Cultural differences of Manchu-Chinese marriage.

Although the wedding customs of Manchu and Han in Beijing are different, they are basically the same except for a few significant differences. The so-called matchmaker in Manchu marriage customs is just an old relative of both men and women, alternating with each other, pointing fingers, loving and being close. It is by no means a full-time "matchmaker" who can be a matchmaker. Beijing is a matchmaker, commonly known as "drinking winter melon soup". Drinking winter melon soup is really not easy. First, pay attention to the beauty of a certain family, and then go to a man's family and say that it took a lot of effort to go back and forth to the runway and still lose money, and there is no reward at all. Say that both men and women agree, and then read the Portal. The post indicates the parents' name, official rank, flag, groom's occupation and other brief resumes. Let the two families ask each other separately. The content of the inquiry is: How is the man's family? Is the groom stronger? Is there any evil addiction to dark disease? How about a tutor? What does this girl look like? Quiet? Will it be a needlework? The content of inquiry is so on the surface, but it contains profound meaning. For example, the woman's family has only one daughter, who is spoiled, but the man's family has two levels of in-laws, many sisters-in-law, and many sons and nephews, so this marriage cannot be concluded. After the inquiry is appropriate, the matchmaker will be informed to see it. At this time, both men and women are still ignorant, only two respected relatives and close relatives and friends look at each other, and there is no way to look at each other and exchange money. After looking at each other, they exchanged "Niangeng small posts" and went to the wedding place to get married.

Yan Li

Abandon the third-class marriage of men and women. Even if it is a "low-level five-ghost marriage", you can be a relative as long as you can't do it. As for men and women, there is no such thing as "white horses are afraid of black cows" and "sheep and rabbits exchange tears". If there is, there is no need to get married. After marriage, it is "Wen Ding", that is, "letting go of small things". For example, take one or two pairs of gold and silver rings and wallets, and distinguish how many by family. After the wedding date, the man's family is ready to get married and the woman's family is ready to get married. But it takes quite a long time from marriage to marriage, not a year or two. After the marriage was settled, the girl was forbidden to go out and take care of herself. Before the wedding, a "farewell ceremony" should be held within one month, which is called "communication amplification". Before correspondence, the man asked the bride's dress size and "marriage". The size sheet is used for clothes sent to the bride in letters. The wedding date is to ask the bride's menstrual period in advance so as to avoid it when choosing the wedding date. On the day of communication, the most indispensable of all gifts was the "Shu Tong Dragon and Phoenix Post", which is equivalent to the present wedding book. Because the cover is painted with golden dragon and phoenix, it is named Dragon and Phoenix Post. The content is: "Jin alliance, the beauty of human marriage, Zhu Chenhao's good association, husband and wife will always be happy, and when the moon comes, they will love beauty, respect the imperial system, and keep Yin and Yang auspicious days. I am ready to welcome you. I want to marry you sometime this year.

"elevator"

After the ceremony, wait for the auspicious time. Rich people want to "raise" their dowry (from 16 to 120). Sixty-four elevators are full, and thirty-two elevators are half). Most of the compliments are delivered to the man's house the day before the auspicious day, and less can be delivered that day. If it is not enough, you can hire a "nest neck" to carry them to the man's house, but it must be delivered the day before.

Nanjia etiquette

Before the male sedan chair is issued, the children are always allowed to play gongs in the wedding room to "press the kang". Because drummers "ring the room", some people ring the room after marrying the bride, which is called the "reverse ring room". After ringing the bell, light the "longevity lamp" and "make the bed", order the children to take the "hijab" and send the "mother's meal", and then marry their wives to say goodbye, or take a sedan chair or sedan chair to marry the officials and guests in the same car, make a scene and go straight to the woman's house.

"marriage"

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After worshipping heaven and earth, I went to the kang to grab the hijab, eat the children's cakes and have a cup in order to "get married".

(of a newlywed wife) going to her parents' home with her newlywed husband.

At the fifth watch, people from the bride's family answered the door, mostly the bride's mother. The first task of answering the door is to accompany the bride's mother-in-law to the new house to show her virginity. If there is no problem after the inspection, everyone is happy. The bride opens the box and gives it to her family and friends with handkerchiefs and pockets. This is called "unpacking ceremony". In-laws prepare cakes to entertain their mothers, which is called "eating cockscomb wine". When the bride returns to her parents' home, of course, she complains. If Weng Gu has a bad temper and her husband has a bad temper, the strength of the family is very different, not only the mother and daughter will burst into tears, but also relatives and friends will be sad. After a while, the groom arrived, had a reunion dinner, sat down, some ate at the convenience table, some left, and the bride could stay for half a day. The ninth day after marriage is single nine, and the eighteenth day is double nine. Someone from the woman's family came to visit her husband's family and named it "Luo Jiu".