The engagement custom in Feicheng

In the old society, men and women married according to their parents' orders and matchmakers' words. Neither side has the right to choose, regardless of age, ugliness, cleverness and stupidity. There are also people who buy and sell marriages. Most women in this kind of marriage are poor, and men promise each other with money. A woman must marry to the end, and her husband can't remarry when he dies young. After the death of his wife, a man can continue to marry a wife, called a "mistress", or a concubine. Feudal marriage etiquette is complicated and there are many stereotypes, mainly including:

Change the sticker Men and women are generally fifteen or sixteen years old. After the matchmaker settled the matter, the two agreed matchmakers took the red sticker of "respecting promises" to the woman's home and returned the red sticker of "obeying Taiwan Province's orders". Marriage between men and women, in the old society, women are very expensive, and there is a saying that "women are mistresses with gold bricks in their hands".

Change Cambodia. After the posting is changed, on an auspicious day, the matchmaker will bring a 60% discount red Cambodia with the man's name, date of birth and so on. There is also an invitation with a dowry and a gift, which is sent to the woman's house in exchange for the promised Khmer Rouge and marriage.

Get married. Before marriage, it is called marriage. With the consent of both parents, the matchmaker chose a good day. As the wedding approached, the man gave the woman a "costume". The night before the wedding, the woman arranged the dowry, and the girl "twisted her face" before getting on the sedan chair, dressed up, put on a red coat and put on a bun. Usually around the early morning, the bride "grabs the blessing" (that is, grabs the bran on the plate to make money), then carries a red umbrella and gets on the sedan chair with a red carpet. Poor families often use chairs to carry the bride to the sedan chair. In addition to the dowry, the woman also needs 1 ~ 3 men and women to send female guests, paying attention to "double collection". Before and after the sedan chair, there are several lanterns. On the way, I met the bridge in the temple and the bride threw money. The man decorated the new house in advance, put a red letter "Hi" on the wall of the welcome door and put up a new couplet at the door. The night before the wedding, my uncle made the bed for the couple, and the quilt was open to the bride, which meant that the bride was ready to eat when she entered the door, and then rolled on the bed. Ai and garlic are hung on the wall of the new house, which means that the young couple love each other and will count their lives. Putting dates, chestnuts and peanuts in the pillow means "initial setting" and "flowering". The sedan chair arrived at the entrance of the man's village, and the guests were waiting with lanterns. When the sedan chair arrives at the door of the man's house, the bride can only get off the sedan chair at the specified time, commonly known as "grinding her temper". When the bride gets off the sedan chair, she first worships heaven and earth, then her parents and husband worship each other and then enter the bridal chamber. The groom takes off the blush for the bride, and the bride scatters happy cigarettes, candy and longevity cookies, and the bride drinks "rest assured noodles". In the evening, the new couple will have a heart-to-heart drink, and the younger generation will have a bridal chamber. The bride will settle for 3 days. Within 3 days, relatives and friends will send "small rice" (pasta, peanuts, candy, etc. On the third day, the bride

Accompanied by my sister-in-law, I kowtowed to every family in the clan to recognize my relatives. The old man paid for the "meeting ceremony". On the fourth day, the bride and groom "go home" with four kinds of sacrifices, such as chicken, fish and meat, which is also called "recognizing relatives". At this point, all the wedding etiquette has come to an end.

In the old society, there were some feudal marriage customs in the county, such as child bride, early marriage, changing relatives, concubinage and ghost marriage.

After the founding of People's Republic of China (PRC), the feudal marriage system was abolished, the marriage law was implemented, and marriage autonomy was implemented, ending the way of exchanging stickers for Cambodia. In the 1950s and 1970s, most marriages in rural areas were arranged by introducers, and men and women agreed to meet and date. After that, I learned about each other's moral quality, physical condition and family status. If they like each other, they will choose a date to get engaged. Here, free love has not yet formed an atmosphere, and even if there is love between men and women, others must be entrusted as a medium. In the 1980s, it was not uncommon for people to introduce marriages. Free love has become a trend, and the new marriage only takes two forms: engagement and marriage.

Engaged. On auspicious days, the man holds a banquet for the woman's family, and according to the engagement, or the man gives the woman clothes and cash. Some also give cash to women in the name of exchanging handkerchiefs between men and women.

Get married. In the 1950s, the bride was usually sent to her husband's house by carriage or train. After the 1960s, many people used bicycles instead. In the 1980s, some brides were greeted by the Youth League branch, and some were married by tourists. In recent years, some units have held group weddings for young people. This new form of marriage is thrifty and grand, and it is very popular with the masses.

A man's marriage is a happy event in his life. Neighbors, relatives and friends have always had the habit of congratulating each other, giving money or hanging up their marriage accounts before the wedding. General stakeholders gather molecules, which is called "hanging public accounts". Relatives and friends hang up their accounts and remit money to them, which is called "Daoxi". In the 1980 s, calligraphy and painting, ritual mirrors or daily necessities were used to express congratulations. For the gift giver, setting the time for the banquet is called "drinking the wedding banquet". Thanks to those who congratulate each other with cigarettes and candy. Giving money or gifts to women is called "adding boxes". This custom is becoming more and more popular.