What does Linyi lanshan district need to prepare for engagement?

Marriage proposal: When a child is 16 or 17 years old, parents will ask relatives and friends to ask the media to say "daughter-in-law" to their son and find "in-laws' home" for their daughter, which is called "marriage proposal" or "marriage proposal". When it comes to "being suitable for each other", you must not commit a crime, and you must not "marry" if you commit a "taboo".

Engagement: After both parties confirm their marriage, the man prepares a "bride price" (clothes, jewelry, cash) and gives it to the woman. And write down the age of men and women, parents' names and matchmaker's names on the "book", and each party holds one as the basis for marriage. Also known as "posting" or "excessive red".

Farewell Day is also called "Farewell Day": after the marriage is decided, the man will ask someone to check the wedding date according to the fate of both men and women, and write it in duplicate on red paper, including the application for a house, the direction and time of bed setting, the attributes of "marrying a female guest" and "seeing a female guest off", the "taboo" of relatives and friends of both sides, the time and place of marriage, the direction of getting on and off the sedan chair (car) and taking the account, etc.

Later, on the auspicious day of the zodiac, men and brothers used "baggage" or "carrying boxes" to divide the prepared gifts into four or six colors, four or six clothes, a few kilograms of pork, a pair of live chickens, a pair of fish, snacks ranging from 6 to 10 kg, a box of cosmetics, a pair of moxa, two onions and sorghum chopsticks. That is, "send the day."

Inviter: After the woman receives the "birthday invitation", her parents will verbally tell her relatives and friends that "the child's marriage is settled, please come then", and relatives and friends will prepare corresponding gifts. When the wedding day approaches, the woman's parents will formally send invitations to relatives and friends, stating that one day they will "make an appointment". On that day, all relatives and friends will prepare gifts and go together. The married daughter's uncle and mother have heavier gifts, and they have to buy a lamp basin for their niece.

Dressing: Two days before the wedding, the man should dress up. The gifts are relatively simple, that is, red cotton-padded jacket and trousers made for the man, and pork. Women put on hats, shoes and ready-made clothes, which is called "returning to the box".

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All the lights are on in the new house within three days of marriage, and you can't go home late for a month because you can't have an empty bed. Shortly after marriage, the bride will go back to her mother's house accompanied by her husband, commonly known as "crossing the moon"

"If you don't marry your aunt, you won't send her, and your sister will get sick." The so-called "aunt doesn't marry" means that aunt doesn't open her daughter-in-law. "My aunt didn't send me" and "My sister sent me sick", that is, it is improper to be an aunt and a sister.

The first day, 15th day, 2nd day of February, 8th day of April, 5th day of May, 6th day of June, 7th day of July, 15th day of August, Double Ninth Festival in September, 8th day, 18th day, 28th day and 24th day of twelfth month are taboo days, so you can't go back to your parents' home. Pay attention to also taboo "Yang Gongbi" day.

In the past, there was no divorce. The man doesn't want the woman to be called "divorce", and the woman runs away from home, which is called "runaway marriage".