How should a half-married couple be buried after death?

Life is impermanent, and life and death depend entirely on nature. If everything in the world is pessimistic, there won't be so many troubles.

Some people say that the fallen leaves come back to their roots, and people die like lights. If they leave, they will be settled. But relatives are not like this. If things are not handled properly before death, or families with many children do not explain clearly, conflicts will inevitably occur. The dead are gone, but the living are busy with family disputes. I'm afraid the souls of the dead can't rest in heaven.

I chatted with a netizen about the death of an old neighbor, and my half-brother came to grab his mother's urn and fight, which attracted neighbors to watch. The two sides were deadlocked and were taken to the police station for questioning. Let's take a look at what this netizen said:

Aunt Wang, a neighbor, passed away, but after being cremated and buried that day, the family fought.

There are many people around the door watching the excitement. Only after asking did I know that Aunt Wang was married for the second time and had a daughter with her dead husband. She died of a sudden cerebral hemorrhage a few days ago. The daughter handles her mother's affairs alone and buries her and her father's ashes in the bought cemetery.

After the funeral, my daughter came home with a heavy heart, and her parents died, leaving her alone. The expression on her face could not conceal her sadness and sadness. Just arrived at the door, my brother who knew the news pointed at my nose and scolded me: My mother is my mother, too. Why didn't she inform me of her death and didn't even see her mother for the last time? After that, I lost my voice in pain, which made everyone present sympathize with his experience. At that time, someone accused the elder sister of being thoughtless, and it was wrong for her mother and her brother not to tell her.

My sister was sad, and everyone agreed that she was wrong. She angrily pointed at her brother and scolded, "Are you still human?"? Why didn't you come to see my mother when she missed you? Now that her old man is gone, you come for sympathy, but you don't recognize her. You don't know how many times she cried to see you, but you didn't see her and ignored her? " Now you know that you are sad and shed tears. Your tears are really cheap and make me sick.

We didn't know what had happened until we heard their brother and sister quarreling. It turned out that when Aunt Wang divorced her ex-husband, her son was awarded to her ex-husband, and her mother-in-law was not good to her at that time. She wanted to take her son away, but her mother-in-law disagreed. Her ex-husband is very weak. As long as she is angry with her mother-in-law, her ex-husband never speaks for her, which makes her feel very bitter. I decided to leave this house.

Aunt Wang, after the divorce, was introduced to her current husband. The couple loved each other and gave birth to a daughter, but her father died soon after she joined the work. My mother left her in a hurry before I got married. My only brother still doesn't associate with her like an enemy. Sometimes it's always sad for mom to talk about her brother.

She knew that her mother was always in pain and worried, and sometimes she cried when she saw her mother. She has a grudge against her brother, and she doesn't want to accept this unknown brother to share her mother's feelings.

When her mother died, she also wanted to inform her brother, but they never contacted each other and gave up the idea. At the beginning, it was the mother who missed her son and went to see him, but the grandmother of the child refused to let her see him when she was alive, and scolded her for not wanting him in front of her son. So I hate my mother in my brother's heart. No matter how many times my mother visited him on her way to and from school, he ignored her and avoided her approach.

After grandma died, his father told him the past. He also complained that his father had no opinion and even let his grandmother decide her own life. Only then did he know that he had wronged his mother. He wanted to ease the relationship and meet his mother, but years of estrangement made him have no courage to face his mother actively.

He heard the news of his mother's death from his colleagues. Although he is afraid to see his mother, he still cares about the little sister she gave birth to. He was also very sad when he first heard the news of his mother's death. He wanted his mother's ashes to accompany him, and his father buried them together a hundred years later. Only then did I find my mother's ashes, but I got that my mother had been buried with my sister's father.

Of course, my sister doesn't agree. My mom and dad are husband and wife, so they ignored this brother's unreasonable demands. Aunt Wang and her ex-husband's son heard that his mother had passed away. His sister not only didn't inform his brother, but also took the initiative to bury his mother's ashes with his father, which made him very angry. Seeing that his sister was so unreasonable, he quarreled with her.

Aunt Wang's son thought that his mother should be buried with his father after her death, because his father always had her in his heart and never got married after the divorce.

Aunt Wang's daughter said that she was unreasonable, because the two had already gone through the divorce procedure and had nothing to do with this half-father. Mother and father have marriage certificates, which do not belong to their ex-husbands legally and emotionally.

After everyone understood the reason for their quarrel, they all said that this brother should stop making trouble and let his mother rest in peace. But aunt Wang's son is so unreasonable. No matter from the family relationship or the ownership of the elderly, he believes that he also has the right to handle his mother's funeral.

As a result, Aunt Wang's son didn't even see his mother for the last time, and he was angry. He had ulterior motives when he scolded his sister for not informing him. He has to make her give a statement, or he will dig a grave and take out his fucking ashes. Aunt Wang's daughter can't stand this anger. Her uncles and brothers were very angry. They came forward and beat her half-brother. As a result, both sides refused to give in, and the brother was beaten at a loss, which also alarmed the people in the police station.

Looking at the netizen's narrative, I feel that this brother is a little confused. His parents divorced many years ago, which has nothing to do with it. No matter how he takes it for granted, he can't go against public order and good customs.

There is nothing wrong with my sister. Although my mother died without informing my brother, two people who have never contacted each other have no feelings at all, and it is understandable not to inform them. If my brother could let go of his old grievances and take the initiative to make up with his mother, this would not happen. Before his mother died, his only regret and worry was that he didn't want to know his mother's son.

If my son really wants to be filial to my mother, he should let her die. Besides, it is his own wishful thinking to want his mother and father buried together. An irresponsible husband, a man who doesn't know how to love his wife, believes that Aunt Wang will never meet him in the grave. So my brother's idea is too naive and unrealistic.

How to treat the second-married woman who will be buried with her after a hundred years? Leave a message for discussion.