Does anyone know the custom of engagement and marriage in Juxian County? What do you need to prepare?

(1) blind date: After the couple are introduced by the marriage introducer, the matchmaker generally introduces the object, usually the appropriate family, and introduces the family members and family economic situation to each other. The two sides can choose the date of meeting. On certain occasions, both men and women invite friends and relatives to be staff officers and observe each other. After the meeting, the intermediary (matchmaker) introduced both parties. The gay men presented candy, cigarettes and tea to the woman, said a few kind words, took a few steps back and forth and sat down to show their walking posture, height and posture. They should be steady, sit and stand, and sometimes they can introduce themselves, increase the atmosphere and show it. Most women are passive, or say a few kind words, or just smile. Because the blind date is the first time they meet, most women are very careful and generally don't express their opinions.

(2) Engagement: People call it "noodle fish", which means engagement. After the blind date, the two sides visit each other and meet several times when necessary. Satisfied, the matchmaker sent a message to order, indicating engagement. Choose a good day according to the yellow calendar. Generally speaking, when engaged, the man will hold a banquet and invite relatives, friends and women to celebrate the success of the engagement. The specific process: the man steamed 9 big steamed buns, indicating that he has had food for a long time. Steamed a pair of big-faced fish with flour, representing more than a year. The man buys a quilt for the woman, which means that he has to endure it for generations, and every mattress should be covered with green cloth. Bring it back to the man's house when you get married. Buy this lady a dress, a scarf, a belt, etc. Buy women's cosmetics, cigarettes and sweets, wrap them in red bags and put them in six or eight red bags. Put the happy money in the bag, no matter how much. When the man's relatives and friends are in a good mood, they usually bring gift money, no matter how much. According to their own financial resources and relatives and friends. After dinner, the man gave the woman money to meet, and in the past, he gave 99 yuan money to meet, indicating long-term love. Now give 10 1 yuan, which means a good wife in a million. After taking home the clothes given by the man, the woman wrapped them in a red bag, bought a suit of clothes, a pair of shoes, a belt and a hat for her son-in-law, and returned two big steamed buns, which means a man and a big fish, meaning that every family has more than enough, and every year has more than enough. There is also money to gamble on red bags, usually tens of dollars.

(3) Important date: After being engaged for a period of time, the two parties agree to set an auspicious day for marriage. Now go to the civil affairs bureau to apply for a marriage registration certificate. An important date means that the man wants the woman's birthday, and eight children were born in Na Yue that year. Then, take all the boys' birthdays and find a professional who can find out the auspicious day to set the wedding date, and decide who will see the bride off, welcome the bride and preside over the wedding. On the day of waiting, the man bought a knife of meat, about 20 kilograms, and a pair of big fresh fish, snacks, candy, wine and other foods. The son-in-law personally went to her parents' house for a day. You can usually make an appointment once. If the woman and the man are not satisfied, it will take several gifts to make an appointment.

(4) Date of delivery: After the man comes to the date of birth of the woman, please ask the fortune teller to check the wedding date. According to the date of birth of men and women, the fortune teller wrote a document which read, wedding date: Choose this year's auspicious day, a certain day and a certain month, and you don't need to marry Fujian. So-and-so is the zodiac, and the rest are not taboo. Hi-room is near Dong 'an bed, the bed is settled, and the couple gets off the sedan chair and faces east or in some way.

I went to bed in a certain direction that day. Put charcoal braziers on the left and right of the gate. Good luck with your marriage. This document is written in two copies, the man keeps one copy, and the son-in-law gives it to the woman in person, which is called sending the day. The man also buys gifts, which are lighter than those of the day. He bought a coat for his wife and wrapped the check in it. You can usually send it once. Sometimes the woman doesn't accept it, she has to send it twice.

(5) Send a big meal: After choosing a wedding auspicious day, usually a few days before the wedding, the man's relatives and friends come to congratulate the wedding. This is called sending a big meal, sending wine, cigarettes, meat, money, fans and setting a banquet. The atmosphere is warm, showing the best performance of harmony between popularity and relatives. The more, the better. When the banquet is over, the host gives each relative and friend a gift, snacks and other things. Gift-giving fans are also called vermicelli, which means long-term friendship. Money for Xi is usually wrapped in red paper, which means it is red and happy.

(6) Box-filling: After choosing an auspicious day for marriage, just like the man, the man is called a bride price and the woman is called a box-filling. Usually a few days before the wedding, the woman's relatives and friends will send dim sum buns to her home, and some daily necessities will also give money to add some items to her marriage. When the banquet is over, the woman also gives something to her relatives and friends.

(7) On: The day before a man and a woman get married, it is also called urging marriage, sending some articles such as cosmetics, checking what they haven't bought, what they are not satisfied with, and so on. The man sent someone to the woman's house. It used to be a multi-storey garden. It was also useful to send a rooster and hen. You can't kill chickens or women. It's called urging marriage. Take him back. The top is the most exquisite, and a pair of chickens means good luck to yes-men. A pair of fish means more than a year, and wine and vermicelli mean frequent visits. A knife of meat is about 20 kilograms. Generally, six-color ceremony also has eight-color ceremony. A small flower box contains cosmetics for women and some auspicious items. The small flower box contains: a comb, a mirror, two pairs of vanishing cream, two boxes of rouge and face powder, two onions to show that children are smart, a pair of needles to tie the red line, two mugwort leaves to show that they love children, two small salted fish in the sea to show that their daughter-in-law can rely on, a bag of rice to show food after marriage, and a bag of brown sugar to show life. A pair of women's nets, hairpins, rings, earrings, necklaces, headscarves and a pair of red legs. The items on it are exquisite everywhere. On the wedding day, the man gave the bride a quilt to sit under, and the man gave her a set of clothes, usually bright red and green, which the bride had to wear on the day she went to the top, and then she could not change clothes until she got married and went back to her mother's house for three days. This link at the top is the last chance for love women men to ask questions. As long as they don't ask questions on it, they will laugh when they get married. It's not good for them, and they can't embarrass that man any more. According to the amount of money the woman urges her to marry, the man will give her the amount of money from relatives.

(8) Opening a face: Opening a face is a procedure to prove that the eldest daughter becomes a daughter-in-law. Now, the night before the wedding, I went to the photo studio to find a makeup artist. The day before I got married, the villagers asked people in the village to make up for my daughter. That is, on the day above, after the man urged him to get married, the woman would come and pull out the facial hair with a rope. This is the face. Use two threads, one loose and one tight, and the other loose. Twist it into a wire clip and pull it out. Very professional, coordinated movements, flying all over the face, rhythmic voice. Just listen to the sound of Didi, and you have a good reputation: eating rice and flour is not as good as a line. In other words, to eat rice and white flour, it is better to pull the hair off your face with a thread, and your face looks beautiful. A young woman with a haircut on her face and forehead is a kannika nimtragol, but not a big girl.

(9) Marriage: also called marriage. This is the last procedure of life. Both men and women are looking forward to the wedding day. When they get married, they should find someone who belongs to them, not someone who belongs to them. Generally speaking, a woman marries her husband. On the morning of the wedding, the woman is generally not in a hurry to get on the sedan chair, nor is she in a hurry to get on the bus, so that her mother urges her marriage again and again, indicating that her daughter misses her parents and doesn't want to get married. Sometimes she cries a few drops. Urged by her mother and relatives, her daughter washed her face and got on the sedan chair or got on the bus. Some places ask her mother's brother to get on the sedan chair or get on the bus. With her daughter gone, she couldn't bear to part with her mother. In short, she was temporarily separated from her relatives and felt very sad. At the beginning after the wedding sedan chair or car left, the mother carried the water on her daughter's face outside the gate and threw it in the direction of the sedan chair or sedan chair, which meant that the water spilled by the married daughter could never go back. I wish her daughter and son-in-law a long life and a hundred years of happiness.

(10) Wedding Ceremony: The woman is called marriage and the man is called marriage. The great man used all his manpower to congratulate the celebration. Some people set off firecrackers outside the village, others waited in front of the wedding room, arranged to catch up with the beggars and shoot them to celebrate their wealth.

(1 1) The way to get married: When a woman marries her parents, she can only move forward on the road, but generally can't retreat. It's a bad omen to go backwards. When crossing the bridge, throw small money under it. When you see old trees, big wells and corners, you have to put up red hi stickers. Not far from the husband's house, stop the sedan chair or car for a while, let the man's people help you to the new house, set off firecrackers at the head of the man's village, and let the man's maid of honor take the dowry and carry it to the edge of the man's new house.

(12) Wedding Celebration: On the wedding day, it is most important for the man to use the whole family to help celebrate this festive day. First, he went to the village head's house to celebrate his wedding, and then he took his dowry to stay with his relatives. With the sound of guns and gongs and drums, the shouts of bridesmaids reached the groom's house, and then the bridesmaids lit firecrackers to congratulate him. Stop the shaft and prepare according to the wedding documents.

(13) Going through the door: it is the last procedure for getting married. The sedan chair or car is parked in the direction set by the marriage document, waiting for arrangement. At this time, happy people light firecrackers to congratulate the happy event. The groom walked to the sedan chair or sedan chair under the guidance of the master of ceremonies. Master of ceremonies said: When the bride gets off the sedan chair, the groom turns around and walks in front, letting the bride walk behind and leading the bride's lesbian to walk with the bride. When the bride gets off the sedan chair, she has to step on the paste made by her husband's family, which means that she is promoted step by step. In the yard, the man stood east and the woman stood west. Master of ceremonies said: At the beginning of the wedding, one worships heaven and earth, the other worships Gaotang, and the husband and wife worship each other and enter the bridal chamber. The wedding ceremony of Mr. ××××× and Miss××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××× Three visits to heaven and earth: a couple tied the knot.

Wedding item 2: worship the high church. Worship Gaotang: beaming, everything is happy; Second, worship Gaotang: full of Confucius, brilliant career; Sanbai Gaotang: filial piety to parents and good health. The third item of the wedding: the husband and wife respect each other as guests, live in harmony, and have a baby early; Husband and wife respect each other for a hundred years; Husband and wife worship three times, love and love, and never part. The fourth item of the wedding: In the coming year, my son will laugh at Huatang, and relatives and friends will eat wedding candy and set off firecrackers to let the couple enter the bridal chamber. At this time, the man went to the bridal chamber to sleep and walked down from the southern end to the northern end. The woman stepped on the cake and went to bed. She sat at the south end of the bed and sat down in the direction set by the marriage document. At this time, the person who helped the bride enter the door was holding a liter (a container made of wood) in his hand. People who have been reading the congratulatory message threw chestnuts, dates and peanuts and said, "A handful of chestnuts and a handful of dates will run next year." There is another meaning: jujube gives birth to your son early, chestnuts give birth early, and peanuts give birth to both men and women. After that, two peeled eggs and a bowl of handmade wide noodles were served. The man ate an egg to show his confidence. It was round. The woman took a bite of comfort and put the egg on the mattress to stop eating, indicating that she could relax after eating it and give birth to a boy with eggs next year. On the wedding night, when the husband's family opens the door, the new house will be in trouble, which means that a son will be born next year.

(14) Three days later: After the wedding, I went to the patriarch's in-laws for the second time to kowtow, and they would give me some money to kowtow. First, I will prove that I am old and young. Second, I will recognize my clan and relatives. On the third day, the elder brother, uncle and uncle of the bride's family came to ask her daughter to go back to her family by car and sedan chair. On the fourth day, I sent it back to my husband's family, who gave a banquet to show her kindness. In another month, the new queen will leave her family and live a normal new life.