Babies are often abused. How to help them choose a good and secure nanny?

In Taipei, a case of baby abuse was reported. A 7-month-old boy is suspected of being noisy and not sleeping. The nurse actually grabbed his head and hit him with a hard object, causing the baby boy to be unconscious. When the nurse saw it, she was so scared that she quickly informed the parents of the baby boy. The three of them sent the baby boy to the hospital for emergency treatment. However, when the baby boy's head was undergoing surgery, the nurse ran away. When the hospital found that something was wrong, it quickly notified the Social Security Bureau. The police arrested the heartless nanny on the line last night and clarified the incident according to the suspected investigation.

There are few supporting measures for public care, and most of them are private care for babies or at home or at home.

How to find a "good nanny"? For many novice parents, this is one of the hardest jobs.

Here are some basic conditions to pay attention to when choosing a nanny:

Part number 1. Are you ready to make an appointment for a nanny interview?

I had a pleasant chat with the nanny for more than ten minutes. I felt that she was very kind and sincere at the other end of the phone. I wanted to rush to her house with a knife to see the environment, but please wait first! "Feeling" alone is too impulsive! Think about it first. Have you met all your basic requirements?

1. Number of caregivers left at home

Make sure you can accept the number of babies that the nanny can take care of at the same time. Although the legal upper limit is two babies under 2 years old and two babies over 2 years old (note: this upper limit will be lowered due to the influence of special time such as full day care or all-night child care), some parents may want to control the child care ratio at 1: 2 or 1: 3, so even if the nanny indicates that there are places for child care, it may not meet the parents' expectations!

2. Coordination of conservation time

It is not enough to make sure that the other party can provide daily care! Still need to communicate the specific collection time. If parents go to work earlier (before 7 o'clock) or get off work later (after 7 o'clock), it's best to make sure that the nanny can cooperate first (the nanny needs dinner time just like us! ) also makes the negotiations between the two sides more efficient.

3. Parents' persistence

Determined not to let the baby touch 3C products? Still have strict requirements for the baby's diet? If you have made up your mind, there is a principle that you can't compromise under any circumstances. It is suggested to ask the nanny if she can cooperate from the beginning.

4. The age of the baby

Babies of different ages will also have various "sensitive periods" in their development needs. For example, babies like to eat their hands in the "oral sensitive period", throw things in the "arm sensitive period" and children like to smear in the "painting sensitive period". Wait a minute.

The starting and ending time of each sensitive period varies from person to person, so parents need to carefully observe and respond according to the individual differences of their children, and at the same time, to examine the relevant experience of the nanny and whether they can give appropriate care according to the baby's current situation.

5. Nanny budget

At present, the cost of daily care at home is about $65,438+07,000 per month. 18,000 dollars, and the nanny is about 28,000 dollars? $45,000。 (Due to different regions, the actual nursery time will be different! ) If you try with the mentality of "please ask the government to be a nanny at home" or "Shuang Bao should be a nanny", you will not only hit a wall frequently, but also make the nanny feel uncomfortable!

Furthermore, if the nanny is willing to accept the entrustment at a cost far below the market price, parents should also pay attention to ensuring that the proportion and quality of the entrustment really meet expectations.

The time of novice parents and nannies is equally valuable. Think carefully first: what is the "most important" purpose of hiring a nanny? What do you need her help most? Make a further appointment after confirming the conformity, so it is more efficient to find a nanny!

The second part. Matters needing attention in nanny interview

In addition to understanding the nanny herself, the interview with the nanny at home is also to visit the actual parenting environment. Because the nanny may have a baby in care, it is best to be punctual after the agreed visiting hours to avoid disturbing the work and rest of the baby and nanny at unexpected times.

If the situation permits, you can also take the baby with you, so that the nanny can have a preliminary understanding of the baby and even directly observe their interaction. If you will bring other family members or elders, remember to say hello to the nanny first!

1. When you go to the nanny's house, you can observe the following points: (This is the situation of finding a nanny at home. If you find a nanny at home, you can directly invite the other person to your home. )

■ The current interaction between the baby and the nanny, and whether the routine training is good. (If it has been entrusted for some time)

■ Hygiene and neatness of environment and baby products.

■ Whether dangerous goods, sockets and sharp corners of furniture are properly stored or have perfect safety measures.

■ Whether the baby's activity space and equipment are sufficient.

■ The address of the nursery is the same as the address on the nanny's home care service registration certificate, indicating that the environment has been checked regularly.

There are 40 environmental safety checklists provided by Taipei Social Bureau, not only for nannies, but also for parents' own homes!

2. The interview with the nanny can start from the following points:

■ Ask to check the registration certificate of home care service and confirm that she is the nanny herself.

■ What other members of the nanny's family live together? What are their current occupations?

■ How many babies are being taken care of at present? Will it increase in the future? (If the total number exceeds four babies, it is not in compliance with the law! )

■ Refer to the baby diary that the nanny used to fill out for other parents.

■ Understand the nanny's parenting concept and evaluate whether it fits.

■ Do you usually take your baby out for activities, go to parks or parent-child halls?

■ situational inquiry, such as how to isolate nursing when the baby is sick? What will happen if the baby meets an emergency?

■ If the baby has special needs, it is also recommended to tell the nanny truthfully so that the other party can truly evaluate whether he is competent or not.

3. If you take your nanny to the government for an interview, you will also make special suggestions:

■ About the nanny coming home to discuss. On the one hand, let the nanny know the actual parenting environment, on the other hand, evaluate whether it interacts well with the baby. Trained nannies will wash their hands as soon as they enter the door, and ask about work matters, children's situation and so on.

■ Because we can't observe the interaction between government nannies and actual baby-rearing in the past, we can understand it by asking about past qualifications.

■ If the nanny agrees, you can try to contact the parents she has worked with in the past to understand the nanny's habits and records of taking care of the baby.

Some nannies even prepare their own "resumes" to help parents understand their professional qualifications and experiences.

The third part. How to talk about signing a nanny?

1. If all the above goes well, after discussing with the family, we can communicate with the nanny about the details of signing the contract:

■ Is there a probation period? How long has it been? (Usually, it is recommended to try it for one month. If the trial ends ahead of schedule, it is best to communicate in advance whether the expenses are calculated by the day to avoid disputes. )

■ What is the monthly child care fee? What are the extra costs, such as extra food?

■ Are there three bonuses and year-end awards? How to calculate?

■ Can I apply for childcare allowance? (If the nanny holds a technician certificate, the subsidy amount is higher. )

■ Determine the exact collection time and whether it includes national statutory holidays.

■ If the nanny or parents need to take time off, how is the fee calculated?

■ Parents get off work late, can they temporarily extend the childcare time? How to calculate the extension fee?

Example of nursery service contract provided by Taipei Social Bureau. The contracts provided by counties and cities and nannies may be different! Parents can refer to it before negotiating the nursery contract. But the key point is to carefully write the key points and remarks you care about into the contract!

The fourth part. Nanny can't relax after signing the contract!

I finally chose a nanny, and I can't relax yet! Before handing over the baby to the nanny, parents still have some work to do: they must prepare the child's related items and explain them to the nanny clearly; We should also help the baby's psychological construction as much as possible and get to know this new caregiver.

1. Spend more time with "* * *" at the beginning.

If you give it to a full-time nanny, parents can familiarize their baby with the nanny and the environment, especially in the early days. Parents can spend a little time (take a few days off in turn) to "accompany" the nanny and prepare some toys or sheets that the baby likes to put in the nanny's house to help the child alleviate the anxiety at first.

If you invite a government nanny, of course, there is no problem in the environment, but I still suggest that parents can take a few days off to take care of them at home, and the probation period can be arranged at will to see if the nanny is suitable.

2. Be prepared to receive the attention of the nanny

■ Personality habits: What are the children's personality and habits?

■ Special questions: Are you allergic to any drugs/foods, and do you have any prescription drugs or drugs that you should not take when you are in poor health?

■ Emergency: In case of an accident, which hospital should I send for emergency treatment? Who is the contact person in case of emergency? Or where is the first aid kit at home? In addition, you can also make a phone number list, including your trusted neighbors, friends and relatives, so that when you can't be found, someone can contact you.

■ Record format: I hope that the nanny can record the daily situation of the child in detail, and I hope to refer to the model format.

3. Keep a good relationship with the nanny

In fact, it means "caring for each other" and "understanding each other". Parents must be careful about the quality of parenting, so they should also pay the money on time, give the nanny enough rest time, and don't be late to pick up the children.

On the other hand, in addition to three gifts, caring parents can occasionally send some small gifts at the right time, but there is no need to deliberately. As long as you give the nanny moderate respect and consideration, they will only care more about your children!

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