What's the point of proposing at home?

In the wedding custom in China, when the man proposes to the woman's house, he should pay special attention to some details, so as to leave a good impression on the woman's house. So what's the point of proposing at home? Come and have a look with me.

What are the customs of proposing relatives at home? What is the specific process of proposing relatives?

1. Arrange the time for proposing marriage. Proposing marriage is a necessary step before marriage. Discuss with the bride-to-be first when it is better to propose at home. I suggest that the wedding be arranged at least half a year in advance. If the time is too tight, wedding planning will be very busy, which will add a lot of trouble to the couple. This requires time to communicate with both parents, and the best appointment time is usually in the morning.

2. Determine the number of people participating in the proposal. The groom must not go alone, but he needs to bring his elders. If his parents are alive, he must take them with him. If his parents are away, he will invite his closest relatives. The number of people participating in the proposal represents Geely, but the number of people participating in the proposal is no more than 6, so the groom should pay attention.

3. Prepare a proposal gift. First, prepare a part of the bride price. The amount of the bride price can be 20,000 to 30,000 yuan. Bring two cigarettes, two bottles of mellow white wine, two boxes of tonics and two boxes of delicious desserts, which represents the hope that the whole family will be harmonious, sweet and happy, and increase their confidence in proposing marriage. The more expensive the gift, the easier it is to succeed.

4. Be polite. Come to the woman's house in the morning and bring your own gifts and bride price. From the moment you enter the door, you should pay attention to your words and deeds and say hello to your parents. I hope both parties can make a good impression and decide the wedding in a relaxed and happy environment. It is impolite for the younger generation not to interrupt when the elder is talking.

What's the point of proposing at home?

1. The two sides agreed on the time and place of the meeting in advance. In order to respect the woman, it is best to stay at her house. If the woman doesn't agree, then follow her wishes.

2, the man should prepare some gifts in advance, the north is generally a four-color ceremony of tobacco, alcohol, sugar and tea, and some places may change cigarettes into clothes. If it is a blind date in different places, you can bring some special products.

It may be necessary to finalize the wedding date on the day of blind date. This is the main purpose of blind date in some places, and only the elders of both sides will decide after consulting the opinions of both sides.

In addition, we can also determine the specific number of women attending the wedding and the specific requirements for the wedding, which can be agreed according to local customs.

4. The amount of bride price given by the man to the woman depends on local customs and personal tolerance.

It should be reminded that it is best for the man to arrive at the woman's house before noon, which is a respect for the woman, and the existence of the woman's uncle should not be ignored in the process of negotiation and banquet. Mom and uncle are both big.

Matters needing attention in proposing marriage at home

First, before proposing, the man needs to go to the woman's house to ask if he can propose. At this time, I will visit the woman's parents and give some gifts appropriately. Because the span from marriage proposal to marriage is usually half a year or a year, it should be decided according to the specific situation.

Second, after visiting the woman's parents and getting permission to propose, we should discuss when to propose. Generally speaking, the date of marriage proposal should be auspicious or beneficial to both men and women. The Chinese zodiac does not hit the eight characters, which means a good start. Of course, it is better to choose sunny days. In some places, it's the first month and July, so you can't propose. This shows that the date is a little particular.

Third, when proposing marriage, never in the afternoon, because it is impolite to go beyond 12 noon in many places. Of course, if you are in a different place, you can leave for the woman's house at eight or nine o'clock, or you can come one day in advance. Now both husband and wife propose in the man's house, which is not like before. It has been simplified to only need the man's parents or the older generation to go together, preferably even numbers.

Fourth, never buy Sydney bananas. Apple is a safe fruit. Or bring some sweet fruits and cakes. The best choice is in tobacco, alcohol and tea. When buying these gifts, don't buy some cheap candy that has no grade or can be bought casually to save money, which will lower the grade, disrespect the woman's family and reduce the success rate of marriage proposal.

Fifth, the process of proposing marriage will inevitably involve some bride price, or some discussions about wedding date, dowry and gift money. At this time, the couple should try to control their emotions, respect their parents and try not to interrupt when they are talking. Be patient even if you encounter something you don't want, and be reasonable when appropriate. Generally speaking, when you propose, you are in a good mood and won't quarrel casually.

What do I need to prepare to propose?

First of all, gifts are essential. In order to win the woman you love, you need to choose the gift that your parents-in-law like with a sincere heart. Finding a good gift is also a criterion to measure the sincerity of a son-in-law.

You can know what your parents-in-law like through your girlfriend's mouth, and choosing a gift that suits your appetite will give you a lot of points to some extent. In addition, it is similar to cigarettes, wine, candy or other supplements. More suitable for the south and the north. For example, in some areas he needs to bring cakes, or red dates, lotus seeds, chickens and ducks.

When choosing gifts, the man must remember to choose brands such as tobacco, alcohol and tea. To show respect for the woman's family. If the woman's family has grandparents, she needs to bring some fruits and drinks. If you have children, you should also wrap a red envelope or send some children's toys. It's a bonus item. These gifts need an even number, so you can't pay for them.

Secondly, the most important question is how much gift money to prepare for marriage proposal. Gift money is what we call a bride price. The size depends on the man's economic strength. If the woman is really in love with you, her parents-in-law are more open-minded, but the size doesn't really matter. Generally speaking, this bonus will be returned to the man before marriage, or the woman chooses something of equal value, or returned to the bride in the form of a red envelope.

In addition to what the man is going to propose, the woman needs it throughout the proposal process. Because when the man proposes, the items he usually chooses are more expensive. Therefore, when the woman returns the gift, she can't accept it all, but should give the man some gifts to show politeness.

What gift did you bring to propose?

1, gift

Before proposing marriage, the man should take the initiative to ask the woman's views and opinions, such as the amount, whether to accept the bride price, etc. And we must discuss it before, otherwise there will be a lot of trouble. Engagement fees are divided into two categories: large engagement (the amount is 20 million to several million) and small engagement (the amount is above 0- 1 10,000). Generally speaking, there is no engagement fee for accepting a small engagement, withdrawing a big engagement or sending a house, and the customs vary slightly from place to place.

Determine whether the engagement fee includes wedding cake and other etiquette expenses (such as uncle's gift, grooming gift, mother's birthday gift, table pressing gift, chef's gift, door opening gift, candle lighting gift, serving gift, etc. ) or does this money already include cake money, all etiquette supplies needed for the engagement ceremony and 12 red envelopes?

Of course, it can also be decided according to local customs in the end. In some areas, it is not necessary to bring gifts.

2. Six kinds of gifts

Two cigarettes (such as Zhonghua), two bottles of famous wine (such as Wuliangye) and two boxes of high-grade supplements (such as ginseng and cordyceps sinensis).

If the woman's grandparents live together, they need to buy some drinks, food and fruit for the elderly to show their love and respect for the elderly. If the woman has children at home, she needs to bring a children's educational toy, a small schoolbag or a children's book.

3. Eight kinds of gifts

Traditionally, marriage proposal should bring eight gifts: cigarettes, wine, tea, sugar, cakes, noodles, fish and meat.

Special note: noodles, generally choose noodles (including dried noodles); Fish, generally choose carp; Meat, generally choose pig hind legs;

In particular, remember: cigarettes, wine, tea, sugar, cakes and noodles must be of good quality and high grade, and be bought in duplicate. In some places, the old rule is to bring money, because the parents of the man need to buy clothes and three gold for the woman.

4, holiday gifts

If the marriage proposal coincides with a holiday, you have to bring holiday gifts, such as moon cakes on the Mid-Autumn Festival and zongzi on the Dragon Boat Festival.

5. Special products prepared by yourself

The other parents know that your parents prepared their own special dishes, which shows that the women in your team are very respectful and sincere and attach great importance to this meeting. Your first impression of your family can make your parents feel good. After all, I think your family is very concerned about this, so they will be very concerned about their daughter in the future.

6. Fruit milk

It still depends on family background and parents' views. If the other party is a rural family, of course, it is more appropriate to send this, because rural families don't care much about etiquette, and they think these are ok. If it is a family in the town, the other party may think that you or your family are too casual and will be dissatisfied with this kind of thing.