As the saying goes, "three dynasties return to the door", why do you have to return to the door three days after marriage?

The custom of "Huimen" has been circulating in China for 3000 years. Whether in the south or the north, there is a custom of "returning to the door", but the time is slightly different. Most places go home three days after marriage, and some places go home the next day after marriage, such as Hunan. In A Dream of Red Mansions, there is such a plot: "One day, Shi Xiangyun came home after getting married and came here to pay his respects.

"In ancient times, there were many recalls, and there were also recalls on the 6th, 9th or full moon. It was not until modern times that it was gradually set in the third grade, which is commonly known as the "Three Dynasties". On the day of returning home, the son-in-law and daughter will go back to their parents' home together with gifts. At this point, the ceremony of becoming a husband can be realized.

Because it is the first time to go back to my parents' home after marriage, it is also called "Hui" or "Double Door" in some local dialects, which means good luck in pairs. In most areas, returning home usually means going back to your hometown in the south on the same day and not staying at home for the night. Of course, there are also overnight stays, but we should also be careful not to share the same room.

Of course, there is no such pressure in modern society. It is natural to bring a "return gift" when returning to the door. There are different customs in many places, but they are generally liked by the elderly. For example, cigarettes, wine, sugar, health care products, etc., some places will bring a rooster, which means "good luck." However, it should be noted that no matter whether you bring chicken or fish to the back door ceremony, you should bring even numbers, not odd numbers, because after marriage, there are already two people, and one pair is unlucky.

The return trip usually starts before ten o'clock in the morning, so you should arrange the time according to the itinerary. After arriving at Yue's home, the son-in-law should pay attention to the change of address, and the bride's son-in-law should follow suit. Yue family usually prepares a "back door banquet" at noon, and all the participants are parents' in-laws. At this time, there will be a lot of attention to seating. Generally speaking, the son-in-law must sit on the table, and the family will arrange the in-laws and elders to accompany him. At the end of the banquet, the father-in-law will personally serve his son-in-law a bowl of noodles, which are usually poached eggs.