Age rite of passage

Men's "crown ceremony" and women's "ceremony";

The most important etiquette in life is the "crown ceremony" of men and the "ceremony" of women. Crown ceremonies and gifts, to put it bluntly, are to change hair styles. Before the Qing Dynasty, the ancients all wore hair. Three months after the baby is born, you should choose the auspicious day of the zodiac and cut your hair once, leaving only two small pieces. These two small pieces of hair, the boy stays on the left and right sides, like a cow's head; Girls are tandem, like horseheads, called "staying in school". There are also only a few left in the right direction of men and women. After the cut hair grows out, it is no longer cut, but combed to both sides, and the eyebrows are also long. This is the so-called "two eyebrows". Therefore, children are also called "children's rashness". Or tie "two temminicks" together and tie them to your head, one on each side. Boys are shaped like horns, which are called "total horns"; A girl looks like a tree fork and is called "girl". Therefore, childhood is also called "the time of total angle", and young or low-ranking girls are also called "girls" and "girls".

When boys reach the age of 20 and girls reach the age of 15, a "coronation ceremony" and a "gift" will be held. Before the ceremony, it is up to the ceremony to decide the coronation, the date of coronation and the guests, which are called "ceremony day" and "guests". At that time, the guests will give the required dress to the young man according to certain etiquette procedures and take a "word" for them. Generally speaking, there is a certain relationship between the words taken by guests and the names taken by fathers. With words, there will be honorifics. Until the Republic of China, if people in China wanted to show respect and courtesy, they had to address each other, just like Russians called each other "father's name". When a humble person speaks to a noble person, he can only praise the word, and after the word, he has to add a title, or Mr. Jia. When an honorable person speaks to a humble person, he calls him by his first name instead of praising him. However, no matter how humble, you can't claim to be a word. If you claim to be a word, it is impolite and a big joke.

From this point of view, the ancients 15 are adults, which means they are no longer children, that is, they are enrolled in school. The book "Fu Bao" says: "Go to college with your hair tied, learn great art, and complete great festivals."

At the age of 20, a man holds a "crown ceremony", that is, adding a crown, which can be hired, hired and served as an official. The ancients often called the belly marriage, or got engaged early and got married when they were adults. Most of them are eighteen (or twenty) men and fifteen (or sixteen) women.