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Ancient marriage taboo

In China, an ancient country with a long history of thousands of years, wedding etiquette and customs also contain rich content, cultural background and taboos. Let me sort out the relevant contents of ancient marriage taboos for you, I hope you like them!

Marriage is one of the most important things in life. As the saying goes: get married first, then start a business. Confucianism also clearly pointed out the order of self-cultivation, keeping the family in order, governing the country and leveling the world. It can be seen that people must get married first, settle down before starting a career, and people will become mature and naturally get twice the result with half the effort. Marriage is marriage, and the quality of marriage is related to the happiness of life. It is everyone's aspiration to have a happy marriage. From getting to know each other, to holding hands with his son, and then to growing old with his son, it should have been the perfect ending for the prince and princess. If we ignore the taboo of China people on marriage customs behind this celebration, it may affect our future marriage trip because of a small mistake, which is not worth the candle, which is a pity.

What are the taboos for ancient people to get married?

Avoid eating wedding cakes.

The bride of the woman remembers not to eat the wedding cake given by the man during the big gift period. A wedding cake is a metaphor for the bride's blessing. It is unlucky to eat your own blessing.

Avoid inserting incense again.

When a woman puts the cake on the altar, if the incense stick is inserted askew in the incense burner, remember not to take it out and insert it again, which was a symbol of remarriage in ancient times.

Avoid fans.

No matter how hot the weather is, friends and relatives present can't press the fan just because the fan is homophonic? Scattered? It is unlucky to pay attention to a century-long harmonious wedding day.

Avoid saying "goodbye"

When the man's relatives and friends leave, the woman can't say "goodbye" when she walks to the door, which means remarriage, so when she sends the man back, she just nods.

My aunt must avoid it.

Aunt must avoid the engagement ceremony, so as not to cause the bride and aunt to get along in the future.

New house layout

As for the layout of the new house, the wedding big bed should also be installed on a good day. It is necessary to put some auspicious items on the bed, such as lilies, red dates and lotus seeds. It means that a couple get along well for a hundred years and have a baby early. Put a ruler, mirror, scissors, symbols of good fortune and good luck on the dresser, which means to ward off evil spirits and avoid all sins.

Send the bride out.

On the wedding day, when the bride goes out, her sister-in-law can't see her off, because "sister-in-law" is homophonic with the word "sweep" of the comet, which is unlucky. The bride should wear shoes backwards, which means not to forget her family. When you leave home, you should follow the aspirations of your uncles and other elders. At least you should go out with your brother on your back, not by yourself. Otherwise, you will be considered heartless and have no attachment to your family. At the same time, widows and pregnant women should avoid seeing the bride off when relatives and friends send her to get married.

Marry the bride

When marrying the bride, the bride must cover the road with a red umbrella before going out, and she must say something auspicious while scattering rice until the bride gets on the float.

Kanxi

The bride has just arrived at her husband's house, and her aunt and others will accompany her to dinner. Others eat and drink, but she can only watch and sit still. This is called "watching the seat".

(of a newlywed wife) going to her parents' home with her newlywed husband.

Three days after marriage, the groom accompanied his wife back to her mother's house, which is called "returning to the door". On the day of going home, you must get back to your husband's house before sunset, and you can't spend the night; In case you can't go home for special reasons, the couple should sleep in separate rooms to avoid the collision between the lotus flower and the bride's family during the honeymoon.

So how to avoid these marriage taboos in China's traditional folk customs? What other aspects should be paid attention to on the way into the marriage hall?

One: the taboo of marriage time

Try to avoid these three months when you get married: June, March and July. According to traditional customs, the bride who gets married in June of the lunar calendar is also called? Half-moon wife Because June is half of the whole year, the bride in June is equal to half of the bride, which means that couples are prone to divorce after marriage. If an immediate family member dies suddenly, it is not appropriate to hold a happy event or register for marriage, otherwise? Sick and sick? Criminals In addition, March and July are the days when ghosts appear more and more. For elders, it is not good to get married in these special months, so try to avoid it.

Three days after marriage, the groom accompanied the bride back to her family. Back to the door? On the day you go home, you must get back to your husband's house before sunset. If it is too late, the couple will stay at the woman's house. Remember not to share the same room, and sleep separately, so as not to bring bad luck to your family. In addition, it is best for newcomers not to spend the night outside. It is also forbidden to participate in any wedding, funeral or celebration within four months of marriage.

Second: taboo of marriage ceremony.

The groom-to-be had better find an underage boy to sleep in the new bed after the new bed is made, otherwise it will violate the taboo of sleeping in an empty bed. The so-called "sleeping in an empty bed is either death or death?" That's a bad omen. When the groom gets married at the bride's house, the bride will cry with joy when she leaves home, and the sooner she cries, the louder the better. Is this called staying? Water head? A royal family means that the more you cry, the more you cry. If you meet another team on the way to the wedding, what is this situation called? Xi chongxi? , will offset each other's blessings, so it is necessary to set off firecrackers to each other, or exchange flowers prepared by the matchmakers in advance to resolve them. When the bride enters the man's house, aunt Weng, pregnant woman and filial piety should avoid each other to prevent conflicts.

Three: Pay attention to the wedding place.

When loading the bed, put the bed in the right place, not facing the sharp corner of the desk closet or something. The new bed also needs to put some auspicious items on the bed, such as lilies, red dates, lotus seeds, etc., which means a hundred years of harmony and early birth. When the bride enters the man's house, if there is a threshold, she should cross it, and be careful not to step on the groom's shoes. No one is allowed to touch the new bed on the wedding day until going to bed at night. The bride must not touch the bed that day.

Four: taboo things in the wedding.

All dresses, wedding dresses, shoes, etc. The bride should wear a brand-new dress on her wedding day, and the dress should avoid pockets, because many pockets will take away her family's wealth, so it is best to choose one without pockets. Brides holding flowers avoid choosing flowers, which are easy to wither and are taboo in marriage. If you want to choose, you'd better choose lotus flower and pomegranate. Even recruiting flowers means getting married, and pomegranate means having a full house of children and grandchildren. Newly-married couplets should be hung on the eve of marriage at the latest, and taken down one month after marriage, and both men and women should distinguish their own couplets when buying couplets.

China lived for five thousand years, and the above points are the rules and etiquette handed down by our ancestors. Maybe some of them are complicated, and some of them may not be suitable for the current living customs. However, there are always reasons and reasons behind many folk customs handed down. If you want to make a good impression in the process of getting married and later in your married life, you should consider some traditional wedding taboos in China. After all, a wedding is a ceremony that needs many good wishes, which is not only a respect for the elders, but also a way.