Do southerners see the date when they get married?

Southerners will look at the date of marriage, and the auspicious day is agreed by both parties, but generally speaking, the man looks at it first, then sends the date to the woman, and then the woman determines it.

When getting married, it is usually the man who looks at the date. It is the man who decides the initial wedding date, but the main reference factor is the woman.