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Couplets can be compiled according to the marriage customs in southern Fujian. ..

Bride's marriage "has no heaven and earth"

There is a saying that "pigs and sheep get credit, but brides don't get credit", which means that on the wedding day, no matter what the bride asks, the man must unconditionally promise, cash it in time, don't delay, and don't go back on his word, otherwise the village will be too embarrassed to laugh in the future. This is the true portrayal of "the bride married without land".

When the bride crossed the threshold, "Farewell to the bride" murmured: "The sky is boundless (invisible), the earth is red, and the sun is green (all lush)." Hold an umbrella when talking (or cover her head with a bamboo hat) to block the sky; HongLing has been extended from the gate steps to the eight-step sedan chair, and the bride with mixed feelings stepped on HongLing and got into the sedan chair. This is called "the world is big, and I (the bride) is still the biggest today", which means that God and God are usually supreme. Today, the bride is on an equal footing with them, and there is no need to visit them. "It's the first time for a big girl to get on a sedan chair", of course, she pays attention to good luck. No matter before, after, getting on, getting off, stopping and getting off, we must follow the established way and not be careless at all. Look! There is a 1 bamboo rice screen hanging behind the sedan chair, and the surface of the screen is painted with Tai Chi Eight Diagrams. In front of the sedan chair, there are auspicious words such as "the dragon and the phoenix are auspicious" or "the red is double happiness", and some of them also have auspicious words such as "a hundred children and a thousand grandchildren" and "generations to come". Because the rice screen is an old tool for "picking up ashes" and the Taiji Eight Diagrams is a treasure of Taoism, people think that it has the power to suppress evil spirits. You should put a tile in the rice screen before parking. When the groom received the car, he suddenly broke it off with a strong force (meaning "dismounting"), and the bride read: "One tile and four corners (square), the bride broke (broke) the gold hard, and the family prospered. The groom married Kim Jong Dae (wife). When you get off the sedan chair, you still have to step on HongLing with an umbrella and enter her husband's house. When I thought of graduating from junior high school, the car arrived at the door, and my wife insisted that I carry it into the house. It was probably a custom.

When the bride enters the door, everyone in her husband's family must hurry away and let her enter the door with dignity. It is said that that day is the "bride's day"-the mouth of the bride emperor is the golden rule; The bride's three evil fingers pointed at an unlucky person. If there are people who don't know the weight, they will deliberately look at the bride, but they will be reprimanded by their elders or can't afford to "crash". But after this village, there is no shop, and the old woman's "lawless and landless" privilege is limited to the wedding day.

Candle Wedding Room "Guisado"

When a daughter gets married, it is a worry. "Crying and rejoicing" mother will teach the bride some tricks (doorways), such as closing doors and windows, lining accounts, looking after boxes, ironing clothes, etc., so that her baby daughter can gain a foothold in her husband's family and live a comfortable and happy life without being bullied by her husband, which will bring more wealth to her husband's family.

The guests who closed the window and congratulated each other gradually dispersed, leaving only the young couple in the bridal chamber. Facing the open doors and windows, although she knew that she had to close them quickly, because of the careful guidance of her elders, the bride pretended to be doing something else leisurely, that is, not closing the doors and windows. It is said that if the bride closes the doors and windows first tonight, everything will be restricted by her husband in the future. As long as she gets through tonight, life will be much more comfortable in the future. The groom who loves his wife deliberately quarreled with the bride for a while, then got up and quickly closed the doors and windows. The bride who sat shyly on the side, with a flowery smile on her face, read shyly and happily: "I sit in the first place, and you close the door (door) obediently." I'm sitting at the top of the list, so I can support my children and grandchildren. "

Mirror box "mirror box drawer" refers to the small soft box used by the bride to hold rings, necklaces, pollen, rouge, etc. And there is a mirror when the top floor is open. According to folk custom, the bride should lock it with a small lock, which is said to lock the mouth of her husband's father-in-law, mother-in-law, sister-in-law and uncle, so that there will be less quarrels (quarrels) in the future; It is also taboo to prevent busybodies from secretly looking in the mirror before their new marriage. Until the wedding, the bride and groom hold up at the same time, and then look in the mirror together, so that the beautiful images of the couple emerge in front of them. The bride read affectionately, "Who are you? (Husband) I am (wife), and both husband and wife come to look in the mirror. Ah Jun is determined from now on, and I love them. "

Go to bed (hang a cherry blossom? Zhang Li (hanging mosquito nets) is also something that newlyweds should do together. There is also a rule that couples are not allowed to talk and can only work silently, otherwise it will attract many mosquitoes in the future, which is not conducive to sleep. When the groom goes to bed to rest, the bride should pat her clothes slowly and fold them on top of the groom's official, commonly known as "pressing pants". When the groom asked why, the bride replied, "I put my foot on your shoes, and you asked me in a low voice and answered me loudly." It shows that the bride wants to "crush" the groom, and even the momentum has the upper hand.

Hanging leaf sugarcane "from beginning to end"

"Being married and growing old together" has always been the highest realm for China people to pursue marriage. Parents want their children to be happy all their lives. In Taiwan Province Province, people use hanging vines to express their most sincere and heartfelt wishes for their daughters' marriage-"from beginning to end", which means that there will be no bumps and setbacks on the road of marriage until the seas run dry and the rocks crumble and last forever.

Before the bride goes home, her mother must prepare two fresh green leaves sugarcane, commonly known as "hanging tail sugarcane". As the name implies, it is a sugarcane with a tail, which has just been uprooted from the ground and only washed away by water. When the bride returns to her parents-in-law's house, the bride's younger brother will help carry it, take it back to her parents-in-law's house, put it in the cave door first, wait until the third night of her wedding, then get married and cut it into pieces for everyone to taste. The homonym of "sweetness" in "sugarcane" and "sweetness" in Minnan dialect is placed behind the cave door, indicating that the future life of the couple is as sweet as sugar, and it must be sweet, kind and loving. When people eat sugar cane, they should also say a few auspicious wishes, such as "find a bride to eat sweet, and be sure to have a baby (son) next year".

Generally, there are two sugarcane with tails, which are tied at both ends of the head and tail with 9-foot thick red ribbons, and then tied with a beautiful knot (concentric knot). The head and root of sugarcane, the tail of sugarcane and green leaves are the same, which reflects the "head and tail" of newlyweds, promptly warning them that a new life has begun, "be patient in everything and live in harmony", and let them "grow old together and follow Qi Mei's example". The 9-foot-long thick red ribbon, because of the homophonic sound of "9" and "long", contains the meaning of "long", which means that parents hope that their daughters and sons-in-law can "love each other, depend on each other and rely on each other"; Tie a knot with a thick red ribbon, which means that the bride and groom will form the same life from now on. They should "always be United" regardless of each other, work together, have deep pockets and be well-off.

The Wind of Inheritance can be seen from this.

Ding is an adult.

In the marriage between Fujian and Taiwan, the custom of "reaching the top" is still preserved. It is believed that only men and women who have been baptized by the "summit" ceremony can be regarded as "adults" because it is a ceremony in which both men and women swear to get married under the witness of God.

The "top" is usually held in the hall on the first day of the wedding, when the bride is just getting started. The "top" must be prepared with two high and low bamboo chairs, a rice screen, a bamboo hat, a "grass plow" (a round bamboo drying tool), a quilt and a swaddling clothes, a new wooden comb, lice (a device for catching head lice) and so on. There are lanterns lit in the hall, and there are only "chickens" (roosters), meat, fried dates and so on on the "sky table".

"Top" starts with the groom, and then it's the bride's turn. The ceremony is basically the same.

On the day of the "first trial", I sat firmly on the high bamboo chair in the "plow" and put my feet lightly on the low bamboo chair, facing the main hall and the "Houshou Hall". The boy who performed the "summit" ceremony for me was a "dragon". He took a new wooden comb and combed it on my head. He combed it four times from top to bottom in the order of "three combs and two lice" The matchmaker on the side read auspicious words loudly, such as "three wooden combs, two lice, food and leftovers"; "A comb up and down, husband and wife head through the tail"; "I can afford to go to the top, and I have no ambitions (bad things) in my life"; "Sit in a high chair, trip in a low chair, and eat pig's trotters"; Comb your hair well (thoroughly) and have a child who can read (study hard).

After combing our hair, the matchmaker carefully coated my husband and wife with peanut oil. "Flower" and "hair" are homophonic, meaning "develop and get rich"; "Life" means having a hundred children and grandchildren, full of vigor and vitality. Finally, the bride was supported by the matchmaker, and I lifted Michelle on the bride's head and walked into the bridal chamber.

Marry a daughter "splash water"

"Water splashing" is the most amazing wedding custom in Fujian and Taiwan. Let people really experience what is the "family tradition", which can best reflect the great custom of maternal love?

On an auspicious day, amid firecrackers, the groom was beaming and boarded the wedding car with the bride's slender hands. At this time, the bride's father followed closely, holding an open "chicken male" bowl filled with clear water. As soon as the hand was lifted, it splashed on the wedding car, and cold water splashed on the ground, the car and the bride. Mother was happy and uncomfortable, so she quickly held back her tears and tried to smile. She murmured: "Marry the female carp, Yue Longmen, and Kirin will be Gongsun. Husband and wife live in harmony for a hundred years, five generations live under one roof, and their children and grandchildren are full. " I wish my daughter good luck, find a good husband's family, and the couple can live in harmony. Take Qi Mei as an example, staying together in a long carriage has a prosperous population.

When the parents splashed water, the matchmaker had to pick up a big cattail leaf fan in time, violently fanning the accumulated water on the ground, and shouting loudly while fanning: "The fan is cold, the fan is cold!" It's cold, it's cold! When you get married, you will encounter prosperity, peace and no wind (waves). "It turns out that this is the matchmaker reminding the bride for her parents to remember' married daughter, spilled water', which means' water under the bridge'; More importantly, let the daughter be "cold-hearted" about her mother's family, miss home, take root in her husband's family and build a new home wholeheartedly. There is only one sentence, "carry on the family line", which can describe parents' reluctance to give up what they love and fulfill their children's mood. Therefore, daughters can only use "crying and joy" to repay their parents' kindness.

In ancient times, it was an ignoble thing for a woman to divorce. Jiao Zhongqing's wife, Liu Lanzhi Nakajima, was sent back to her parents' home by her mother-in-law in the Peacock Flying Southeast by Han Yuefu, and she felt "embarrassed to advance and retreat". His mother also mourned for her daughter's "uninvited arrival".

Of course, the times are progressing and decadent ideas have been abandoned by people. Modern women are fully capable of mastering their own destiny by their own wisdom and getting more happiness.

"Leading the way chicken"

"Leading the way chicken" is one of the wedding customs in southern Fujian. Place people's wishes for the happiness of the newlyweds.

The "leading chicken", also called "raw female chicken", consists of a rooster and a hen, and the big and strong one must be chosen. Hens, for example, had better be brought into the bridal chamber to lay eggs on the same day.

The "leading chicken" was prepared by the woman's mother herself: the chicken feet were tied with a 9-foot-long red belt, and one chicken was tied at each end. Its 9-foot-long red ribbon, "nine" and "long" are homophonic, meaning "always long"; The red ribbon means "thriving". This is because parents hope that after their daughter gets married, they can live in harmony with their son-in-law and love each other, not only to grow old together, but also to have a "good life."

"Leading the way chicken" is usually brought back to the husband's family when the newlyweds "return the gift for the first time" (on the fourth day of their wedding, the bride's younger brother will invite her sister to her family). Also, on the wedding day, the bridesmaid accompanying the wedding mentioned the man's house with a flower basket and put it under the bed of the new house. People stop at the door to see whether the rooster or the hen comes out of bed first, which shows whether the bride will have a boy or a girl. Because of the concept of "son preference", when the hen pokes her head out first, people shout loudly and hiss repeatedly, scaring the hen to retreat quickly until the rooster goes out first, and people are happy. ...

Of course, the "leading chicken" cannot be slaughtered at will, leaving raw eggs. Because "egg" and "generation" are homophonic, it means "handed down from generation to generation".

Marry the bride through the "window of fire"

In southern Fujian, the bride has to cross the fire twice from leaving her mother's house to entering her husband's house, commonly known as the "fire window".

"Fire window" is also called "stove". According to legend, the last emperor of the Southern Song Dynasty went south to exile in Xili Mountain, Guanqiao, Nan 'an. A local young man named Shui often helps Song Ying deliver firewood. Emperor Song was very grateful and gave him a small stove to keep warm. For example, among collectors who used to bake ovens, when they got married, they would light charcoal in the oven for the bride to pass through. Therefore, a better life after marriage, neighbors think that oven baking is a blessing, so they follow suit. Since then, "crossing the road" has gradually evolved into a wedding custom in southern Fujian.

I remember that on the day of "Little Deng Ke (married in southern Fujian)", I witnessed my wife's "fire window" twice. As soon as my wife went out, she saw an oven in the middle of the hall at a glance. The "golden paper" and incense sticks in the oven are burning and the fire is booming. At the bottom of the oven is a bamboo grille. While holding his wife in his arms, the matchmaker told her to hurry through the "fire window", while muttering, "If you go through the fire window, you will meet a good one when you get married" and "If you go through charcoal, your family (family) will look good".

In fact, the custom of burning windows mainly stems from the ancient people's worship of fire, which is regarded as a totem (such as the "fire worship" in the Ming Dynasty) and can burn all kinds of bad luck in life.

In short, the "window of fire" is an expression that kind people yearn for a better life and hope that the future will be as hot as an "oven".