What is the wedding custom in Guizhou? What are the customs?

Marriage is an important part of family continuity. The ancients attached great importance to it, and the etiquette was very complicated. There are six ceremonies, including accepting lots, asking names, Najib, accepting marriage and inviting weddings. The old-fashioned marriage in Xiangfan has gradually evolved into several steps: engagement, date selection and wedding banquet.

be engaged

First, the man's parents asked Grandpa Hong (the matchmaker) to propose marriage to the woman's house. If the woman's parents agree, Grandpa Hong will give the woman's "eight-character Geng sticker" (that is, a Cambodian sticker indicating the date of birth of the woman) to the man. Commonly known as "taking eight characters", it is also called "passing Geng". On auspicious days, the man's parents ask a trusted fortune teller to calculate the eight characters of this man and a woman, which is called "matching eight characters". If two people are guilty of each other's lives, then the proposal is abandoned; If they are compatible with each other, they can get engaged The whole betrothal process is decided by parents, and young men and women are not allowed to ask. As the saying goes, "parents' orders, matchmakers' words."

Select a date.

After the engagement, men and women give the woman a gift once a year, which is called "Geng Chong" at an appropriate time. The man asks Grandpa Hong to discuss the wedding date with the woman, and the woman puts forward the specifications of the bride price. After the two sides agree, the bride price is given and the wedding date is determined, usually on auspicious days of the ecliptic or on double days of the lunar calendar. Xiangfan people like to choose the eighth, eighteenth and twenty-eighth days, which is called "getting rich without leaving eight"

Welcome relatives

Folk also called "expired". The day before the wedding, a banquet was held to entertain the guests. The man called it "warm lang wine" and the woman called it "comb wine". On the wedding day, the groom is dressed neatly, dressed in red, sitting in a sedan chair or riding a horse, holding a sedan chair to meet the bride. Firecrackers and gongs and drums kept ringing all the way. Go to the woman's house and worship her ancestors. The bride wears a feather crown, a red coat and a skirt. After bidding farewell to her ancestors, she gets into a sedan chair, which is presented by her brother or nephew. Then, the groom's sedan chair (horse) takes the lead, followed by the bride's sedan chair and dowry, and gongs, drums and firecrackers greet the man's home. When they got off the sedan chair, they were assisted by the bride, and the bride and groom worshipped heaven and earth, worshipped the high hall and went into the bridal chamber to drink. On this day, guests, cousins and uncles can participate in a "noisy room", which is called "three days without size". During this period, guests are given a big banquet, which is called "drinking a wedding banquet". All relatives and friends who give gifts are included in the banquet. The bride's family should take the chief seat, attend the banquet and go home immediately after the banquet. On the third day, the bride's brother or nephew came to meet the newlyweds, which is called "returning to the door". Go back to the man's house after dinner, which means "no room for three days" In the whole wedding process, there are many trivial symbolic studies. For example, sowing peanuts, chestnuts and red dates in the bridal chamber bed is a good omen for "early decision" (jujube chestnuts) and flowers (children alternating). Putting the shoes of the bride and groom together symbolizes that they will grow old together, and so on.

After the founding of

With the promulgation of the Marriage Law, the feudal arranged marriage system was abolished and the old wedding ceremony was changed. Men and women can freely fall in love and register for marriage. Weddings are mostly held in national legal or traditional folk festivals. The 1950s and 1970s were proud of simplicity. The woman does not want a bride price, and the man does not count as a dowry. He greeted the bride on foot or by bike, and his manners were generous and simple. When national public officials get married, they usually hold a ceremony in the office to celebrate the hospitality of Yan tea. Although the folks entertain relatives and friends, they are also very simple. In the 1980s, people's living standards generally improved. Some families buy high-end furniture, household appliances, send their families away by car, and have a big banquet for several days in a row, often hollowing out the savings of both families for many years. Some young people and their parents advocate frugality, do not show off, do not treat guests, and invite newlyweds to participate in collective weddings organized by relevant departments. After a warm and simple ceremony, the newlyweds planted concentric trees, which not only symbolizes.

In the old society, when a man is widowed and remarried, the etiquette is the same as the first marriage, which is called "mistress". Generally speaking, women no longer marry, but remarry, commonly known as "going to another home." There is no ceremony for remarriage, and the man can welcome him to his home. After the founding of People's Republic of China (PRC), widows' remarriage was affirmed by society and protected by law.

Shoudan

Birthday, commonly known as "living" or "doing life". Children eat longevity noodles on their birthdays, wear new clothes, and elders give toys, stationery or food. Old people's 50th, 60th and 70th birthdays are even more grand, and most of them are presided over by the younger generation, congratulated by relatives and friends, presented with birthday couplets, birthday plaques or other gifts, and treated with wine by the host.

funeral

In the old days, burial was popular, and coffins (also known as longevity wood) were particularly exquisite. They are made of high-quality wood, such as Chinese fir, cypress and catalpa, and are packed inside, carved outside and painted repeatedly. After death, people wash bodies, put on shroud and put them in coffins, which is called "burial". The coffin was put into the mourning hall and stopped for 3 days accompanied by relatives of the deceased at night. Then the dutiful son and grandson sent it to the cemetery for burial.

After the founding of

The feudal superstitious activities in the above funeral were gradually abolished. Cremation was advocated in the mid-1970s. National public officials and most citizens only set up mourning halls, wreaths and elegiac couplets to hold memorial services to prepare for funerals. Family members and relatives wear black veil on their left arm to mourn, and the etiquette is solemn and solemn. In recent years, some old customs in folk funeral have risen again in a few places.