Chaoshan people's wedding etiquette

Chaozhou's marriage custom is effective to a great extent in the ancient Six Rites: what is it commonly called by hipsters? Propose What's the name? Get married? Or? Horoscope? , Najib called? Engaged? Or? Okay？ , Zheng Na shout in favor of? Send employment? 、? Hire? , please call? Choose a day? 、? Pick a lucky one? , kiss and say hello? Wedding ceremony? .

Propose, also known as propose. That is, the matchmaker proposes to the man, or the matchmaker introduces the woman to the man first, and then proposes to the woman after the man approves.

Traditional marriage has two links. After the two sides propose marriage, the matchmaker will write the woman's name, date of birth, place of origin and ancestors into three generations and send them to the man. If nothing unexpected or unlucky happens in the man's house within three days, such as breaking bowls and pots, what is it called? How about three days? . With this good sign, the man agreed to exchange posts with Geng. Please get married separately after changing the Geng post to make sure that both men and women are born together or contain each other. If we contain each other, the marriage will have to be ruined. Contemporary people advocate free love, although young men and women have long since got rid of it? Parents' orders, matchmaker's words? The marriage custom and the old custom of exchanging wedding invitations have also been abandoned, but many people still keep them? Horoscope? This link. Engaged? Eight characters? After choosing an auspicious day, we enter the engagement stage, that is, the man prepares gifts for the woman to get engaged, which is also commonly known as? Okay？ . Gifts are generally gold and silver jewelry such as gold earrings, gold rings and gold necklaces, as well as tokens of love such as sugar and noodles. This woman deserves a gift in return. Both men and women should distribute candy and cakes to relatives and neighbors to inform them that their marriage is fixed.

After the engagement, a bride price will be given. Hire, also known as rent. In the past, the bride price of rich people was gold and silver, colored satin, pigs and sheep, wine and fruit; The poor are betel nuts and chicken wine. Chaozhou people regards betel nut as a symbol of good luck and a distinctive employment gift. Contemporary bride price includes physical objects and cash, and there must be more than four kinds of physical objects: sugar, noodles, Daji (Chaozhou orange), gold and silver jewelry, clothes and cloth, cakes and foods, etc. , but they cannot be odd numbers, but must be even numbers. Cash, also called bride price money, is divided into one, two and four, but they are all multiples. During the engagement, the woman should return the cake and food during the engagement, and give back mandarin ducks, bananas, oranges, pig hearts and so on. Yuanyang and banana are coexisting bananas, symbolizing centenary, and also meaning to make money into treasure; Orange homonym? Ji? , symbolizing good luck; The pig's heart (half left in the woman's body) symbolizes concentricity. At this time, the two sides will also solemnly distribute the cakes and food in each other's gifts to relatives and friends to report good news, and relatives and friends will also return gifts to congratulate them. A gift for the bride. What is it called? Send pollen? .

Choose a day. After the engagement ceremony, the man should choose the wedding date and tell the woman when to cut the wedding dress and when to cut it. Pull a face? (To open a face is to twist the hair off your face with a thread), when to take a shower, when to get married, and so on. Most of the time chosen by chaozhou people is in the middle of the night, and it is an ancient legacy for hipsters to keep the custom of getting married late at night. In ancient times, weddings always ended in fainting, so wedding ceremonies must be held after dusk or even late at night.

The wedding ceremony is the ceremony for the groom to marry the bride at the woman's house, and it is also the most important procedure in the wedding. There are two kinds of old-fashioned weddings: one is the groom's wedding and the other is the man's invitation? Good luck? In modern times, it is mostly the groom who greets the bride himself. During the whole process before and after the wedding, both the woman and the man will hold some custom activities, including the following aspects:

Before the wedding, the bride should bathe with twelve kinds of flowers and plants, such as Cao Xian and pomegranate, and put them on after bathing? Five Qi Qi? This coat is also called. Get on the sedan chair? Five Blessingg is complete. In some places, the bride should sit in the bathtub and eat two boiled eggs after taking a bath, praying for a smooth birth after marriage. Moreover, the clothes worn by the bride can't be sewn inside and outside, which is intended not to take away the luck of their parents.

Does the bride want a penny of rice before she gets married? Penny rice? It is to distribute a lot of rice mixed with coins to brothers and sisters at home, indicating that wealth is distributed to everyone. In Haishan Town, Raoping, the custom of dividing rice is that mother puts the rice in a dustpan or bamboo sieve, shakes the dustpan vigorously and reads while shaking. Round and round, children and grandchildren are rich after dinner; Sweep evenly and give birth to a male grandson next year. ? Then give the money and rice to the bride's brother and one to the bride. The bride took it and put it in a special Chinese-style belly pocket, and put the money and rice in her husband's rice jar.

In the morning, before the bride goes out to eat half a bowl of rice, the bride's family will cook a four-course or nine-course breakfast for her to enjoy. Among them, there must be four ordinary dishes, such as boiled fat sausage, pork belly, stew and good dishes. The rice for the bride should be full, but the bride can only eat one side (that is, half a bowl), which means leaving money for her family after marriage.

Before the wedding, the groom will hold a grand ceremony when decorating the new house. Bed? Ceremony. To choose an auspicious day to make a bed, the orientation of the head of the bed is also particular. Do you want to put one after the bed is installed? Is it safe in bed? And then what? Kirin is here? Stick a note on the bed, and then let a boy lie in bed for a while, that is, to have a baby early.

On the wedding day, the groom goes to the bride's house and picks her up by bike, motorcycle or car. The bridesmaid and uncle (the bride's brother) accompany the bride. Uncle A is going to take a gift to the man's house. This gift should include a pair of male and female chickens, especially a bottle of lamp oil, which means male? Nowadays, some people use cosmetic oil instead of lamp oil. Brother-in-law will be warmly received when he visits his in-laws' home. When getting married, the bride should bring a dowry. There should be lamps, clogs, needle and thread, mirror, comb, ruler, rice tube, grass-headed Chinese-style chest covering (there are two grass-headed incense, that is, sedge) in the dowry. There are toys and stationery for children and socks for relatives and friends. Which one has clogs? Grow old together? Or? Follow the trend? Meaning; Wearing a comb symbolizes that the bride combs her hair in an orderly way. Now some children use small quilts to fold into a Chinese-style corset, and grass heads are sandwiched in the quilt to form a Chinese-style corset with grass heads.

Eat? Five bowls? 、? Close the room? After entering the bridal chamber, does the bride want to eat? Five bowls? Swordfish, pork liver boiled with onion, leek fried pork, meatballs, sweet bowl? Glutinous rice or taro paste. Put four sweet cups on the four corners of the table, put brown sugar in the cups, and stick a little brown sugar on each dish, which is sweet from beginning to end. The dragon swordfish symbolizes competence, the boiled pork liver with green onion symbolizes being an official, intelligent and reasonable, the leek symbolizes long life and quick hair, the meatballs symbolize reunion, and the sweet bowl takes the sweetness of life, all of which are good wishes for good luck. Should the bride and groom eat at both ends of the bed? Close the room? Just eat dumplings, eat half and then change the rest.

Jing Tian had tea at noon on her wedding day, and the man entertained relatives and friends. After the luncheon, the mother-in-law or groom will take the bride out and offer sweet tea or betel nut to relatives and friends. Tea should be served in strict accordance with the order of generations, and the mother-in-law or groom should teach the bride one by one: Who is this and what is it called? Is it common for elders to drink a cup of happy tea and give back red envelopes? A reward? Say something blessed. On the wedding day, the neighbors talked and laughed, came to eat candy and came to see the bride. The bride wants to send the toys back. On the third day of the wedding, the bride and groom are going to do it? Back to the door? Ceremony, that is, going back to your mother's house. ? Back to the door? The ceremony was held three times in a row. Turn around? 、? Second regression? 、? Three retreats? . The first two times, the bride and groom need to have lunch at their parents' home, but they have to return before cooking dinner. Only for the third time can you spend the night at your mother's house, and in some places it is held after four months of marriage? Back to the door? Gift.