Qian Zhongshu and Jiang Yang: I never thought about getting married before I met her.

Many years ago, Jiang Yang read the British biographer's summary of the ideal marriage: "I never thought about getting married before I met her;" I have been married to her for decades, and I have never regretted marrying her, and I have never thought about marrying another woman. "

Jiang Yangnian listened to Qian Zhongshu, and Qian Zhongshu immediately responded: "I am just like him."

Jiang Yang replied, "Me too."

Imagine what a beautiful picture this is. It is so beautiful that people have no reason not to be moved by it, and people have to envy it. From acquaintance, acquaintance and love to being together, it is as quiet and beautiful as poetry. Even after the dark days of the Cultural Revolution, they never felt a trace of bitterness. As long as we are together, there is only sweetness. Their love amazes time and softens the years.

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Acquaintance: If life is like the first time,

There is a saying in the Bible: "Sometimes, the fate between people is enough. Because he was a lover in a previous life. "

The acquaintance between Jiang Yang and Qian Zhongshu perfectly explained this sentence.

1932, Jiang Yang met Qian Zhongshu in front of Gu Yue Hall in Tsinghua University. It happened that they had the same hobby and pursuit in literature, which made them heartache and fell in love at first sight.

When I first met Qian Zhongshu, I eagerly clarified: "It is rumored that I am engaged. That's not true. Please don't believe it. "

Jiang Yang also said nervously: "It is rumored that there are as many as 72 boys pursuing me, and some people say that Fei Xiaotong is my boyfriend. This is not true. "

Love at first sight is a lifetime, and this epic romance in the literary world begins.

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Love: Love doesn't need to be so vigorous, but what I want more is you by my side.

Bing Xin said, "They are the happiest couple among China writers."

Hu Heqing once praised: "Qian Zhongshu and Jiang Yang are a pair of famous swords in contemporary literature. Qian Zhongshu, like a heroic sword, is often heard like a box, and his words are shocking; Jiang Yang is like a female sword with green light and hidden treasure. "

1935 On July 3rd, Qian Zhongshu and Jiang Yang got married in yangfu, Suzhou Temple Street.

Fortress Besieged wrote: "The groom who wore a black dress and married a hard white-collar worker soaked in sweat was none other than Zhong Shu himself. Because our wedding day is the hottest day of the year. In our wedding photos, newlyweds, bridesmaids, girls with flower baskets and boys with gauze are all like pickpockets who have just been caught by the police. "

Soon after they got married, they went abroad to study together. Whether in Oxford or Paris, they are full of sweet and happy memories everywhere.

One morning, while Jiang Yang was still sleeping, Qian Zhongshu was busy in the kitchen.

On weekdays, he cooks eggs, bakes bread, heats milk and makes English black tea for his wife, and takes them to bed quietly. Jiang Yang said, "This is the most delicious breakfast I have ever had."

Later, Qian Zhongshu continued the habit of making breakfast for decades, heating milk, boiling eggs and baking bread all his life.

After reading, Jiang Yang and Qian Zhongshu also held a reading contest, reading more than anyone else. Usually two people watch about the same number of albums.

On one occasion, Qian Zhongshu and Jiang Yang exchanged their reading experience: "When you read a book for the second time, you will always find many omissions when you read it for the first time. The most wonderful sentence will be found after reading it several times. "

Jiang Yang disagreed and said, "This is your way of reading. I am more casual. I can read good books several times and browse books that I am not interested in. " Reading, writing and laughing, their marriage life is full of leisure and envy of others.

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Know each other: Only by understanding and tolerating each other can we grow better in marriage.

Fortress Besieged begins like this: "People in the city want to escape, while people outside the city want to rush in. This is mostly the wish of life, whether it is for marriage or career. "

However, Jiang Yang and Qian Zhongshu resisted the trivial marriage of daily necessities, which perfectly explained the best appearance of marriage. They know each other, they will tolerate each other and make a beautiful love story as beautiful as a poem.

Jiang Yang said, "My greatest contribution is to keep Qian Zhongshu naughty and arrogant. This is the most precious place of Qian Zhongshu. He is naughty and naive, and with his extraordinary wisdom, he has become a knowledgeable and interesting Qian Zhongshu in the eyes of everyone. "

A gifted scholar who knows everything is surprisingly clumsy in life. He can't tie a bow and can't tell his left foot from his right foot. He can only grasp chopsticks with one hand like a child, and has no natural and unrestrained energy when studying.

Jiang Yang was originally a young lady who didn't touch spring water. After marrying Qian Zhongshu, she willingly became the housekeeper and "big momma" of a small family.

Qian Zhongshu knows nothing about life affairs, so she takes care of all the work at home; Qian Zhongshu always gets into trouble, so she solves everything for him.

When Jiang Yang was imprisoned in Oxford, Qian Zhongshu was in trouble at home from time to time. The desk lamp is broken, "it doesn't matter"; Ink dyed the tablecloth, "never mind"; Furuncle of cheekbone, "Never mind".

Jiang Yang replied lightly: "It doesn't matter, I'll do it."

Asked why, she replied, "Why? Because of love, out of love for her husband. I love my husband more than myself. I understand the value of Qian Zhongshu, and I am willing to sacrifice myself for the success of his research and writing career and the full play of his potential and creativity. This love is not blind, but understanding. The deeper you know, the better your feelings. Only by understanding each other can we consciously support each other. "

Qian's mother sighed at the daughter-in-law. "The pen is shaking, the spatula is grasping, and all the rough work is done at home. It's really stupid to go to the hall, go to the kitchen, go to the water, jump to the water. "

1947, Fortress Besieged came out.

Qian Zhongshu said in an interview: "My wife has done a lot for me in the past two years, making me concentrate on writing and helping me stop a lot of outside interference. This book should belong to her. She is the most virtuous wife and the most talented woman in my eyes. "

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Cherish each other: just stay together and do what you can.

When his daughter Ayuan was born, Qian Zhongshu gave a "welcome speech": "This is my daughter, and I like it." Jiang Yang said that her daughter was "the only masterpiece in her life".

After returning to China, this family of three has been living without a fixed address. 1In August, 962, the family moved into a newly-built dormitory in Ganmian Hutong, with four rooms and a balcony. They bought furniture and finally got a comfortable home.

At that time, Qian Zhongshu often took his wife and daughter to restaurants for dinner. Once, while waiting for the food to be served, Qian Zhongshu and A Yuan have been observing the behavior of diners at other tables, as fascinated as watching a play.

Jiang Yang asked strangely, "What are you doing?" A Yuan said, "It's interesting to observe life. You see that two people at that table are husband and wife, quarreling, and that table is entertaining relatives ... "Jiang Yang understood that father and daughter were watching the play. By the time the meal was over, some plays had ended and some were on.

When these three people are together, there is always endless interest, and the plain life is full of warmth.

This family of three is very simple, very simple and warm. We just want to be together and do what we can. ...

Time goes by quietly, no matter how beautiful the story is, there will always be a curtain call. Jiang Yang wrote in The Three of Us: "1In the early spring of 997, A Yuan died. 1at the end of 998, Zhong Shu passed away. The three of us were separated. Now, I am the only one left. "

Qian Zhongshu once summed up his love with Jiang Yang in one sentence: "Three incompatible unique combinations: wife, lover and friend."

"It begins with love at first sight, falls in love and ends in love years", which is a true portrayal of the love between Jiang Yang and Qian Zhongshu. I hope that I can look back in years and grow old. Their love is the most beautiful appearance of love: it is you who fell in love at first sight, and it is you all your life.