China ancient marriage custom system;

In ancient China, three books and six gifts for traditional weddings were formulated.

1, three copies:

The letter of appointment, that is, the engagement letter, is signed by both men and women. When Najib (Guo) is used.

Gift book, that is, gift book, is a gift list, which lists the types and quantities of gifts in detail and is used when receiving gifts.

Marriage book, that is, the book for marrying the bride, is used when picking up the bride on the wedding day.

2. Six gifts: including receiving gifts, asking names, Najib, receiving gifts, inviting parties and welcoming guests.

"Receiving gifts" is the first of the six gifts. When the man is partial to the woman, he proposes to the woman's house and asks the matchmaker to be the matchmaker. After the woman agrees, she accepts the engagement gift from the man's family, which is called "receiving the gift".

"Asking the name" means that the man asks the woman's name and birthday time, which is called "eight characters". The purpose of asking names is twofold: to prevent close relatives with the same surname from getting married; Use the date of birth obtained by asking the name to predict whether the marriage of the parties is appropriate.

"Naji" means asking for a name. If both men and women are lucky and their personalities don't collide, the man's envoy sends a matchmaker to the woman's house to send a small gift, telling her that the marriage negotiation can continue. This is called Naji, and later it is called "Guo Wen Ding" or "Ding Xiao", which is usually held one month before the wedding. The man chose an auspicious day, brought three wine gifts to the woman's house, and formally submitted his letter of appointment.

"Requisition" refers to the formal dowry, in which the man gives gifts, cakes, gifts and sacrifices until the woman's home, which is now called "gift". The bride price shows that men can undertake family and social responsibilities, and reflects the important position of wealth and power in women's minds under the conditions of private ownership society and underdeveloped productivity.

"Invitation party" means that after the man asks the fortune teller to choose a date and determines the auspicious day for marriage, he sends someone to inform the woman's family and ask her for advice. This is called invitation party, and now it is called "choosing a date".

"Kissing" is the last procedure of the Six Rites, that is, the groom takes a limousine to the woman's house to greet the bride. There are two meanings: the man personally went to the woman's house to see his mother, showing respect for her; It shows that men have a strong desire for their husbands' lives. In ancient times, people attached great importance to weddings. If you don't get married through a wedding ceremony, it is considered impolite and will be laughed at by the world. At that time, kissing was regarded as the basis of whether the relationship between husband and wife was completely established. If a woman's husband dies before meeting her, she can remarry. However, once the husband dies after kissing, according to etiquette, the bride can only resign herself to death.

The most complicated thing is the process of getting married. Including bridal sedan chair, wedding ceremony, banquet, bridal chamber, wedding ceremony, wedding ceremony and bridal chamber.

1, Bridal Sedan: Led by a reliable person and matchmaker, the gifts will be delivered to the woman's home in four boxes. The wedding procession, full of gongs and drums, is vast, carrying colorful flags and carrying sedan chairs to the woman's house. After a series of ceremonies, the bride carried the sedan chair on her brother's back, and then followed the bugle call "sedan chair" to the man's house.

2. Worship the church: also known as "worship heaven and earth", issued by worshippers: one worships heaven and earth, the other worships ancestors, the third worships Gaotang, and the husband and wife worship. Then, under the guidance of the giver, the couple paid New Year greetings to the male elders in turn, and then to the guests and friends. The purpose of worshipping the church is to gain the approval of the ancestors, elders and neighbors of the gods for marriage, thus helping to consolidate the family system.

3. Banquet: Hold a wedding banquet and entertain friends and relatives.

4, noisy bridal chamber: Candle night, girls and boys break into the bridal chamber or make noise outside the bridal chamber. There is a folk saying that "the more trouble, the more trouble".

5. Get married and get married. "Marriage" means that the newlyweds drink "acacia wine" in the bridal chamber, which symbolizes the eternal friendship of the newlyweds. "Knot hair" means that after the woman promised to get married, she tied her hair with tassels, and only when she got married did the groom untie it herself. Later, great changes have taken place in the traditional guitar festival. The newlyweds each cut a strand of hair in their new house and tied it in one place as a symbol of their union. This is called "bun". Whether the hair is tied together or tied together, it means that their souls will always be together and never separate.

Under the modern feudal patriarchal clan system and the form of buying and selling marriage, marriage is often decided by parents, children are in a passive position, and mate selection is mostly closed. Most ethnic minorities are more open in choosing their spouses.

With the improvement of civilization, open mate selection has gradually become the dominant factor in modern society. The engagement marks the establishment of the engagement, and the folks express the end of the engagement by sending bride price, and the employment methods of different nationalities are also different. Paternity is also a popular marriage custom, and the richness of dowry is often related to the status of women in the future family, which has always been valued by people. The wedding reception is the climax of the wedding. There are a series of processes from the groom's preparation of the car to the wedding ceremony, and each process has several or even a dozen etiquette. Weddings of various ethnic groups have their own characteristics due to different social conditions.