Is there no custom of engagement in Xiagang, Jiangyin?

Engagement, first of all, is to propose. Marriage proposal includes the custom of "fixing age" Fixed age refers to the marriage contract concluded by parents for unborn children. "Fixed age" includes finger-pointing marriage and early marriage; After the proposal, if the woman's family agrees after listening to the details of the man, an engagement ceremony will be held, with a "small wine ceremony". The date of "small wine ceremony" should be reported to the woman's house after the man's house has chosen an auspicious day. The man bears all the expenses of the "small wine ceremony". The woman's grandparents, parents and uncle attended the funeral. The man has the best man, a suitor (some suitors don't go), two officials and an old man with the same birthday as the sacrificial rites go to the woman's house, and there is also a gift giver (toast). The date of the "big wine ceremony" was agreed at the banquet. The date of the big wine ceremony is decided by the man asking the Lama to choose an auspicious day. All expenses are borne by the man. After the banquet, the main figures of both sides set up special seats again and agreed to ask the man for the number and type of bride price. And initially agreed on the wedding date, the specific date please Lama or Mr. North Korea to choose. At the "big wine ceremony", the man, regardless of seniority, led the groom to toast in turn. After the toast, the girl's sister-in-law gave the groom the boots (mostly boots with shoes in summer) and purses made by the girl herself. At the end of the banquet, the woman's family should at least prepare towels, hada and other gifts in return for the man. And according to the number and types of bride price, the "big wine gift" is agreed. After the bride price is ready, the man, led by the matchmaker, goes to the woman's house with others to send the bride price. The woman's house is very hospitable. At the banquet, speakers from both sides entertained their speeches with humorous and praising songs to celebrate.