Marry a 35-year-old girl, less than 10 days after marriage, regret it. What should I do?

I went to see a relative once, which was introduced by my mother and classmates. She said that she has a good job and a good personality, but that girl is older than me. She is 35 years old. This is six years older than me.

As a man, I have a little conflict with older women, but my mother keeps saying that "women are mistresses, holding gold bricks". Three years old is almost the same as six years old, as long as people are good.

Finally, I didn't agree. After all, she is six years older than me and three years older than my second sister, which is unacceptable to me.

Then I also thought, if this girl is fine, why isn't she married?

Later, I met my aunt who introduced me. She told me about her intentionally or unintentionally, saying that she was a foreigner and had no friends in the city where she was admitted. She lived alone in the dormitory building of the unit, and she was introverted, so she was delayed.

Last time I turned her down, I was very sorry for my aunt, so I wanted to stop adding WeChat, but my aunt said she didn't play WeChat and she got married. If she wants to see her, she might as well make a phone call to meet and have a chat.

Hearing this, everyone basically understood why she stayed.

To tell the truth, there are many reasons, not all her factors, nor how bad she is. It's just that when she was young, she was a little older, introverted, and had less contact with people. After becoming an older woman, she was divorced from the times and was anxious to get married, so it became like this.

Although I have no right to judge others, women are dumped for no reason. Marrying an older woman may be more difficult than you think, and married life is more painful.

An experienced man who just married an older woman sent me a private letter saying that he wanted a divorce after only 10 days of marriage. He feels that he is not marrying a daughter-in-law, but an ancestor, and he also understands why she has never been married.

The name of the experiencer is Li Jianjun. Let's hear what he has to say.

"I am 32 years old, not married, and I am an older bachelor. It's really hard to get a wife at my age. I don't have that much money to raise a little wife and marry someone my age. Basically, they are all mothers of children, and they are all women from divorced families.

To tell the truth, I don't like women who marry twice. I think it's hard for the second married woman to cooperate with Qi Xin, so when the matchmaker said, I said that the second married woman should not be introduced. In March, the matchmaker told me that she had found me an unmarried man who was three years older than me. Do you want to ask me?

I heard on the spot that I have never been married, and I don't want to. I agreed at once. It is also said that three years old is a good sign and a golden brick for female school girls. So under the arrangement of the matchmaker, we met, and to be honest, it was not ugly. I really don't understand why such a big man can't get married. Is it because his eyes were high, so I have been dragging? Like me, I am still willing to think.

When we met for the first time, we were all satisfied. We didn't have any different opinions, so we continued to get along. After two months of contact, we confirmed the relationship and started a passionate love. Although the relationship was established, there was no public cohabitation.

After dating for half a year, both parents urged us to get married, and then we discussed getting married, choosing a date, taking wedding photos and decorating the new house. When I got married, my family gave them a bride price of 88 thousand, and my parents-in-law also returned, and married some electrical appliances and furniture, which made my neighbors and friends envious, but only I knew the pain. Why? Because I finally found out why my wife is 35 years old and not married.

The day after I got married, I found several problems with my wife:

First: no housework, no washing dishes, no washing clothes, no mopping the floor. Usually, I just open my mouth, reach for food, then take off my clothes and throw them into the washing machine. On the third day after marriage, I said that you would help me wash the dishes and I would mop the floor, but the answer she gave me was that she couldn't wash, and neither could she. I said I would study, but she said she didn't want to study, and she didn't do it at home.

Second: no attention to personal image at all. Whether I go shopping at home or go out, I always wear a thick woolen pajamas. I told her to change. She said pajamas were uncomfortable. If you change it, you have to wash it when it is dirty. Just wash my pajamas. I'm speechless enough. In the words of my hometown, I am too lazy to eat shit.

Third: Newcomers should choose the auspicious day of the zodiac, and they can't come as I wish. I really want to cry. On the second day of marriage, he told me that today is not a good day and it is not suitable for sharing a bed. I was told to lay the floor. "

Although this is the story of Li Jianjun, no matter whether it is true or not, it can still be left behind in our country where there are more men than women. Most older women can't escape these points: big temper, laziness or psychological entanglement.

I once heard a reader named "znhy" say:

Why can't I always find the right one? Men in the world can't all be scum. She always can't find a good person, which means she has a problem! People are divided into groups. What kind of people you are determines what kind of people you will be with, what kind of people your circle is, and your level also determines that most people who can be with you are similar to you. Similarly, if you really meet a good person, and you are very good, and your psychology, physiology, personality and outlook on life are normal, how can you be unhappy when you meet a good person? After all, a person's happiness is in his own hands. Always can't grasp your own happiness, then the problem must still be on yourself!

We can see the whole picture from a glimpse. The problem of older women is still on themselves. It is said that marrying a wife is a good thing. Therefore, no normal man wants to marry the type of wife described by Li Jianjun.

Even men can't get married for the sake of getting married. They should polish their eyes and look at older women carefully before getting married.

As a woman, it's good to let go, but as "znhy" said, birds of a feather flock together, so you can't meet love rat, but why can't you always meet something good? The reason is still in yourself.

So don't complain that society discriminates against older women, and don't make excuses for yourself.

Finding problems, facing them squarely and solving them are the most important things for older women.

Complaining about others and not seeking change will only make society more discriminatory, and only oneself will suffer in the end.