Unique courtship methods of Miao nationality

There are many ways for Miao boys to express their love, such as "pinching their fingers" and "begging for sugar".

"Finger-pinching" means that when the crowd is concentrated in the holiday market, if the young man has a good impression on the girl, he will quietly squeeze behind the girl, reach out unexpectedly and gently pinch the girl's little finger.

If a girl really accepts the boy's love, she will turn her back and gently pinch the little finger of the boy, or smile back. If you don't want to, ignore it. This will not embarrass young people.

"Begging for sugar" means that if a young man likes a girl in the process of communication between young men and women, he will show his love to the other party in the name of "begging for sugar": "I heard that my sister's sugar is very sweet, but my brother has no money to eat sugar."

If the girl agrees, the metropolis will answer, "My little sister's sugar is too sour, and my big brother will bend after eating it." The young man replied, "eldest brother wants to see through sugar, but younger sister is sour in sugar." After several rounds of "begging for sugar", the girl will leave a gentle word for the young man: "Big brother wants sugar to come with his sister, don't blame him for his bad teeth."

Then he lifted his feet and left, followed by young people, followed by intimate whispers in the Woods and streams.

If a girl already has a lover, she will say to the young man, "Little sister has sold out of sugar, and big brother will try somewhere else." If the girl really disagrees, she replies, "My little sister is poor and doesn't sell sugar, but my big brother doesn't want sugar."

Some people actually bought a candy for them, which is not only a kind of talk about avoiding the important, but also a meaning of "making friends is not right" At this time, the young man will take the sugar and leave very carefully.

Young men and women will invite each other to meet and talk to each other after making a promise by pinching their fingers or begging for candy. They use branches, leaves, weeds and wild flowers to weave different styles of marks to illustrate their feelings and indicate the place and time of the date. Cursive script means dating, knot means tryst, and co-editing flowers and plants means lifelong engagement.

The first time I met a bee made of thatch, I said, "I'll wait for you." Can you come? " When dating again, the dragonfly woven with vanilla said, "The place is still the same, please come quickly." The grasshopper, who couldn't keep the appointment and woven thatch with leaves, said, "I'm sorry, I can't leave because of something important!" "

Red knots show enthusiasm and desire for a good conversation; The blue knot means you want to see it, but it must be on a bright moonlight night; If the "white thunder" is made of white grass, it is a guilty teacher who "has stood many times for no reason and never wants to see you in my life"

When both men and women think that they are congenial to each other and truly love each other, and the fruits of love are ripe, they begin to exchange tokens. The man sent towels, belts, cigarettes and other things to the woman, and the woman sent him silver clips, bracelets, embroidered shoes and other things to show her deep love for each other. Later, the two sides told their parents that after a while, the man's parents would find a symbolic matchmaker to take the lead and agree on an auspicious day to get married together.