Mongolian Ancient Folk Wedding —— Characteristics of Mongolian Marriage Custom

Marriage custom: Mongolians generally begin to talk about marriage in autumn and August. The young man's parents entrusted their trusted relatives to choose a good day to take their son to see his aunt in China. If the girl and parents take a fancy to the young man, they will accept Hada and a plate of cake, and the matter will be settled. Winter is a good day for a wedding. After the date is selected by both parties, the groom's family will go to the girl's house to meet relatives in the evening. At this time, the wedding has begun, and various ethnic styles and interesting wedding programs are constantly staged until the East turns white. The new team just got on the horse and went to the groom's house with the farewell team. When it was not far from the groom's house, the farewell team stopped. When they got home, the farewell team came back with the groom's parents and relatives for the second time. After the mother-in-law lifts the veil for her daughter-in-law, the bride and groom should kowtow and propose a toast to their parents, weddings and relatives. Everyone will also sing a toast and dance excitedly, and the joy will ripple on the grassland.

Courtship: Before young men and women get engaged, the man should propose to the woman. Before the founding of New China, it was usually the parents of the man or the matchmaker entrusted to go to the woman's house to seek relatives and friends. They can get engaged if the woman agrees. According to the traditional Mongolian marriage custom, the man has to ask for relatives from the woman's house many times before he can get her consent. It is recorded in the Secret History of Mongolia that Artu and his son Temujin (Genghis Khan) should be brought to the Dexue Zen House to seek relatives and friends as soon as possible. De Xuechan said: "It takes several times to give, so that you can get respect;" If you give it a few times, you will be looked down upon. " Later, a Mongolian proverb was formed: "Ask more expensive, ask less cheap. "After the relatives and friends reached an agreement, the man took Hada, milk wine and five forks or whole sheep to the woman's house to make a decision. The woman's family invited relatives and friends to accompany the guests to drink, indicating a formal engagement.

Bridal gift: a gift from the man's family to the woman's family after the young men and women are engaged, also called bride price. The amount of dowry depends on the economic situation of the man's family. Most agricultural areas use gold and silver jewelry, cabinets and clothes as dowry; Pastoral areas often use cattle, horses, sheep and other livestock as dowry. Herdsmen regard "Nine" as an auspicious number, and the bride price begins with "Nine". From "September 19th" to "September 9th", no more than 8 1, and "September 9th" means longevity. If poor herders don't have a dowry of nine animals, they can also choose an odd number less than nine, and take three, five or seven animals as a dowry, but they can't choose the number of spouses.

Dowry: A wedding gift for a woman to accompany her daughter. Mongolians are very particular about dowry. How much dowry the man gives, the woman usually comes with a corresponding amount of dowry, and the woman marries more than the man gives to her family. Therefore, there is a Mongolian saying: "You can afford a daughter-in-law but not a girl."

Choosing auspicious day: one of Mongolian wedding customs. Also known as Happy Day. Before liberation, after men and women got engaged, they should first ask the Lama for divination, choose an auspicious day and set a wedding date. After the auspicious day was set, the man's family sent matchmakers and relatives and friends to the woman's house to discuss marriage with their parents with gifts such as Hada, wine and candy. After the negotiation, the couple began to prepare for marriage. Generally speaking, cleaning the wedding room, or building new yurts, slaughtering cattle and sheep, preparing dowry, dowry and other wedding supplies, and notifying relatives and friends of both parties to come and congratulate.

One of the Mongolian marriage procedures. Asking for the bride's name is also called asking for printing. This is an interesting joke. On the night when the bride stays at the woman's house, she will arrange a five-fork or all-sheep banquet in the bride's boudoir, also called a famous banquet. The bride and groom, the bride and her brothers and sisters, all of the same generation, attended the banquet. At the banquet, everyone played tricks on the groom, forcing him to kneel down or ask the bride's milk name or milk name. The bride is shy and silent, or deliberately does not answer. The bride's sister-in-law and sisters did not answer, deliberately stalling for time. At this time, the man's Acura and the woman's sister-in-law answered each other and sang the right song until the woman said her real name, and the fame feast came to an end. Seeking fame and asking Geng is actually an intelligence contest that shows the wisdom of Mongolian young men and women.

Wedding: In the past, Mongolian weddings were very grand, which kept the traditional wedding customs of the man outside and the woman inside. Marriage is usually the day before the wedding. In a happy atmosphere, the groom wore a gorgeous Mongolian robe, a ribbon tied around his waist, a dome red tassel hat, high boots and a bow and arrow. The best man also wears holiday clothes. Ride horses together, carry floats, bring gifts, and go to the woman's house to get married. When the bride arrives at the woman's house, she will walk around the yurt first, and present gifts such as 1 "Touch the Door Sheep" to the woman's house. Then, the groom and the best man hold Hada and wine and propose a toast to the bride's parents and distant relatives one by one. After the ceremony, the married people sat down for dinner. In the evening, I arranged a mutton fork banquet. And held a traditional ceremony of seeking fame and asking Geng. The next morning, when the married people set off, the bride was carried on the float by her uncle or uncle. The groom will ride around the bride's float three times. Then, the bride-to-be and the bride-to-be leave together.

Diao hat: also known as rob hat. In the past, on the way to get married, Mongolians wanted to get home first and become winners. To this end, the two sides will have a hat contest on the way. Usually the groom tries his best to grab the bride's hat, pick it on the whip, or throw it on the ground, forcing the groom to dismount and pick it up, thus affecting his walking speed. Married people cover for each other and don't let the farewell party grab the hat. Along the way, you chased each other and played with each other, with a strong flavor of grassland life.

Wedding: Mongolians attach great importance to wedding ceremonies. Although different regions have different forms, they are all very grand and lively. The general wedding custom in pastoral areas is: when the bride and groom get married and return to their in-laws' house, they do not get off the bus and horses, but first go around the yurt three times. Then, the bride and groom both passed through two flaming bonfires and were welcomed by Vulcan people. It means the purity of love and the prosperity of new life. After the bride and groom enter the yurt, they first worship the Buddha and offer sacrifices to the stove, and then meet their parents and relatives. After the ceremony, comb the bride's hair. Get dressed, get dressed, and wait for the wedding reception to start. Wedding banquets are generally decorated with sheep backs or whole sheep mats, and all kinds of milk and sweets are available. At the wedding reception, the groom carries a silver pot and the bride carries a silver bowl, toasting the elders, relatives and friends one by one. The boys held the silver cup high and drank to their heart's content; The girls sang loudly with Ma Touqin. Wedding banquets often last for two or three days before relatives and friends leave. And the woman's farewell will accompany the bride for one to three days. Sometimes, the bride's mother will see her off, and stay for more than ten days. When breaking up, the mother and daughter hugged each other and cried, indicating that they were reluctant to part.

Important ceremony in Mongolian wedding. Although the Mongolian people in different places worship fire in different forms. But it is an integral part of the wedding. After the bride marries the groom, she must first hold a fire ceremony. The bride and groom have to go through two fires and be baptized by fire, so that their love will be more pure and faithful, their lives will be happy and they will grow old together. The fire worship ceremony of Dorbod Mongols is unique. There was a fire in the yard when the bride entered her in-laws' house. The bride and groom should sprinkle milk wine into the fire together and bow down and kowtow. The master of ceremonies stood by reciting Ode to Fire: flint discovered by Genghis Khan the Great, kindling preserved by Hoelun's mother, offering sacrifices with white hada and milk wine, and national kindling from ancient times to the present. Please pray for the bride and groom! Shenhuo is the witness of your marriage! Please kowtow to the bride and groom! Buddha's light carries on the family line for you.

2. The characteristics of marriage customs in Inner Mongolia:

Ask more expensive, ask less cheap.

The marriage custom of Mongolians begins with seeking relatives. The man has to ask for relatives from the woman's house many times before he can get her consent. There is a Mongolian marriage custom proverb: "Ask more expensive, ask less cheap." After reaching an agreement, the man took Hada, milk wine and whole sheep to the woman's house for a "dowry", and the woman invited relatives and friends to accompany the guests to drink, indicating a formal engagement.

Mongolia has many engagement gifts.

If a Mongolian boy has a crush on a girl, before getting engaged, he should ask the matchmaker to bring a white towel with items such as sugar, tea and glue, which symbolize harmony, sweetness and exuberance. If the woman accepts, the marriage can proceed. Later, the man's parents and I will propose marriage with gifts such as Hada, milk wine and candy. It usually takes several times to get engaged. After the woman accepts the wedding, the man will give her three glasses of wine. If the woman accepts and drinks three glasses of wine, the marriage is settled. Near the wedding day, the man will give the woman a gift, usually a whole sheep, wine, tea and hada. The woman warmly entertained the giver, and both sides raised their glasses, recited auspicious sentences and celebrated songs.

The groom was tested by breaking the sheep's neck.

When the Mongolian groom and wedding procession in Erdos arrive at the bride's home, they will always be warmly received by her family. Everyone will eat, drink, sing and dance together, which is very lively. At this time, the man will quietly leave the banquet and lead the groom to the bride's room. After they sit down at the guest table, the escort will bring the groom a cooked sheep neck and ask him to break it in the middle to test his strength. In order to amuse the groom, the accompanying woman has skillfully inserted a wicker or iron bar into the bone marrow tube of the sheep's neck. If the groom gets instructions in advance, he will see through the mystery, take out wicker or iron bar and break the sheep's neck easily. Some bridegrooms don't know the secret, so they make great efforts to make them sweat, like dogs biting turtles, anxious and ashamed. The escort took the opportunity to make fun of the groom in very mean but not malicious language.

On the way to get married, be smart and compete first.

On the way to the wedding, according to the custom, both men and women want to get home first, and both men and women chase each other for fun. Sometimes, the bride's relatives will take the groom's hat, pick it on the whip, or throw it on the ground. The groom had no choice but to dismount and pick, which delayed the time. Sometimes, clever men also have a way to host a banquet for relatives not far from the groom's house. The woman refused, so she had to dismount and drink, and the man took the opportunity to go home first. So all the way to Ma Benteng, you chase me, the atmosphere is warm.

Worship fire rather than heaven and earth.

The wedding date is chosen by the man. On the same day, the girl was sent to the groom's house by her parents and references. The groom's family prepares wine and meat to entertain. When the bride arrives, she and the groom will kill a chicken with a knife to see if the chicken liver lines are good or bad. If unlucky, the bride and groom will each kill another chicken until the chicken liver appears in Ji Xiangwen. Then, the bride and groom held a drinking ceremony. Put a bowl of wine in front of everyone, put ghee on the edge of the bowl, take a sip and then propose a toast. After the bride and groom finish drinking, they will also entertain the introducer and all the guests. Then the guests from both sides and relatives and friends who came to congratulate kept drinking, singing and dancing until they stayed up all night.