Is ghost marriage necessary?

Is to find a spouse for the dead. Some boys and girls died for some reason after they got engaged, but they didn't wait until they got married. At that time, the old people thought that if they didn't get married for them, their ghosts would do mischief and make the family uneasy. So we must hold a wedding for them, and finally bury them together, become husband and wife, and be buried with their bones. In case there are solitary graves in the fields of men and women. Other boys and girls died before they got engaged. Out of love and yearning for their children, the old people think that they failed to choose a spouse for them before their death and should marry them after their death to fulfill their responsibilities as parents. In fact, this is where people feel. In addition, in the old society, people generally believed in the so-called "geomantic omen" in cemeteries, believing that the appearance of orphan graves would affect the prosperity of future generations of family houses. At that time, some "Mr. Feng Shui" (called "Feng Shui" in ancient times) strongly encouraged this kind of yin marriage in order to earn more money. Vaginal marriage mostly occurs in aristocratic or rich families, and poor families will never engage in such activities. There was marriage before the Han Dynasty. Yin marriage is forbidden because it consumes social manpower and material resources and is meaningless. "Zhou Li" said: "It is forbidden to move and bury, and it is forbidden to marry and mourn." However, this trend has not been eliminated, and even some of it is directly manifested in the rulers. For example, when Cao Chong, Cao Cao's favorite son, died at the age of thirteen, Cao Cao hired the dead Miss Zhen as Cao Chong's wife and buried her with him. The song dynasty was the most popular period of yin marriage. According to Kang's Dream of Yesterday, whenever an unmarried man or woman dies, his parents will ask a "ghost matchmaker" to act as a matchmaker and then perform divination. When divination is approved, they will each make a shroud for the ghost, hold a wedding and bury the man and the woman together. "Biography of Yuan Nv" says: "If a son dies without a wife, he may be buried with the bones of his dead wife." "Biography of Ming Women" also contains: Yang died and his fiancee was martyred; Liu Bochun died, so did his hired daughter, and they were all buried together. In the Qing Dynasty, with the strengthening of chastity, this custom of female martyrdom was still very popular. It was not until the impact of western spiritual civilization that feudal ethics gradually disappeared in the late Qing Dynasty. At the end of the Qing Dynasty and the beginning of the Republic of China, there were still remnants of the custom of yin marriage in Beijing, and there were also "happy events" in which the dead married the dead in individual families, which were called "bones", and the two in-laws of men and women were called "bones relatives". In earlier years, this kind of "wedding" ceremony was mostly held at night. Sometimes, when people are sleeping peacefully, they are suddenly awakened by the drums in the street. It turns out to be a "skeleton". Carrying a paper sedan chair, the leader is a single drum, a single number and a single suona. Others don't need this form, but still use eight sedan chairs and all the golden lamps as deacons. It turned out that they only married a photo of a woman. After 1930s, there was a ceremony of "civilized marriage", in which a western band led the dance, and four people in the back carried a movie studio for the funeral, with photos of the "bride" hanging inside. Wedding custom ceremony Yin's wedding ceremony has never formed a written law. Although yin marriage is a happy event, it is inevitable that red and white ceremonies are mixed. Much depends on the opinions of the parties. Therefore, the form of yin wedding ceremony is very different. Generally speaking, the words of a matchmaker are also needed for a yin marriage. Both parties can get a dragon and phoenix post by sending a door post and getting married in Shoutang. The setting is one-off, so there is no difference in size. Half of the gifts given by the man to the woman are real silks and satins, gold and silver treasures; Half of them are paper, cotton, clips and singlets, and there are two pairs of brocade boxes with earrings, bracelets, rings and hairpins. On the night of release, it will be incinerated in front of the woman's house or grave. In the communication, the "goose cage", "wine sea", dragon and phoenix wedding cakes, elbows and happy fruits that the man gave the woman were all real, but clothes and jewelry were all buried with paper. The dowry of a woman's dowry is usually paper. After it is delivered to the man, it is only displayed in front of the "groom" photo or memorial tablet for half a day, and some just walk around the man's yard, that is, under the guidance of drum music, it is sent to a nearby square for burning. The above ceremony is not necessarily held in all women's marriages, but the wedding ceremony is essential. Today is a sunny day. Set up a shed to entertain relatives and friends and light a sedan chair in front of the door. In the happy room, "100%" God gives. There is a low table on the opposite side of the kang for the "groom" to take photos or set up a memorial tablet, with several plates of apples and dragon and phoenix cakes in front. There is also a big red flower with the words "groom" written on it with a ribbon. The photo or memorial tablet of the bride in the woman's boudoir is the same as before, and there is a big red flower with the word "bride" written on it. After the sedan chair arrives at the woman, the bride's photo or memorial tablet will be taken down by the bride-to-be's wife, and the sedan chair will be released by the married wife. At this time, the parents of the "bride" could not help crying loudly and chasing out of the house. It is not a festive atmosphere at all. After the wedding car returns to the man, the married wife will still take out the photo or memorial tablet of the "bride" and put it on the altar on the kang in the wedding room, side by side with the "groom". Tie the two photos together with a red head rope (meaning the old man holding the red line) and attach red and yellow silk. Only by marrying a wife and kowtowing to God "100%", even if the husband and wife worship heaven and earth. Then the waiter brought a glass of wine, descendants jiaozi and longevity noodles for the newlyweds to take photos or erect a monument. If the "newlyweds" have younger brothers and sisters, brothers-in-law, etc. Call them out and kowtow to photos or memorial tablets. The two in-laws congratulated each other. After the ceremony, choose a good day to be buried, and the woman can wake up. According to the time specified by the Yin and Yang Master, after the coffin is pivoted out, immediately pour a bucket of water into the pit and drop two apples. At the same time, raise the bonus notes. (The same is true of the awakening ceremony of non-yin marriage). The man dug a hole by the grave to expose the groove of the coffin of the groom, buried the bride in the hole and buried the husband and wife together. Buried, that is, in front of the grave, display wine and fruit, burn bonus paper money, and hold a wedding sacrifice. The father, mother and other family members (that is, the two in-laws) of both men and women cried and said "great joy". From then on, it is convenient for men and women to communicate as in-laws. A famous ghost wedding in history was held by Cao Cao for his son Cao Chong, who died young. The reflection of Wu maharaja (volume 20) records that Cao Chong "died in thirteen years, Jian 'an thirteen years, and begged for his life with Mao. And death, very sad. Emperor Wen treated Mao leniently, and Mao said,' This is my misfortune, and you are Cao Cao's luck. I shed tears when I said this. In order to hire Zhen Shiyin's dead daughter to be buried with her, I gave a seal to a riding captain and named Wan Hou as the queen. "Here, Cao Cao hired a woman named Zhen as his daughter-in-law. She died young. Cao Chong was born by Cao Cao and Mrs Huan, and Cao Chong is very clever. When he was five or six years old, Sun Quan, Emperor Wu of the Han Dynasty, sent an elephant to Cao Cao. Cao Cao wanted to know how heavy the elephant was. He asked many ministers and couldn't figure out how to weigh it. Cao Chong said, "If you put it on a big ship and carve its water mark, then the school will know. "Such a talented son, it is no wonder that Cao Cao was extremely sad about his death and had to perform a ghost marriage for him. The rise of ghost marriage is related to Cao Cao's doting on his children. However, there is also a folk saying that if the dead unmarried people don't get married, their homes will be haunted and their families will be uneasy. There, in ancient times when superstition prevailed, ghost marriage was generally recognized by the people and became a "legal marriage", and the owner of the tomb also became a "in-laws". In fact, "ghost marriage" did not disappear in every dynasty. In the Tang Dynasty, ghost marriages also existed widely, which was reflected in the mysterious novels at that time. The story of "Wang Yi" in Records of Guang Yi written by the Tang people is like this. There was a man named Wang Yi who once passed by Li Shizhuang's door for a fair. I saw a girl of fifteen or sixteen in the distance, and the girl saw him, too. When they were interested, the girl asked her maid to send a message to Wang Yi, asking him to spend the night at the villa. The two met in the middle of the night, and after some touching, the girl suddenly felt unwell and a little absent-minded. Wang Yi asked what was going on. It turns out that the girl came over the wall for a tryst. When she climbed over the wall, her foot was punctured by the climbing tooth in the corner, and the pain was unbearable. When the girl left, she said, "It seems that I can't live any longer. If you really have feelings for me, come to my grave to comfort my soul when you pass by. "After Wang Yi returned to the East to be an official, he heard that the girl was really dead when he passed by Li Shizhuang. So I went to the girl's grave with the maid in private, and I was very sad. In a short time, the girl actually came out of the tomb, when Wang Yi fell to the ground and died suddenly. The maid saw that the soul of the king had entered the grave hand in hand with the girl, so the two families got married. According to "Yesterday's Dream" written by Kang in the Southern Song Dynasty, this custom was also very popular in the northern part of the Song Dynasty. When you marry an unmarried person and die, the two media ask for each other. This is called a ghost matchmaker. All the family details were posted, and everyone prayed according to their parents' orders. Deb, the uniform of a robe, took the biography of a fierce woman in Yuan Dynasty (Volume 200) and recorded that there was a woman named Yang in Dongping who was famous for her filial piety. After her husband Guo San went to the army, she stayed to serve her in-laws. In the sixth year of Zhiyuan (AD 1269), Guo Sanshan died in battle. Mother Yang forced her daughter to remarry, and she wept bitterly and vowed not to obey. After the husband's bones were sent back to his hometown, the father-in-law considered that his daughter-in-law was young and would remarry in the future, making his son a bachelor in the underworld, and planned to entrust his son with a dead woman. Yang listened, more sad. He fasted for five days and finally hanged himself and was buried with her husband. Visible, ghost marriage in the yuan dynasty folk influence. "Ghost marriage" was also quite popular in the Republic of China, and many rich and powerful families gave the early bereaved relatives. I once talked about the geomantic omen of Chiang Kai-shek's ancestral grave, and I also learned in the interview that Chiang Kai-shek's younger brother also had a "ghost marriage". This is a little-known "marriage" of the Chiang Kai-shek family. If you say it, you have to explain it to Chiang Kai-shek's father. Jiang's father's name is Jiang. He has three sons: Jiang Jieqing, Jiang Ruiyuan and Jiang Ruiqing. Jiang Ruiyuan here is Chiang Kai-shek, that is to say, Chiang Kai-shek is three brothers. Jiang Jieqing is Chiang Kai-shek's half-brother and the first wife of Chiang Kai-shek's father. Jiang Ruiqing was born to Chiang Kai-shek's brother, Chiang Kai-shek's biological mother and his third wife, Wang Caiyu. Jiang Ruiqing is very clever, more talented than Chiang Kai-shek and very likable. Chiang Kai-shek mentioned this younger brother in First Lady Lue Wang. "He (Jiang Ruiqing) is the last one in my brother's behavior, and his talent is unique, which is beyond the reach of his brothers." Wang Caiyu loved his youngest son very much, but unfortunately, Jiang Ruiqing didn't live a good life and died before he was an adult. Chiang Kai-shek is also very fond of this younger brother, and personally wrote a eulogy for him, and the brotherhood is beyond words. The death of Jiang Ruiqing gave Wang a great mental blow, and he was very sad. He soon fell ill. As a traditional Chinese mother, Wang felt unable to raise her youngest son and failed to raise him. So Wang did his best to hold a "ghost wedding" for his youngest son: he found a girl who died too early, was buried with his youngest son, and married him a "daughter-in-law". Later, Wang was adopted as Jiang Ruiqing's son and gave Jiang Ruiqing a "descendant". When the dress is ready, the matchmaker will prepare wine and fruit for the grave as a wedding sacrifice. "