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Please introduce an engagement. In the marriage proposal house, you have to choose a family's children to get married, and invite an introducer to entertain you at home and explain the significance of marriage proposal, so the introducer runs around and plays the role of a medium.

(Meeting) If the introducer agrees to get married, the two objects will meet at the man's or his relatives' home at the appointed time and get engaged after talking. When meeting, the man should simply entertain, and the main relatives of both parties should attend and participate in the comments. After the conversation, the two will give each other gifts (the man gives the woman four gifts for her suit, and the woman gives the man a lighter gift). If the other party accepts the gift, it means agreement, otherwise there will be a problem.

(Housekeeping) In recent years, there has been a rule that women go to the man's house to look after the house. When looking at the house, the woman's main relatives should accompany her, and the man should throw a decent banquet, give her a heavier gift than when he first met, and at least get dressed. If the man doesn't agree to see the house, he needs to convert the cost of seeing the house into cash, which is purely courtesy.

After seeing the house, the introducer and both parties reached an agreement on the woman's room number, color, time, place and who to go to. On this day, the man's officiator and introducer go to the county seat with the woman, generally pulling four or six pieces of clothes (two for each body, 7-9 feet each), ranging from ten to eight pieces, and at least 200 to 300 yuan, ranging from 2,800 yuan. Bought Buduo at the beginning of liberation, but now it mainly uses wool and silk. Besides clothing, there are shoes, socks, scarves, wool, bags and so on. After pulling the clothes, the group went to a restaurant for dinner and ordered ten eight dishes, which cost several hundred yuan. It is often difficult for rural people to pull their clothes.

(Sit and drink) People in the north of Weihe River call it "Eating Banquet", people in the south of Weihe River call it "Li Guo", and people call it "copy, copy, copy", which means "eat, eat, eat". The etiquette of sitting and drinking is very grand. On this day, men will kill pigs and sheep, prepare chickens, ducks and fish, invite chefs to cook, set up tents to entertain guests, and put loudspeakers at home to show wealth. The man's relatives were invited to bring gifts to the banquet, and the woman informed the clan relatives, the township party and relatives to sit in the media booth to show their approval. Ordinary people sit and drink and entertain guests for seven or eight tables, many of which reach more than twenty tables and serve twenty or thirty dishes. The procedure is: (1) drink tea first, with cakes and dried fruits. If it's four plates and nine plates, it's also thirteen flowers (put four small plates on nine plates). (2) Eat the first meal, mostly minced meat noodles, and ask the clever women in the village to operate it, so that it is "as thin as paper and as thin as thread, and the pot turns into a lotus flower". Minced meat includes pork, mutton and shredded chicken. (3) Two meals: drink first, then eat. When drinking, start to serve eight or four dishes; Then while drinking, serving food, food is varied. When drinking, the male object is brought by the female family to toast the female guests one by one, which is called recognizing the son-in-law, and the female object is brought by the male family to toast the male guests to recognize the daughter-in-law. After three rounds of drinking, the introducer will put the clothes prepared by the man for his daughter-in-law and the gifts given by the guests on a big plate, present them to the bride's head (including the wedding cash agreed in advance, sealed with red paper) and deliver them face to face. If there are no comments, the engagement (gift) task is completed. Eating after drinking is usually a plate of nine dishes with steamed buns. At present, wedding booking can be roughly divided into "Renyi Pro”240 yuan," Ordinary Pro”360 yuan, and the ones above are "High Price Pro". After the ceremony, every four or eight days, unmarried men and women should give each other holiday gifts, and the gift of the man is more important than that of the woman. When the woman comes to the man's house to send holiday gifts, she will be warmly received by him.

Choose an auspicious day: that is, choose an auspicious day to get married, which is called a wedding day in the countryside. If the man wants to get married, the matchmaker persuades the woman and asks her husband to calculate the auspicious day. First of all, let's look at the male and female zodiac signs of "benefiting the moon" and "losing the moon". There is a ballad of Huiyue: "Zheng and Qi welcome chickens and rabbits, two or eight tigers and monkeys, three or nine snakes and pigs, four or seven dragons and dogs, five, ten, one and six cattle and sheep, and wax rats and horses go." Secondly, in choosing auspicious days and auspicious times, in addition to the above-mentioned stress, widows are also afraid to be close to four-eyed people (pregnant women) when choosing auspicious days, fearing to be "happy" and so on. Nowadays, this bad habit has gradually decreased.

Marriage: also called marriage, rural people call it marrying a wife. The old wedding is very complicated and exquisite. Its main items are:

Deacon: The person who officiates at a wedding. Please write a gift pen: that is, please ask Mr. Li to write the wedding couplet (door opening door) the day before, and get the gift list on the wedding day. Please be a guest: country people call guests. Men invite guests and women invite women (or maids). "Guest" should choose two married people of the same age as the groom, who have a good relationship and good family conditions (called blessed people). The task is to accompany the groom to the wedding. Invite chefs (including red chefs who cook and white chefs who steam steamed buns). Please run around: that is, invite people, relatives and friends to do housework, such as borrowing furniture, building a shed, shopping, boiling water, entertaining, etc. Please entertain people: that is, "turtle" (a folk band), with three, five and eight mouths, played with bells and drums. Rental sedan chair: There are two kinds of sedan chair (sedan chair) and green sedan chair (blue sedan chair), both of which are made of wood, rectangular, double-column, and the top is like a square cover. The sedan chair is 5 feet long, 3.5 feet wide and 5 feet high, with a flat top and bottom. There is a curtain on the front door. There is one in the sedan chair. Two sedan chairs are 1.2 feet long and can be carried by four people. The red sedan chair is covered with red cloth, the sedan chair is covered with carved colored curtains, and the green sedan chair is covered with green cloth or blue cloth. The top is conical, engraved with "Kirin to send the child", with red hydrangeas hanging at four corners and eight immortals engraved on four arms.

(Wedding Ceremony) As the man's family, it is the curtain of the program of "Marriage" instrument; The women's home is a "farewell" ceremony. Early this morning, the bride was dressed up by the maid who combed her hair, waiting for her husband to get married. The groom is wearing a dress (blue satin), a hat and a red flower arrangement. Accompanied by his uncle, aunt, Xiang Bin, bearers and musicians, he rode or sat in a sedan chair (in the old days, rich people also had grooms sitting in green sedan chairs to greet their families with red ones) carrying the "Phoenix".

Guan came home with a magic mirror and a parasol. In the music, the groom kowtowed to his parents-in-law and entered the banquet. The bridesmaids of the bride put on crowns and chardonnays, Hong Xiuxie and red silk hijab, bid farewell to ancestral shrines and salute their parents, brothers and sisters. At this time, the bride's feeling of parting arises spontaneously, and the crying is touching, which is called "crying sedan chair" or "crying marriage". There is also a cry called "Crying Sedan Song": "Mom, mom, you support me. Today, you got married and became a guest, leaving your siblings to take care of you, just like a steel knife digging my heart ... ". Amid the music and gunfire, the maid who combed her hair helped her into the sedan chair, and the door of the sedan chair fell down. The magic mirror is hung on the pole of the car. Choose two children to escort the car, which is called "escort the car". The musician plays in front, followed by the "clothes rack" (the wooden frame for the bride's dowry and other needlework) and the "stone basket" (the wooden suitcase for the bride's decorations and daily necessities). The groom rides in front of the sedan chair and combs the maid's car, followed by the guests of the bride's family, forming a long queue called "people who eat the wedding banquet". In every village where the sedan chair passed, the guns stopped, and the women in the village competed to watch and evaluate the bride's craftsmanship. When a sedan chair crosses a bridge, an intersection or a street, it is necessary to fire a gun, and some people even stick a red note to express their willingness to exorcise evil spirits (whether the ceremony for sending the girl is grand or not depends on the rich and the poor). If you bump into relatives on the way (two sedan chairs meet), exchange gifts to make way, indicating that they will not interfere with each other and be safe. If the coffin is lost, you have to divert it, or cover the sedan chair with red silk and move forward in the sound of gunfire.

(Wedding), also known as "worship the church" and "worship the heaven and earth", is presided over by the deacon, who is dressed in a formal dress (hat robe). From the beginning of welcoming the sedan chair, the "deacon" held a bucket filled with licorice (representing gold) and bran (representing silver), sang "Song of Forage", welcomed the bride out of the sedan chair with firecrackers, entered the palace, and ordered the groom to take off the bride's hijab, symbolizing the mutual recognition of the couple. On the table in front of the main hall, there are incense, candles, offerings and memorial tablets dedicated to "heaven, earth, monarch, relatives and teachers"; The red carpet on the floor is for the bride and groom to kowtow; In addition, there are six objects on the table: bucket, scale, ruler, scissors, abacus, and mirror (the "six cards" symbolizing the legendary "three media and six cards"), which means "fair and reasonable, with clear mind as a mirror".

Attached is a song "Song of Forage" circulated in the middle of the Republic of China and a memorial ceremony for the church;

The Song of Forage was sung by the deacon welcoming the sedan chair: "When the sedan chair arrived at the door, the host and guest stood on both sides, beating gongs and drums to welcome the guests and setting off firecrackers to celebrate the family banquet. Lu' an Feng Ming is happy, Lantian is planted with beautiful jade, and it is auspicious to live in happiness. A good daughter is matched with a good husband. " Word of getting off the sedan chair (deacon's note when the bride gets off the sedan chair): "One scatters chaff, the other scatters material, and the third scatters new people to get off the sedan chair". When entering the door (the bride got out of the sedan chair and was helped in by the man's relatives): "One scatters gold, the other scatters silver, and the third evacuates people to enter the door". Entering the temple: "The scenery of the flower room is splendid, colorful clouds are auspicious, qingluan dances for a thousand years, and husband and wife sing together for a hundred years." The words of the memorial hall: "Looking for Taoyuan to avoid Qin, peach blossom is another spring, and Taoyuan is immortal."

Fish follow the current, just waiting for Yu Lang to pay attention. One worships the sun, moon and stars, the other worships oriental wood, the third worships southern fire, the fourth worships western gold, the fifth worships northern water, the sixth worships Wuji soil in the middle, the seventh worships three generations of ancestors, and the eighth worships brothers (great-grandfather, great-grandmother, great-grandfather, great-grandmother, father, mother, mother in turn).

Uncle, aunt and all relatives, guests, matchmakers, elders in the village ...) "The words of husband and wife worship:" The weaver girl in the sky will be the cowherd, and the talented and beautiful woman will be the husband and wife. Today, the two families are married in Qin Jin. They are rich and prosperous. "Xie Yici;" Farewell: those who smashed cars, sedan chairs hit people, ignited and fired; Those who receive guests, whistle, and cannot be greeted; Comb your hair, help your daughter, pretend to be a guest and be a confidant; Look at the guests, receive gifts and congratulate them on all sides; Mat, felt, annoying; Cutting vegetables, mixing noodles, burning pots for firewood and smashing charcoal; choose

Peel onions and garlic, carry water and carry donkey's face; Sweep the floor, see the hospital, and serve tea to wipe the case; Holding a baby, collecting eggs, buying cigarettes and drinking in the county; There are also people standing at the door and peeking on the windowsill; Nothing to do, and those who come out to swim around; End the plate, pick up the steamed bread, and call it sitting; There are also dogs with brown chins who go to the dunghill to harm ginseng fruit ... "... and salute together. Goodbye and finish your work.

(Entering the bridal chamber) After the bride and groom celebrate the New Year, they drink a glass of wine with each other, which is called "drinking a glass of wine", and the aunt leads them into the bridal chamber, which is called entering the bridal chamber. When I was in the kitchen, someone deliberately buckled a porcelain basin on the pot, and my aunt sang "Brides see the basin, mules and horses flock." Let the bride stir the iron spoon in the pot, and the aunt will sing "The more the bride stirs the pot, the more it stirs." Someone threw a pair of chopsticks into the pot, and my aunt sang; "The bride will see chopsticks and hold the prince next year". Onlookers threw a porcelain tile into the new house, and the aunt sang, "There are porcelain tiles in the bridal chamber, and a baby will be born next year." Someone put a wooden pier on the kang, and my aunt sang, "Put a pier on the kang and have grandchildren the year after next." Some people put four kinds of dried fruits in the four corners of the kang: walnuts (harmonious bald head), red dates (see red happiness) and peanuts and chestnuts (meaning peanuts). When the spectators grab the food, the aunt sings: "Seven walnuts and eight dates, what a wretched woman, the wife eats walnuts and dates, and the couple never get bored" and so on. After the bride's wedding, young men will come to ask the bride for a red seal (a coin wrapped in red paper) in the name of hanging door curtains and curtains for fun. When holding a banquet, the person who carries the plate deliberately does not take chopsticks and asks the bride for a seal; When people are not looking, the female guests of the bride's house also hide the hip flask, tea cups, dishes and so on, and even take them home. When the son-in-law goes to Zhang Yue's home for dinner, he will exchange gifts such as handkerchiefs and candy, which is very interesting for people.

(Banquet) is called "hospitality", also called "sitting". Usually two meals, sir: one plate with nine bowls (four cold dishes and five hot dishes) and steamed buns. The second meal begins with drinking, with four or six dishes on the plate, while drinking, and then another dish with steamed bread after drinking. Tea is served before and after meals. Seats on the dining table can be divided into seniority and seniority, that is, the distinguished guests of parents' families are given to the top seats (such as in-laws, uncles, aunts, etc.). During the dinner, the bride and groom will toast the guests one by one, and the main relatives will return a gift after receiving the wine. This gift is called "recognizing relatives" and that gift is called "meeting gifts". Guessing boxing is a pleasure among banquet guests.

(Playing with the house) is also called "playing with the daughter-in-law" and "disturbing the new house". Three nights after marriage, people played with the house, which was colorful, including singing songs (solve riddles on the lanterns), tongue twisters, singing, kissing, eating sugar, picking cherries and giving pillows to Yuanyang. These programs are very interesting, but there are also some unhealthy contents, such as putting small guns in cigarettes, scaring the bride when she lights cigarettes, and putting Chili noodles or mustard powder in tea.

On the morning after marriage, the bride's family and main relatives will send their daughters meals, including jiaozi and noodles, which means that the daughter should not forget the kindness of her parents' family, and her husband's family should treat her in-laws warmly.

On the third day after marriage (if every single day is postponed, it means double happiness), the guests took a couple and carried Shiluo to the woman's house for dinner, also called "Huimen", and Zhang Yuejia hosted a banquet for them. The son-in-law will kowtow to the elders of Zhang Yue's family, and the recipients will give them small gifts in return to show their recognition. On the day of returning home, people in the courtyard of the women's village will play with their son-in-law, who must be kind-hearted and have a good mouth, and sometimes give the red seal to pranksters. -until dark, and then go home.

Also called salute. To tie the knot, relatives should salute, and uncles, aunts and godfathers should pay tribute-steam a pair of tigers and put HongLing on the groom. My uncle wants to buy a lamp and a washbasin, and other relatives will decide the weight of the gift according to the distance. Although distant relatives don't need to steam tigers, they should also bring nine big steamed buns, some steamed noodles fish and some steamed oil. The gifts of fellow villagers' friends are generally cash, which is called "dry gift". When the son of a respected person gets married, many villagers jointly sign "Happy Birthday" (also known as "note", that is, red silk satin), which reads "Natural Marriage" and "Happy Queqiao", and the host congratulates the villagers and holds a banquet for reception.