What are the etiquette for parents to meet for the first time?

Little fairies are fearless at ordinary times, so they fight monsters and put out the fire! However, the only news that scares you is that you will meet your future parents-in-law tomorrow!

Even the blue kid paper will be a little nervous at the parent-teacher conference!

A hundred sisters tell you a true story: I have a roommate who is young and she is very good-looking. She usually dresses casually, and even the best baby can't escape this robbery. Once I went shopping with my future mother-in-law, I asked her, don't you usually wear skirts? Why do you have so much hair on your hands? Can't cook?

Talking about these topics, my little roommate A keeps rolling her eyes, not that her parents-in-law will be terrible in the future, but that we should pay more attention to some details and leave a good impression on each other's parents!

That one hundred elder sister will tell you today, when the parents meet:

What details should I pay attention to?

What are the manners?

Is there anything else to prepare in advance?

What do you need to prepare in advance?

In ancient times, it was said that the man should take the initiative to visit the woman's house with his parents. Therefore, when parents meet for the first time, the man needs to take the initiative to invite future parents-in-law to show respect.

When meeting, I am most afraid that my parents don't know each other, or I don't talk about what really needs to be solved. Therefore, fairies should be prepared in advance and communicate with their parents on the following issues in advance:

1. Explain the other person's family background: including parents' occupation, whether there are other brothers and sisters at home, etc. This can prevent their parents from knowing nothing about the man (woman) parents.

2. Explain your partner's basic information: such as education, professional background, etc.

3. The wedding arrangement, dowry, dowry and other issues should be clear to both sides, and they will not be confused when they meet. Even the man and the woman can reveal their parents' thoughts to each other and try to bring their parents' opinions closer together so as to avoid major differences during the interview.

4. Meeting place: discuss the meeting place in advance and ask your parents' opinions.

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When parents meet for the first time, every detail is their first impression of each other. What etiquette do we need?

Meeting etiquette articles

Etiquette 1: venue selection

A. Defining the scope:

Some families will choose to stay at home, but more will choose to stay outside. The choice of location can also reflect your accomplishment to a certain extent. In order to consider the distance between the two families, it may be far away. We can choose the position in the middle of the two addresses, which will be more convenient for both parties.

B. decision-making place:

(1) Restaurant:

According to the survey, 58% of families will choose restaurants, and the small rooms in restaurants will be much more private. The traditional way of communication in China is to talk over dinner and solve problems at the dinner table!

Because both parents have equal status, there is no distinction between subject and object. If invited to the man's house, the future father-in-law can sit in the seat opposite the door, the father sits on his right and the mother sits next to her husband.

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(2) Coffee shop:

The coffee shop is quiet, so you can choose a window seat. Some families like this warm petty bourgeoisie atmosphere, get to know each other and talk about their children after having afternoon tea.

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(3) cafeteria:

Personally, I think an independent restaurant is also quite suitable, because it will not be too formal, there will be something to do, and it will not be too embarrassed because there is nothing to say. You can give everyone a barbecue, hold a bowl of soup and hand it to both parents. On the one hand, it can show your respect for your elders, on the other hand, it can also show your virtue.

Of course, don't overdo it! Or you'll look like a servant girl. Few people will choose this place, but Bai Jie thinks it can be considered.

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Etiquette 2: Dress up.

(1) Boy: Of course, you can't dress casually, but you can't be too formal. We should grasp this degree well. Boys can choose leisure suit, or wear casual white T-shirts and jeans when the weather is not cold, reflecting the image of positive sunshine.

Remember to shave, cut your hair in advance, don't have dandruff or too long hair to cover your ears, and wash your shoes, even sports shoes. There is a saying: What about boys? Look at these shoes! Not unreasonable.

(2) Girls: One hundred sisters think that all parents like gentle and knowledgeable women, so in order to highlight your feminine characteristics, uh-huh, one hundred sisters suggest that you wear small dresses or other intellectual clothes instead of flashy clothes and highlights, so the first impression will not be good!

Be sure to remove body hair, arms, armpits and legs in advance. Don't wear too much makeup, just light makeup, and comb your hair in advance, preferably clean.

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(3) It is easy to ignore parents' clothes. In fact, meeting parents is ostensibly a matter for children. In fact, more dialogue lies with parents. Parents' clothes must be calm, clean and concise, reflecting the status of the head of the family. Parents' manners also reflect the family's self-restraint.

Etiquette 3: Sitting posture, expression and politeness details

(1) Female sitting posture: Hips only take up one third of the stool, so don't sit on it at once, it's elegant. Try not to cross your legs. First, it will affect women's leg shape, and second, it will give each other a bad impression. The correct sitting posture is this:

(2) Male sitting posture: Men don't have too many requirements. Don't lean back and cross your legs. It feels good to feel that the world is the only one! The point is that boys who have the habit of shaking their legs should also be careful not to shake their legs. There is a saying that elders believe that shaking their legs is shaking money!

(3) Expression: Refuse to stoop, smile naturally, don't laugh, it will scare the elders, and the open-minded woman you think may not be understood by your parents!

(4) Polite details:

Be diligent and give your parents tea in time. If there is no tea in the parents' teacups, add it in time, so that the elders will think that the children are sensible.

Remember to call your uncle and aunt when you meet for the first time, never call your parents, it will be very abrupt! The other parents will be embarrassed for a while, and their impression of you is not so good!

In the process of chatting, don't appear very independent, especially the man. Let other parents entrust their daughter to you. If they are not independent, how can they give her happiness? Right?

In and out of the house, the elders come first, and the man should also take care of his girlfriend and help her with things and vegetables. The woman can also help the man with vegetables appropriately.

Meet and talk about the topic

When parents meet, they just decide their children's marriage. Many things must be discussed, but don't go straight to the point. Parents can talk about their children first, and then get down to business. What problems need to be discussed and solved?

Wedding date: You should choose the auspicious day of the zodiac, which is a memorable day for you in the future. At the same time, according to the needs, considering the season, as well as the work and schedule of the two families, determine the wedding date.

Cost: The man needs a bride price and the woman needs to prepare a dowry. The customs of each place are different, but they all need to be discussed.

Wedding room location: in order to take care of both parents in the future, try to choose one close to both families.

Wedding location: outdoor or hotel, this should be discussed in advance. Of course, it is more important that the newcomers have more personal wishes, but it also depends on whether the families of both sides agree, including the elderly of both sides.

Anyway, on the surface, the big things are parents, and there are many discussions. In fact, it is more children. They are responsible for mediating the differences between the two families and expressing your wishes and thoughts to your parents. After all, it is very important to be satisfied with yourself all your life!