What are the customs in Dangshan beginning of autumn?

Delivery: A few days before a pregnant woman gives birth, her family prepares brown sugar and eggs and sends them to her husband's family, which is called "delivery". After that, pregnant women generally don't go back to their parents' home, fearing that the baby will be born in their parents' home and make taboos. Good news: Three days after the first baby was born, his father prepared red eggs (boiled eggs dyed red) and went to his parents' house to report the good news, informing him of the time to send porridge and rice.

Send porridge and rice: 9 days for girls and 0/2 days for boys after the birth of the first baby. My grandmother prepares brown sugar, eggs, wheat (or millet), baby clothes and toys to celebrate. On the same day, other relatives and friends also prepared gifts to congratulate the baby, and the baby's parents hosted a banquet, which was called sending porridge and rice. When guests come back, they will send red eggs and steamed buns to show their gratitude. Grandma usually stays with her grandson for a few days. If she is in a hurry, she should leave a dress.

Receive the full moon: when the baby is full moon, grandma will receive her grandson for several days. Put some black ink on the baby's face when he goes, and press some white powder when he brings it here. As the saying goes, "the longer the baby, the richer the baby." Grandma sent another chicken and put a red cloth around its neck. This chicken can only be raised, not slaughtered.

Before the founding of People's Republic of China (PRC), men and women got married according to their parents' orders and matchmakers' words.

Matchmaker: Also called "proposal". The matchmaker weighed the character, personality, family and social status of both men and women, and thought that the two families were suitable and had the possibility of getting married, that is, they went to introduce them. When the two families got to know each other and had no problem, the matchmaker told them that their parents were willing to get along for a hundred years.

Too small: after both men and women agree to get married, the man's parents will write on red paper, "Don't be stubborn, do whatever you want, six gifts are unprepared, and the inch is red first, so-and-so two families are willing to tie the knot." Iceman XXX Give the book to the matchmaker and present it to the woman's parents. If the woman has no objection, she will reply to the above consent, which is the marriage of the two families.

Great Cambodia: After the small Cambodia, the man prepared jewelry, clothes, red dates, chestnuts and so on. The matchmaker gave them to the woman on an auspicious day. After the woman's home is hired, she will send a birthday card written in red paper to the matchmaker, who will send it to the man's home. A man proposes to a fortune teller, and if he doesn't want to marry him on his birthday, he is engaged.

Marriage: After the engagement, the man chooses an auspicious day, prepares a sedan chair, suona and a three-eye gun, and goes to the woman's house to get married. A man carried a rooster to his wife's house in his sedan chair, but she didn't stay. He also sent a hen as a gift to the two families for good luck. The bride is dressed neatly, with pigtails, a red scarf on her head and a red sedan chair (that is, red clothes). Wearing red embroidered shoes, I was carried into the sedan chair by my mother's brother. Out of the village, three shots were fired, suona was played in front of the sedan chair, and after marrying Lian, guns were fired and music was played in every village, bridge and temple along the way. In the east of the county seat, Brother Xing Niang's family sent the teapot and teacups to the man's village head and came back soon. In the west of the county, unmarried sisters will send sedan chairs to the man's house to take care of the bride, and the bride and groom will come back after visiting the bride.

The sedan chair landed in front of the man. Amid the suona and gunfire, the man and the woman presented the bride with a hip flask wrapped in red cloth (commonly known as a bride price shell pot). The other two girls, who belong to a different genus from the bride, helped the bride out of the sedan chair and walked slowly to the reed mat laid in front of the sedan chair. When she reached the second reed mat, she sprinkled the first reed mat on the bride's head, and so on until a table was provided in the yard. During this period, one person on each side of the bride sprinkled red dates, peanuts, Gui Huayuan, chestnuts, husband's skin and other things on the bride's head. This is called scattered warfare, which indicates that your son is born early and prosperous. Candles are lit on the table, and there is a bucket full of sorghum. Put a mirror in the bucket and insert a pole. The bride walks to the altar and worships heaven and earth with the groom. After that, the groom picked up the bucket on the table, led the bride into the bridal chamber, put the bucket on the bed, picked up the blush on the bride's head with a pole, and the husband and wife had a heart-to-heart drink. At this time, people make trouble in the new house, forcing the bride and groom to kiss and bite apples. After a short rest, the bride changes her dress and follows the groom to visit relatives and friends in front of the altar in the courtyard. Visit your in-laws first, and then visit them in turn according to the distance between relatives. People who ask their heads should kowtow. At night, when the bride and groom enter the bridal chamber, they need someone to listen to it. If no one listens, the mother-in-law or sister-in-law will put a broom in front of the window of the new house to show good luck. The lights in the bridal chamber will not be turned off all night. This is called "Long Life Lamp".

On the third day of their wedding, the bride paid homage to her ancestral grave. Generally, on the sixth day after marriage, the bride is picked up by her family and returned the same day. Pick it up on the ninth day and send it back in six days, commonly known as "pick up nine and stay six, and it will not be bitter (bitter) for a lifetime". On the eighteenth day, my family will come to pick me up and stay for eighteen days. The bride will make shoes and pot covers at home at her mother's house and take them back to her husband's house.

After the founding of People's Republic of China (PRC), the state promulgated the Marriage Law, abolished the arranged marriage system, and practiced freedom of love and marital autonomy. It is rare for young men and women in rural areas to get married freely. Most of them were introduced by references. Men and women meet first, and then after a period of time to understand the situation, both sides have no opinions, so they go to government agencies for marriage registration and get a marriage certificate. Then choose the wedding date, prepare meals, entertain relatives and friends, and hold a wedding. In the past, the old customs of spending the New Year, sitting in a sedan chair, wearing a red hood, giving away pots and shells, and worshiping the gods of heaven and earth have all been abolished. At the end of 1970s, when men and women got married, there were gifts for the woman to meet and give a bride price, and the amount was increasing day by day, which became a public hazard and attracted the attention of the government and relevant units. Through publicity and education, this trend has been curbed.

In the past, only a few wealthy families celebrated their birthdays. Every birthday, friends and relatives prepare gifts to celebrate, and the host gives a big banquet. Due to limited economic conditions, few people celebrate their birthdays. Since the founding of People's Republic of China (PRC), people's lives have been improving, and more and more people celebrate their birthdays, mostly children and the elderly. Children celebrate their birthdays by lighting candles and eating cakes. Friends and relatives will send toys and clothes to congratulate them. Most elderly people celebrate their 66th, 73rd and 77th birthdays. On the 66th birthday, the married children and relatives prepared 66 steamed buns, 66 snacks and 6 pounds of 6 pieces of meat to celebrate the birthday. As the saying goes, "66, there is a piece of meat"; Seventy-three years old, you must have carp in your birthday present. As the saying goes, "Seventy-three, eat a carp and run away"; On your 77th birthday, a chicken is indispensable in your birthday present. As the saying goes, "Seventy-seven, eat a chicken".

On the first birthday of a young woman after marriage, her parents prepared gifts and invited relatives to congratulate her daughter. It's called being born.

In the past, funeral ceremonies in this county were complicated and superstitious. Before the old man died, most of them moved the bed to the front of the main house and put on the shroud. Burning paper money at the end of life is called "burning paper backwards" and "becoming one" when the body enters the coffin. An oil lamp is usually placed in front of the coffin, which is called "soul lamp"; An earthen basin, called "Laopen", is used to burn paper money when relatives and friends mourn; A small earthenware jar, the jar mouth is covered with bread, and a pair of chopsticks are inserted in the middle of the cake, which is called "Yin-Yang jar". In addition, there are some willow branches wrapped with white paper spikes, which are 2 feet long and are called "funeral sticks" for children and grandchildren to use when they pay homage to the dead and worship new friends. Set up a mourning shed in front of the funeral home, with an altar in the middle and offerings on it, and boys and girls tied with paper on both sides of the mourning shed. Put a piece of white paper on the door and insert a white paper banner next to the door to show it to the neighbors.

The son, daughter-in-law, daughter and grandson of the deceased were all called "dutiful sons", and the son was called "dutiful sons", wearing a white hat, a gown, a hemp rope and white shoes. Daughter-in-law and daughter are wearing white scarves, white gowns, white cloth with trouser legs and white shoes on their heads. The rest of the clan men wear white hats and shoes, and women wear white scarves and shoes. The dutiful son waits on both sides of the coffin day and night, with men left and women right, which is called "wake". When relatives and friends mourn, the dutiful son bows down, the male dutiful son worships the male guest, and the female dutiful son worships the female guest and cries with him. The families of the victims gave white hats to male guests, white towels to female guests and white cloth belts to son-in-law, granddaughter, son-in-law and nephew. This is called "breaking filial piety".

On the third day after death, "send travelling expenses" and "sit at the coffin mouth". In the evening, the family members prepared incense sticks and paper money, wrapped a flat food according to the age of the deceased, cooked soup and put it in a bucket, and went to the crossroads outside the village to pay homage. This is called "sending travelling expenses". Suona was sent in front, and two people behind were carrying buckets full of flat food, and they fished out flat food and soup one by one with spoons along the way, followed by dutiful sons and others. Light incense sticks and paper money at the crossroads, say goodbye and choose another way to return. After a short rest, sit down (seal the coffin with nails). Relatives and friends came to bid farewell to the body. If the deceased is a woman, her mother's family must invite her and get their consent before giving her a seat. Otherwise, her mother's family often wastes the victim's money and even obstructs the funeral.

After the death of the elderly, the mourning period is longer, generally not less than 7 days. Some people put off the funeral until more than a month later. If the spouse of the deceased has passed away, on the day before the funeral, the family will prepare paper money to visit the deceased at the grave, commonly known as "asking the spirit." On the day of the funeral, relatives and friends prepared gifts to pay homage. Daughters, granddaughters, nephews, nieces and other relatives usually prepare a reed mat and a mortgage gift in addition to the offerings. The memorial ceremony was held in the order of kinship, and the dutiful son bowed down with a funeral stick in turn, and was greeted with guns, commonly known as "taking confessions". After the sacrifice, the host entertained the guests. After the feast, people will mourn with peace of mind. First, the coffin was carried to the gate to stop, and then relatives, friends and neighbors paid homage. This is called "Lu Dian". After the sacrifice, the coffin was carried to the cemetery. As soon as the coffin was lifted, the dutiful son smashed the old basin, which is called "throwing away the old basin" and symbolizes the right of inheritance. The suona team played in front, and the eldest son and daughter followed the dutiful son with white banners. Then, everyone carried the coffin and followed the dutiful son. The female dutiful son walked behind the coffin. When the coffin arrived at the cemetery, relatives and friends paid homage again. Then put the coffin into the grave, commonly known as "coffin buried." Master Yin and Yang adjusted the direction, put the jar of Yin and Yang and the funeral stick in front of the coffin, covered the coffin mat, sealed the soil to build a grave, and inserted white banners.

On the third day after the funeral, the immediate family members prepared paper money to pay homage to the grave and rebuild it, which was called "Garden Grave". After that, the grave was swept to pay homage on schedule, with 7 days as the first phase (counting from the date of funeral) and burning until the fifth phase, commonly known as "burning five-phase paper".

After the founding of People's Republic of China (PRC), funeral procedures and feudal superstitious etiquette gradually decreased, paper cattle, horses, boys and girls and other funeral supplies were basically abolished, and mourning clothes were gradually replaced by black gauze. There are more and more flowers among cadres and workers and memorial services. 1May, 977, Dangshan Crematorium was completed, and the wind of cremation gradually rose.

No matter whether the deceased is married or not, as long as the elders are still alive, the mourning period will not be delayed. Usually only three days, and some are buried on the same day after death. Funeral equipment is also simple.