Why do most Chaoshan people choose to get married at night?

Why do most Chaoshan people choose to get married at night? This is related to the ancient customs in China.

Regarding the word "marriage", Shuo Wen Jie Zi said: "Marriage is also a woman's marriage. Ceremony, marry a woman to faint. " When you are dizzy, it means that the sun has set, that is, the evening when night falls.

It is unconscious to marry a woman, which originated from matriarchal clan society. Humans practice group marriage, and women generally live in their own homes to maintain the integrity of matriarchal system.

With the development of society, especially the development of productive forces, the status of men is constantly improving. After the formation of patriarchy, in order to ensure the continuation of paternal line, men must change the situation of male marriage and female marriage, and require women to leave their husbands' lives. This new trend is of course resisted by women. Men can only be solved by force, so there is a custom of robbing marriage. Of course, in order to escape, we must do it at dark.

After the custom of robbing marriage was formed, the meanings of "wife" and "marriage" became the witness of this kind of marriage.

Now, some ethnic minorities, such as Yao, Yi, Miao and Hani, etc. Some people choose to marry the bride before dawn or after dark, and some even pretend to run on their backs, leaving traces of the ancient custom of robbing relatives.

According to research, Chaoshan was inhabited by humans at least 5000 years ago. The ancestors of Chaoshan people belong to the Great Min Yue nationality. Since the Qin and Han Dynasties, descendants of the Han nationality in the Central Plains moved south to Chaoshan. The Han people who entered the tide lived in harmony with the aborigines for a long time and gradually merged. Among the people living in Chaoshan, there are mainly Chaoshan people belonging to the Han nationality and a small number of Hakkas from the south, who are also descendants of the Han nationality. Therefore, it is not surprising to keep the habit of "marrying a woman", which of course also shows that Chaoshan culture has been relatively completely protected and passed down.

Statistics show that in 20 18, the divorce rate in Chaoshan was 0.65%, which was one of the lowest in China. One of the reasons is related to the traditional customs in Chaoshan, such as keeping the customs of not marrying outside, not marrying outside, being a man outside and being a woman inside, in order to avoid the differences in life and culture, thus creating a harmonious marriage.

As a married chaozhou people, I would like to briefly talk about my personal views on this issue.

Why do you choose to get married at night? First of all, my humble opinion is related to local customs. Hipsters call men hunting in Hong Kong and women Zi Niang. It is so called because in the past, men were responsible for waxing (catching food) and women were responsible for cooking. Waxing and predation are generally carried out during the day, so-called sunrise and sunset rest. Night is a leisurely time, and everyone has free time, which is suitable for attending banquets. It is not difficult to understand with a modern way of thinking.

The groom just got married in the morning and went out to work overtime in the afternoon. Or go out to work the night shift on the wedding night, the bride will definitely say that this is appropriate? This night shift must be on duty in the bridal chamber.

Secondly, many chaozhou people would say it is a matter of timing. Of course, this is also the reason, and the wedding ceremony is also very particular.

When the groom goes to pick up the bride, he must cover her head with a red umbrella, which means good deeds. Rain or shine during the day, it is better to have light at night. As far as shading is concerned, night is still suitable.

Also, in the past, the bride could not stop at her husband's house in a sedan chair. It is considered unlucky to stop it. There is a large flow of people during the day, so it is also excellent to choose to get married at night just in case.

Of course, not everyone gets married at night, but in some cases, they get married during the day. But there is a special case, which must be carried out on a windy night. Chaozhou people is commonly known as "Thief's Day". As the name implies, it is famous for "sneaking around" marriage. This reason is because an elder in the husband's family will die in the west, and before the elder dies, the wish of "family reunion" will be fulfilled, so it needs to be held at night.

In the above aspects, my humble opinion is some reasons why Chaoshan area chooses to get married at night. If you have different opinions, please leave a message for discussion.

Respond to the national policy of late marriage and late childbearing.

Haha, of course it's a joke. Getting married at night in Chaoshan comes from local folk customs. In fact, there are many areas in Guangdong.

This is related to the unique topography of Guangdong, where hills and terraces are the main areas and some coastal areas are plains. That is to say, there are many mountains.

In ancient times, it was not so convenient now. Most people have to walk on their legs when visiting relatives. For ordinary people, it is unrealistic to ride horses and mules to catch the mountain road at the corner in TV dramas. Because it used to be used as a labor force at home, it was generally unwilling to be used in other places except for work.

Even if the conditions are so good now, many mountain tourist attractions will have horseback riding or mule riding services, mostly provided by local villagers. Usually, after sending guests riding up the mountain, they take them home. I once asked them curiously, isn't it more comfortable to ride by yourself? They only answered me three words: "I can't stand it." Perhaps this kind of mood can only be understood by ordinary people who have suffered.

When I was in Yunnan-Guizhou Plateau, I used to hear from the local old people that relatives had something to go. Usually they left half a month in advance. Sometimes they were unlucky and might die in bad weather at the pass at night.

In ancient times, unlike us now, there were hotels everywhere. As long as accommodation is arranged, many people have to go back that day. Another reason is that they dare not stay too long, because there is work to do in the field. Even in Guangdong, it is mainly low mountains, and guests can't arrive until evening when they leave in the morning. Not only at night, but also at night. Therefore, getting married at night in Guangdong is mainly a topographical factor.

In fact, it turns out that the wedding here is also held at night, otherwise how could it be sent to the bridal chamber? But later, because of the working hours, it was slowly changed to Saturday or Sunday noon.

Our marriage in Chaoshan area strictly abides by the ancient system, and the bridesmaid must spend the night at the groom's house to protect the bride on behalf of her family and accompany her through the important journey of life growth. According to the regulations, after the husband's family lives normally, the bridesmaids will return to their parents' homes according to the situation. Chaoshan people said, "No one lives, some people die." In a normal marriage, perhaps two families move less. Once a woman's life is over. The bride's family is not allowed to cover the coffin in case of unqualified inspection, in case the woman has been injured and died. This rule is very strict and traditional.

Why do most Chaoshan people choose to get married at night? Personally, I think this is related to the ancient traditional culture of China. Chaoshan people call marriage marriage, and Chaoshan people can say that there are still many courtesies in marriage. When will the wedding be held? When do you visit the shrine? When will you enter the bridal chamber? These things can't be sloppy at all. Everyone has to follow a procedure, so many people choose to get married at night. Otherwise, how can it be called "Wedding Night"? Ancient people generally chose to get married at night. According to the historical data "Biography of White Tiger", "Married people are called salutes at dusk, so they are married". In other words, holding a wedding at night is a long-standing wedding custom of the Chinese nation. Generally speaking, most people are "picking up relatives in the morning and paying homage at night". However, Chaoshan people usually get married around dusk (in ancient times, they got married by sedan chair, but in modern times, they got married by sedan chair and other modern means of transportation). And are the two sides in the same city? Marriage in different regions has different greetings, because "marriage twilight" is homophonic. It confirms the evidence that ancient people got married at night, and also shows that women changed their surnames after getting married at dusk. Getting married at night is closer to the meaning of the wedding night, especially in the Qing Dynasty. Before the wedding night, men need to spend some time toasting their guests and accepting gifts from the bride. So evening is the best time. It is not good to be late or leave early. However, due to some changes in modern people's concepts, some people have simplified the complexity. Marriage is organized by the unit or by tourism, so the form of marriage has also changed. There are still some people whose marriage forms are westernized, so they are not so traditional, and they also greet their families early in the morning. Others avoid some taboos and have weddings at night (Chaoshan, not to mention the differences in customs and etiquette between cities and villages in other areas). In Chaoshan area, some people worship God, some people eat religion, and some people have no faith ... These also make the forms of marriage different.

My personal opinion is that "wedding night" is the main reason why "marriage" and "ambiguity" are linked together. Most Chaoshan people have strong traditional ideas and are superstitious and conservative, so getting married at night is mainly related to China traditional culture and gossip. However, the concept of modern people is very different from that of ancient farming society, especially the residents living in cities (many ancient customs are based on farming culture, which is difficult to be the same in cities). Therefore, some progressive families living in cities have new ideas and new customs, which leads to different marriage concepts and diversified marriage forms (with the increase of modern people's mobility, long-distance love increases). Then there is the change of marriage form). In short, Chaoshan people will choose auspicious day to get married, wishing the couple a happy marriage and a long life together.

There is a saying in Chaoshan that it is most important for men to look at the birth of the earth and women to look at the birth of the wedding. When you get married, you must choose a date that is good for both men and women. What is more important is that the yin and yang do not collide, and the children's food money is in place, especially the woman's birthday. As for why we get married at night, we should choose a good date and time, from midnight to noon in the morning, that is, when Wang Yang was alive, and choose the right time with the horoscope of both sides, so that the woman can get married, and there will be no husband who chooses a day to go to Shanghai after noon. This is a local custom and a tradition of choosing a day in China!

This is related to local customs. I am from Chaoshan. Most people get married at night, usually at midnight (23: 00-0 100).

Please give the bride a friendly welcome. In fact, when you are employed, you have decided to wait for that day. The whole process of the wedding day is also very complicated. First of all, you have to calculate the time, usually around the morning, and then go through a series of complicated procedures. The most important procedure is to divide the meal, eat half a bowl of rice, make the bed, pick up the bride, eat five bowls of bread, consummate the house and offer sweet tea, which is the most complicated thing.

Usually pick up the bride at around 1 1: 30 in the evening, and choose the first hour and noon the next day for the wedding reception. That's what we do there!