Traditional marriage miscellaneous custom beds and presses

Making the bed is the custom of the woman's family to escort the dowry to the man's home and arrange a new house for the couple. In fact, it is a bed-making ceremony before the wedding, which contains good wishes for the bride and groom to get married and have children as soon as possible. The focus of making a bed is the bed and bedding.

The arrangement of the wedding bed is an extremely important matter, which is related to the health, family harmony and prosperity of future generations. A cultured person should burn incense and worship God, that is, the bed owner and the bed mother, before making the bed. It is said that the bed owner is good at tea and the bed mother is addicted to alcohol, so tea and drinks are necessary items when offering sacrifices to the bed god. After the worship, put the wedding bed according to the requirements of the wedding. The orientation of the bridal chamber account in the new house is very particular. When making the bed, the woman's family usually asks the fortune teller to choose the right day and time, and place the wedding bed in the wedding room of the newlyweds on an auspicious day.

The bedding of the wedding bed is sewn by the "Mrs. Quan Fu" whose husband and wife both have children, and pregnant women and widows are forbidden to participate. Bedding used to be comfortable, but this time it's different. Red dates, peanuts, chestnuts, walnuts and other dried fruits should be put in the quilt cover, but the end that likes the quilt must be open and cannot be sewn, which is considered by customs to be reserved for drilling children. When making the bed, Mrs. Quanfu must sing the song of making the bed at the same time. For example, "when you are cornered, you will become small." Being pressed around, raising a son to be an official, a handful of chestnuts and a handful of dates, and the little ones running with the big ones. ""make the bed, make the bed, be happy from now on, have children early, and have a good son. "

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The so-called bed pressing means that after the wedding bed is arranged, it can't be empty, and the groom can't sleep alone in the new bed. You must find the right person to give it to the groom. Generally you will find healthy, lively, smart and handsome unmarried men and women. Because traditional customs think that a healthy boy is auspicious, it can ensure the auspicious life of husband and wife after marriage and let the bride get pregnant and have a boy as soon as possible. It is the younger generation of the groom who presses the bed, such as nephew or nephew. There are also people who are concerned that it is best for the boy who presses the bed to belong to a dragon or a snake, or to be like the bride. Get up in the morning, the boy who presses the bed wants to beg for jujube soup. He used chopsticks instead of spoons to drink jujube soup in order to "arrive early" and "arrive soon". There is a saying among the people: "It is auspicious to pee in half a bed; Urinating a bed is more prosperous. " If the boy who presses the bed gets the wedding bed wet, it will not only be blamed, but also be a good sign of wealth and good luck.

The customs of the main participants in the press activities vary from place to place. In addition to boys pressing the bed, in some places, the unmarried brother of the groom is allowed to accompany him to press the bed, which is called "brother-in-law pressing the bed and children queuing up", and in some places, the father of the groom is invited to accompany him to press the bed, which is called "father pressing the new house and a large group of children". The time to press the bed is generally on the first day of the wedding, and in some areas, the cycle is longer, and the bed is pressed one week before the wedding.