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Marry a chicken and follow a dog. In Guangzhou, we should follow the customs of my hometown. Do as Romans do in Rome.

Banquets and weddings, ceremonies and gifts, red envelopes, dowry and other issues are negotiated.

(a) the use of cake sheep, acacia, Jiahe, glue paint, live chicken or cloth. -"Leading the way chicken" means good luck.

(2) gifts

The ceremony before marriage is the most solemn and important, and the bride price, dowry and dowry agreed by both families should be fulfilled on this day. On this day, the man's family filled all kinds of boxes, boxes and reeds prepared in advance, pasted them with red cypress trees, or picked them or carried them, and the man's aunts and sisters sent them to the woman's house in a mighty way. It is common for a man to give a whole pig and a whole sheep in a "gift", so there are lyrics of "giving a gift to a pig" in folk songs. Cake food is also necessary, and it is a "big cake". There are more than a dozen kinds of cakes, from one to several according to the conditions and luxury of each family, as well as barbecued pork, chicken, duck and fish, steamed cakes and so on.

Upon receiving the bride price from the man, the woman immediately gave the original dowry to the man. Mainly for daily necessities, such as clothes, quilts, pillows, summer sleeping mats, as well as wardrobes, dressing tables, suitcases, square tables, bedding, refrigerators, televisions, rice cookers and so on.

Generally, the day before the wedding, the weird and festive atmosphere is very strong. Those aunts and sisters who give gifts usually dress up and choose a crowded road to tell each other happy events along the way.

(3) Pick up the bride

Generally, it includes three links: paving the road or warming the house, welcoming guests and returning to the door, which lasts for three days. Shop or warm the house on the first day, welcome guests on the second day and return to the door on the third day. The customs in Huizhou are different. Wedding basically refers to marrying the bride and delaying the bride. As for welcoming the bride (that is, receiving the bride), it mainly includes several main customs, such as laying a house, sitting in a sedan chair, sprinkling salt and rice, and stepping on concave columns across the fire.

1. Pufang

Paving roads and building houses is an ancient custom that continues to this day. When a woman gives her husband a dowry, it is a custom for her sister-in-law to help decorate the new house. Pay attention to two points. First, pay attention to the orientation and feng shui of beds, cabinets and dressing tables. The most important thing is that the wardrobe mirror can't face the bed. The mirror is synonymous with the magic mirror. It is obviously unlucky to put the magic mirror on the bed. Second, people who buy houses should have a "good life". People think that the standard of a better life is mainly "many children and many blessings". Therefore, widows and infertile women are not allowed to participate in the store, and those who have many children are naturally the main participants in the store.

pass/spend a night

On the day before the bride's wedding, the sisters-in-law (the so-called lucky ones must choose) should dress the bride specially, which is called "flower arrangement" by the people. This night, also known as "Flower Night", is a very grand ceremony before the bride's wedding.

During this ceremony, the bride is often accompanied by crying and singing. At this time, the bride is facing a major turning point in her life and is usually very emotional. The bride cried sadly and stayed up all night, showing a traditional wedding atmosphere of "mixed happiness and sorrow".

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Drumming all the way. After arriving at the girl's home, the girls' sisters refused to go out, and the groom quickly sent "Lili". After passing the sisters, the bride can be taken out. The bride cried and refused to leave, but the man's family used both hard and soft methods to coax her out of the boudoir and get on the bus. The groom also gave the driver a "profit".

4. Rice sprinkled with salt

When picking up the bride, put some salt, rice, black sesame seeds and other things in advance, that is, sprinkle them along the road on the way to pick up the bride, which is called offering sacrifices to the bridge god; What was sown along the road was a sacrifice to the road god.

The custom of sprinkling salty rice is actually a variation of the traditional wedding custom of China. "Sagu bean" is mostly a relic in the north, but not common in the south.

5. Cover your head, step on the sunken fence and cross the fire.

When the bride comes home, this is the groom fanning each other with fans. If the man's elder sister-in-law looks like Chinese characters, she must be covered with a lid (bamboo container), a sieve and other things, and can't see the bride directly. Folks believe that the bride's good or ill luck is the head, and she is very murderous. The groom uses a fan, which means "weakening her murderous look", and people avoid it, which means "avoiding her murderous look". In some places, when the bride gets off the sedan chair, the groom blocks the back of the bride's head with concave columns (containers edited by editors). According to the folk saying, all married women should be filial, even if they go to the man's house in a sedan chair, they should turn back step by step, and the groom's concave column is famous for covering the bride's line of sight. This practice is to let the bride concentrate on marrying the man's family and not always think about her own family.

In addition to the custom of covering your head, there is also the habit of stepping on the fence. When the bride got off the bus, the man's family quickly laid a concave fence in front of the bride's feet so that the bride could step on it. Folks say that "the treadle fence turns with the nest (concave)", which is very famous. This is to let the bride concentrate on being a cow and a horse in the man's "nest" after going through the door.

It is customary for the bride to cross the concave column and cross the fire when she is ready to enter the house. Even if there is no special brazier, some old people will grab a handful of grass to burn at the door and let the bride pass. This custom is called "misfire" in the north. In some places, it is a long-standing folk custom to turn to carbon fire. He has two intentions. The first is to take the word "Wang". After the bride crosses the handle of Wanghuo, she will bring Wanghuo to her husband's house in the future. The other is to use the word "taboo", mainly to avoid evil spirits and worship. People believe that "evil" has two sources. One is that when they got married, the audience was like a cloud, and some of them were inevitably sick at home. Folks think they worship evil spirits, while Huizhou calls them "jealousy". Another evil source comes from the bride herself. A woman's body is "dirty", which is an old traditional concept in China.

Although it means "flourishing fire", it is mainly to ward off evil spirits. Ainny, silk grass, picking cards and the like burned in the brazier are all traditional things in China to ward off evil spirits. In particular, "Wang Cao" and "Plaster" are protective drugs used by people to ward off evil spirits.

Step 6 hold a candle

After receiving the bride, before the bride entered the bridal chamber, the boy put the candle in the bridal chamber first. Folk songs also sing a cloud: "Hold a candle to the bride's room (the final meaning, or the innermost meaning)."

According to the customary practice, a boy (usually there are many brothers in the family) is preferred to pick up the bride with the wedding team (the candle has been held at this time), and then the candle is taken back or placed directly in the bridal chamber. This should be because serving children is vulgar. Taking boys with many brothers as an introduction and lighting incense for the bride and beauty will attract children and grandchildren.

7. Wedding and drum music

The whole process of "picking up the bride" is usually drums and music. The "gongs and drums cabinet" is mainly composed of gongs and drums, cymbals and cymbals, with suona. The drum band played back and forth in the wedding procession, which enhanced the festive atmosphere.

(4) The detained bride

When the bride arrives home, she will pay homage to the ancestors of heaven and earth, pay homage to her parents, and offer tea to the male elders in turn. This is called "drinking bride tea"; And the elders will also write "Li" packages, wishing the newlyweds good luck. After the ceremony, there will be a big banquet "Wine with the Bride".

After the wedding reception, people can't wait to pour into the new house. First, we should "eat bride's tea and smoke bride's cigarettes". According to the rules, the bride should order tea one by one. At this time, people often fill the boiling tea and deliberately let the bride burn it. And deliberately blew out the fire lit by the bride, so that the bride was at a loss; Later, let the bride walk on a long wooden bench several inches wide, which is called "crossing the overpass". The two ends of the bench are easy to tilt, and the middle is only one palm wide, which makes people walk unsteadily on it. Some troublemakers deliberately break the foot of the bench in advance and let the bride fall off the bench. As for asking the bride and groom to bite candy and say obscene words to the bride, it is common. The further down, the more disorderly the order. Some secretly stab the back of the bride's neck with barbed objects such as pine needles, or spray pepper water on the bride's face and push it left and right. My sister-in-law, who came with her family, tried her best to persuade her to support her, but to no avail. The bride smiled reluctantly, but sweat and tears ran down her face. This trick on the bride often drags on until late at night.

The habit of "listening to rooms" is also a new house. Generations have hit each other, and even today, the legacy of this marriage custom is faintly visible.

(5) Three generations of "Huimen"

The day after the wedding, the bride gets up early to serve her family and welcomes relatives and neighbors who visit during the day. On the third day, she will take some gifts and go back to her parents' home with the groom early in the morning. This is called "I will return the door". This is a very unique etiquette in Huizhou traditional wedding customs. If proposing marriage, being auspicious, settling down, reporting the day and giving gifts are pre-wedding ceremonies, and welcoming relatives and delaying the bride are wedding ceremonies, then the return of the three dynasties is a wedding or ceremony.

Huimen in the Three Dynasties was closely related to the ancient custom of "beating husbands". When describing the custom of "beating husbands" in the Northern and Southern Dynasties, the book Xiyang Miscellaneous Women once said: "On the day of the husband's pavilion (the house where women live), the women in the husband's family get together and enjoy beating husbands with a stick to the maximum."

Also known as "delayed groom", it is similar to the habit of "beating husband" and "beating husband" in form and content. According to Huizhou custom, when a couple arrive at Yue's home, the first thing they do is to meet their parents-in-law, and then meet all the relatives in the family one by one. When visiting sisters in the clan, they often start to "lag behind the groom". According to the traditional custom, the groom goes to the ancestral home of Yue family and the four gods of Yue family house. At this time, it is convenient for the sisters to pee on one side, or let the groom worship a few times to prevent him from getting up; Or let Sina kneel frequently, not intermittently; Some kind people will drag the groom to the henhouse or pigsty, saying that they want the groom to worship the god of the henhouse or pigsty, but they are actually teasing the groom. If the groom does not obey, the sisters will forcibly "enforce the law", making the groom have to obey.

After the worship, the Yue family gave a banquet to entertain her husband. During the dinner, Zhang Yue and the elders in the clan asked the groom to solve some pairing and problems, saying that it was a test of the groom's talent, but it was actually a dilemma for the groom; And those good sisters copied the practice of "dragging the bride" at this time to tease the groom and make the groom flustered.

Although "delaying the groom" is not as good as "delaying the bride" to a certain extent, the Yue sisters always point their finger at the groom, which is roughly a kind of "revenge" for the bride being teased at the man's house.

Huimen in the Three Dynasties is the custom of Huizhou traditional marriage, so the etiquette is quite particular. When returning home, the first gift is chicken, which is called "leading chicken" by the people. This is a necessary auspicious thing. The rest of the gifts, such as fish, meat, geese, seafood, delicacies, cakes and so on. It's all yours. For these gifts, the man's family usually prepares one more, such as two pieces of meat and two pieces. After receiving the gift money, the woman's family goes back to the man's house to ask for a piece as usual. Others, such as big oranges, are also indispensable. If there are no big oranges, you must change them into oranges. The big orange stands for "good luck". After the bride's family receives the gift. And return the orange (Ji) to that person.

Except those who get married from a distance, weddings are held in cities and suburbs. During the Three Dynasties, the Yue family usually invited their husbands, brides and sisters-in-law to have dinner and then went home on the same day.

On the journey back to the concierge, there were red-haired cakes steamed by my mother-in-law, red-gathered cakes, and "leading the way chicken" was indispensable. Huizhou also has the custom of returning home in January after marriage. In return, my mother-in-law steamed a big cage (a kind of glutinous rice cookie) and her mother-in-law steamed the cake.

Book a banquet 1. Generally choose auspicious day to get married, generally need to book in advance.

When booking a banquet, there should be clear requirements for the host's seat, but there are no special restrictions for other guests. Most of them are made up on a first-come-first-served basis or by the host family.

3. It is suggested to arrange the location for the guests in advance to avoid improper arrangement due to haste. In particular, some relatives and friends may have disharmonious or alienated feelings. In order to avoid misunderstanding, it is best to arrange seats systematically in advance and assign station numbers to allow guests to sit safely.

4. When booking a banquet, the name of the banquet hall must be listed on the order, so as to avoid crowding or scattered seats in the future, and there is no way to complain. 5. In terms of dishes, check with the banquet department in detail, and pay attention to some bluff words, such as "auspicious seafood" or "a hundred years of luck", and clearly explain the contents of the dishes. Abalone or shark's fin, whether suckling pig is whole or part, should be clearly listed.

6. When making a reservation, don't forget to arrange a lounge for the newcomers and ask if there is any safety equipment. The bride's room should not be too far away from the place where the banquet is held and the area should not be too narrow. Is there any facilities for hanging evening dresses and ironing? Hello, Hc

7. Ask clearly the price of each service, such as tea, bottle opening fee, beer, soda, pre-dinner snacks and numerous service charges. 8. Before paying the deposit, ask clearly what to do with the deposit if the wedding banquet is cancelled due to bad weather or unexpected events, and whether to compensate for the losses. Don't forget to ask for a deposit receipt. Need to be clear about the number of seats that can be increased or decreased, and how to deal with the remaining banquets. .

9. The budget of the banquet should consider the attendance rate of the guests to avoid some embarrassing situations due to insufficient or excessive guests.

10. The fees and service scope should be clearly stated in black and white, and verbal commitments are not allowed.

Gifts are returned immediately after the wedding, at least half. When people arrived at the banquet, they came back at that time, but they were not there, and then they came back. It means giving and receiving, treating guests with courtesy, and on the other hand, saying a word, representing Geely.