Brother-in-law's girlfriend said: "Do you want to give 200,000 bride price? My brother is waiting for money to propose. Should we break up?

I used to watch all kinds of romantic dramas, in which women's status was supreme. They don't have to do anything, just put forward various conditions and wait for those men to meet them.

Perhaps influenced by this, many women in reality are always on top and have no respect for men's feelings.

Even some women regard "conquering" men as their tools to "conquer" the world, and simply measure men's feelings for themselves with money, which is the reason for the "sky-high bride price".

Of course, whether it is official or private, when it comes to marriage, the woman also needs some bride price accordingly. This tradition has existed since ancient times, mostly for winning the lottery. It is a way for the man's family to express their gratitude to the woman's family. How much to give depends on the man's family conditions.

However, many women regard the bride price as a transaction, and how much they want depends on their own needs, regardless of whether the man's family can afford it. Even so, in those places where marriage is difficult, many families have to meet the woman's requirements in order to get a daughter-in-law for their sons, even if the whole family borrows money.

Therefore, many women use the bride price as a weapon, which is unfavorable. Of course, everything is not absolute. Some men will calmly weigh the pros and cons when they meet such a woman, and finally refuse decisively.

This is the case in Sun Jia. His girlfriend suddenly asked for an increase of 0.2 million/200 thousand bride price before marriage, and even said she would break off her marriage if she lost a word.

Sun Jia and his girlfriend Luo Ying are introduced. After getting along for a period of time, Sun Jia found that Luo Ying had many small problems, but some of them shrank back.

However, because it was difficult to get married in the local area, his parents advised him that no one could adapt to it without shortcomings. As long as it didn't affect his life, Sun Jia finally decided to continue to associate with Luo Ying.

02

Sun Jia's parents opened a small restaurant in the county. After years of hard work, their local life is ok. Plus, they only have one son, so they also gave everything for their son's marriage.

They bought Sun Jia a house in the city and promised to give them a car when they got married. The bride price is also 654.38+ 10,000 yuan according to the requirements of Luo Ying's family. As for other conditions of Luo Ying's family, Sun Jia's parents are trying their best to meet them. The reason for this is to get Sun Jia married as soon as possible.

Luo Ying's parents were also full of joy when they saw their daughter married to such a generous husband's family, and basically put forward all the conditions that could be mentioned.

Originally, according to this rhythm, the marriage of two people is "everything is ready", and only the auspicious day of the ecliptic is left to get married. Unexpectedly, things changed after Luo Ying's brother got married. They suddenly asked for an additional 200 thousand bride price

There is a simple reason. Luo Ying's younger brother and girlfriend want 200,000 yuan as a bride price, but Luo Ying's parents don't want to pay the money, so they want to pass it on to Sun Jia.

On the one hand, they think Sun Jia's family should be able to get the money, on the other hand, they think they are engaged. Luo Ying's younger brother is also Sun Jia's younger brother, and they gave 65,438+million bride price, and they don't care about this 200,000.

Sun Jia's mother said to her, "It's up to you whether your brother can get married or not. To be on the safe side, you will set a specific wedding date after you get 200,000 yuan, so that after marriage, his family will not give money, and people and money will be empty. "

Luo Ying always hurts her brother. Even if her mother doesn't say anything, she is going to ask Sun Jia to pay some money. Now that her mother has said it, she has no worries. She sent a message directly to Sun Jia to express her meaning, saying that the family was not considerate at that time, and the bride price was a little less. If she wants to get married, she has to take another 200 thousand, not a word less.

03

Sun Jia was in a bit of a quandary when he got the news.

At the beginning, in order to alleviate the pressure of his marriage, his parents paid the full amount of the house for him, plus the decoration and bride price requirements of Luo Ying's family, which almost spent all his parents' savings.

Besides, when parents promised to buy them a car when they got married, it cost at least 65,438+10,000 yuan, and now it suddenly cost more than 200,000 yuan. Even if you are embarrassed to speak, your parents may not be able to take it out.

So he discussed with Luo Ying and said, "Woody Sakura, you know my family's situation, and you have seen my parents' attitude towards you. I don't care why your family suddenly changed its mind and added a bride price. Now is not reluctant to give, but really can't take it out. Tell your parents that my family really doesn't have 200 thousand bride price. "

Luo Ying certainly won't agree. She said, "If you don't want to know, I have to tell you that the extra bride price is for my sister-in-law's house. If you don't pay, my brother's marriage will be ruined. How to discuss this? " If you don't pay, our wedding will have to be postponed. "

Sun Jia didn't like Luo Ying's selfish personality. At the beginning, his parents tried their best to persuade him to associate with Luo Ying, hoping that she would change slowly. I didn't expect her to be like this, and my heart suddenly cooled.

He thought, why do you have only one wife, but you have to give two bride price? Is this a wedding for my brother-in-law or for myself? I'm just his unmarried brother-in-law, not his parents. Why should I pay this money? This is not a small sum of money!

Thinking about thinking, his heart is unbalanced. He decided to treat it coldly, hoping that Luo Ying could calm down and think about it.

Unexpectedly, Luo Ying sent a message full of arrogance and disdain after a few days of contact. She said, "You can't understand that blood is thicker than water. I only have one brother. Who will help him if I don't help him at this time? " If you really don't want to help, it's not that nobody wants to help. Anyway, that's the same sentence. If you don't pay, the wedding will be postponed. "

After watching the news, Sun Jia felt a little annoyed. When does he need help from others? Since we know that blood is thicker than water, his brother is not related to himself. Why should he pay for it himself?

04

Sun Jia didn't reply to Luo Ying's message. He didn't want to argue with her because he knew he couldn't win.

During that time, Sun Jia always felt weak and uneasy. To tell the truth, although I didn't like Luo Ying very much at first, everyone has feelings. After spending so long together, he accepted her from the heart. I didn't expect to get married soon, but I made such a move.

He didn't understand that he had paid so much, whether mentally or materially, Luo Ying was not moved, but was easily taken as a bargaining chip by her.

He took Luo Ying as his family, so he was willing to pay so much, so he was willing to discuss with her after Luo Ying made a request, but what did Luo Ying do with him?

For such a big thing, there is no room for discussion, even if it is a slight threat. Luo Ying's performance made Sun Jia have serious doubts about his marriage.

After a bitter and fierce ideological struggle, he decided not to get married, because he was really not sure whether Luo Ying would tell him the truth that "blood is thicker than water" again after marriage.

The cold war between the two has been going on. Sun Jia decided that it is better to have a long pain than a short one, and it is better to end the marriage as soon as possible instead of a painful one.

05

Coincidentally, during this period, Sun Jia met another girl by chance, and they got along for some time. It was a short encounter, and the wedding date was soon agreed.

In this way, Sun didn't want the bride price originally given to Luo Ying's family, so he got married with the present one. When I got married, I not only gave 30 thousand bride price, but also married a car.

The happy life after marriage almost forgot that he had not finished with Luo.

However, shortly after the marriage, Luo Ying called him, and her tone was still overbearing: "Sun Jia, are you going to get married or not? Are you ready for the 200,000 bride price? My brother is waiting for money to propose. I heard that I might get a divorce. Many people have proposed recently. If you can't get the bride price, don't delay my marriage. "

Sun Jia said with a smile, "I'm sorry, I still want to get married, but not with you, and I'm already married, so this shouldn't keep you from getting married. As for the past economic exchanges between our two families, my parents handled them and asked them to settle them. I won't mention it again. "

I wanted to scare Sun Jia and urge him to take money, but I didn't expect to get the last result she wanted. Luo Ying obviously collapsed. First, she was silent for a while, then she began to break down and cry. Tell Sun Jia not to scare her. She doesn't want a bride price.

Sun Jia said softly, "I'm sorry, we are not the same kind of people. It is too late. You should take care of yourself. "

I remember reading a sentence, "all people's troubles come from the mismatch between their own desires and strength." Therefore, if you want to live a happy life, you must remember to match your strength and desire, but unfortunately many people don't understand.

The power of love is really great, and it can defeat many things, but the premise is that your love must be true love without selfish desires. When a woman uses love as a weapon and tries to intimidate a man into submission, she is doomed to be a failure in marriage.

In marriage, women must put themselves on an equal footing with men and must not turn marriage into an unrealistic transaction of superiority. Because once marriage becomes a transaction, women become commodities, and all commodities are at risk of devaluation.