calligraphy, when you are happy, when you are unhappy, when you are depressed, when you are proud, when you are jealous, and when you are free. Of course, when you are really sad, it is probably to tear the paper you have practiced.

@ Li Zhan: Listen to music. Listen when your ears hurt when you hang up your headphones.

@ 中中中: Dancing, watching plays, reading professional books, watching movies, immersed in a pure and beautiful world, you will find those trivial things really tacky.

Method 6: Find inner peace. After all, the sad moment is to calm your heart. Some people get "sage time" by reading something that can increase their knowledge or be interesting.

@ Galaxy is also a river: Li Li, Zhihu, Weibo and Aauto Quicker. Use everything you like to improve your knowledge and divert your attention.

Some people just want to immerse themselves in the ocean of knowledge, as if they were possessed by learning hegemony. The suffocation caused by that kind of problem may make them forget the real world for a while.

@Racy: If you are sad, read and do the questions, and read and do the questions crazily.

@ Mo Mo Mo Xiaoxing: I didn't do the same language well. I made a math test paper. It is not difficult to pass in an instant. What is this? Chinese test is not good, why not math test?

@ 囎囎囎囎: Buy a five-year college entrance examination three-year simulation and take it out.

@Don: Reading professional books, only profound knowledge can make me forget the whole world.

Method 7: Some people compare their "dissatisfaction" in reality, and finally walk out of the corner after seeing the grandeur of the whole world and the whole universe.

@ lilianli: Spiritual Victory Law, currently abroad. Seeing many people who can't afford to go to college, seeing many Indian girls who have given birth to many children at the age of 65,438+03,65,438+04, and seeing many beautiful girls from Venezuela engaged in prostitution (during the turmoil in Venezuela), I feel that there is nothing wrong with it. At least I can go to school. If I can eat and wear warm clothes and do what I want, I won't be stubborn.

@ Liang: Look up at the starry sky. When you think of the vastness of the universe, you will feel extremely small with your own sadness.

Method 8: Tears are the same as sweat. If overeating is a little fat when you are sad, then exercise is absolutely healthy when you are depressed. Sweating while the iron is hot during exercise will make those grievances and unwillingness evaporate with the sweat.

@ Look at that tree: What can't be forgotten after playing for two hours? If so, call for 4 hours.

@ jingjing jingjing y (_). Yi: Playing ball, shooting, seeing the goal, I feel that I am not a loser.

@ Wu Xiaodong: Wander aimlessly by bike, and then have a hearty meal when you are hungry and tired.

@ Jingjing Jingjing: It was almost dawn when I got off work yesterday. I drove home from the company. I spent 2 hours 14 minutes, 22 kilometers, and felt that I was the most handsome on the whole road.

@ 丫丫丫丫丫丫丫: There is no trouble that running can't solve. The minor fault is five kilometers, and the major fault is marathon.

@ plus or minus: Last week, I was killed by an explosion. Then I went to the playground and ran ten times. I spent the afternoon in the sun on the grass and felt much better. As a result, someone in the sports department contacted me yesterday and asked me if I would like to join the long-distance running team.

Method 9: If you don't want to go out to exercise, you can also sweat at home, such as cleaning the room and releasing all your emotions on the floor, table, window and toilet! Throw away all bad, expired and unpleasant things (not including yourself)! When you collapse on the sofa after work, you will find that you have no mind to think about those messy things at all, and your heart will be swept away. Looking at the clean room, I feel great and have a sense of accomplishment.

@ Jingjing Jingjing: Every time I quarrel with my wife, I mop the floor.

@CARTON: I do cleaning every time I am unhappy, so the dormitory is very clean.

@ Lin: Clean up the room so that you don't even know your own mother.

Method 10: Just cry. To tell the truth, people who use "crying" as a way of adjustment actually occupy half of the country. They often cry alone in the corner and under the quilt, afraid to let others hear them. It is understandable that crying doesn't mean cowardice. Many times, tears are just a way to vent emotions and release pressure. After crying, my mood will become clear and everything will have hope.

There is an Ancy in @! Cry, cry hard, it will be much easier after crying, and then eat something delicious. I still have to meet happily every day-I cry just to release the pressure, not to say that I am weak.

@ Lin Shuiji: Sick surgery ... A person is like a cripple, desperate, but because he doesn't want to worry his parents, he has to be positive and optimistic in his daily life, but this is inevitable ... When he can't hold on, he will cry and tear his heart out. When he is tired of crying, it seems that he will not work so hard and everything will be fine ~

@ Chen ~ Jun ~ Ping: Ben cries when he is sad, all kinds of crying, even in front of people. When he went to the rooftop to cry alone, he immediately shed tears at the thought of sadness, and he was in a much better mood every time he cried.

@ Ling Xiao: The last time I was sad was yesterday. My grandmother said that she missed me very much. She asked us to call her more often and take her home during the summer vacation. I thought she was alone in the nursing home. For a long time, we didn't go home once because of school. Although my parents and uncles often visit her, I still know that she will be lonely. I hid in bed and cried for a long time last night.

@ Blue: The last time I was sad, I didn't tell my parents about the negative energy in Looking at the World. When I read it, I felt that my job prospects and money prospects were very slim, and my parents were old ... tears came out at once. But I dried my tears and went on working. What else can I do? It is a luxury to cry regardless now.

@ A Chen chen: Watch tragic books, TV series and movies when you are sad. Tears rush, so that the inner sadness is taken away by tears, and the inner discomfort is released through the external sadness.

Method 11: After crying, people are also tired. They usually sleep deeply and then come back to life with blood, but some people can skip the step of "crying" and jump directly to "sleep" to save energy for themselves in their dreams.

Mr. @ J.: Don't talk to others when you are in a bad mood. I don't smoke, drink, overeat, go home, empty my shopping cart, travel, cry or exercise. I usually take a nap and just take a nap.

@Licho: The last time I was sad was sitting in KFC and wondering why I chose this job. Reason tells me that I should listen to other people's opinions more. So I called a few friends from different industries. After listening to the philosophy of life for nearly two hours, my roommate said, "You were not like this before." I said, "What kind?" "Confident and brave." I was so sad at that time that I felt that someone had thrown something away. So I asked for leave in the afternoon, slept all afternoon, and was temporarily calm. However, I have made up my mind to leave.

Finally, I want to say that your collapse need not be regarded as nothing happened, because it is those dark moments that reflect the gentleness and beauty in life.

Maybe when we open our eyes tomorrow, we should be cautious in reality, but as long as we are willing to open a window or a gap in our life, there must be sunshine to shine in.