What kind of brother is the man in the mouth of the elders? Are they like friends?

The word "my dear friend" generally comes from southern Shandong, so many foreigners don't know what this word means. For the local people in southern Shandong, this word means to become sworn brothers. Because Lunan people are very hospitable and pay attention to loyalty, becoming sworn has become their custom with national characteristics. Moreover, people and friends in southern Shandong can stand up and help each other when they encounter difficulties. So Lunan people are very chivalrous and feel like brothers in the world.

First, the origin of my dear friend Let's take my dear friend in Zaozhuang as an example. The reason why this word appeared in this area originated from the liberation period. We all know that Zaozhuang is the most famous mining area in China. In the early days of liberation in China, due to the relatively backward social productive forces, relatively backward coal mining conditions and no intrinsically safe equipment, various coal mine accidents often occurred, and the life safety of miners could not be guaranteed. So these miners' brothers spontaneously became sworn brothers, asking them to take care of their wives and children when they were killed or injured. In the long run, a kind of friendly culture has been formed.

Second, in the form of good friends, Lunan's brothers are sworn brothers, and sworn brothers must be conscious. It's not like when we were children, we played hand in hand and were good brothers. The sworn brothers in southern Shandong usually choose a good day, and then divide them by age after everyone gets together. Then everyone said an oath together, and finally knelt down and kowtowed and burned incense, which was a bit of loyalty in Taoyuan. After completing this ceremony, everyone will be good brothers through thick and thin. Of course, there are other wonderful ways. For example, after drinking wine, you will become benevolent brothers.

Third, the moral of my dear friend, the appearance of my dear friend actually shows that when social productive forces are backward, people can't guarantee their lives in order to make a living. Therefore, through this way of becoming sworn brothers, you can recognize yourself as a brother, so that your family can find someone to take care of you after your accident. Therefore, my dear friend is also a relationship of mutual trust in society.