Chaoshan marriage proposal and engagement custom

The custom of marriage proposal in Chaoshan includes astrology, bride price and date selection.

1, six-pointed star

Before engagement in Chaoshan, it is necessary to form eight characters. After the two parties propose marriage, the matchmaker will write a letter with the woman's name, date of birth, native place and it runs in the family and send it to the man. Within three days, if there is no accident at the man's house, it is three days. With this good sign, the man agreed to exchange Geng posts. Change the post and invite people to get married, depending on whether the two sides live together or share the rent. Although both men and women now advocate free love and have long since got rid of these marriage customs, many people still keep the custom of "matching eight characters".

Step 2 send a bride price

In the past, the bride price of rich people was gold and silver, colored satin, pigs and sheep, wine and fruit; Ordinary people are green olives and cocktails. Chaozhou people regards olives as auspicious symbols and a special wedding gift. At present, the betrothal gifts include in kind and cash, mainly sugar, noodles, Chaozhou oranges, gold and silver jewelry, clothes and fabrics, cakes and food. , and the number must be even. During the engagement, the woman should give back gifts, some engagement gifts, mandarin ducks, bananas, oranges, pig hearts and so on.

Step 3 choose a day

After the engagement ceremony, the man should choose the wedding date and tell the woman, including telling her when to cut the wedding dress, when to pull a face, when to take a shower and when to get married. Most of the time chosen by chaozhou people is in the middle of the night, and it is an ancient legacy for hipsters to keep the custom of getting married late at night. In ancient times, weddings always lasted until dusk, so wedding ceremonies must be held after dusk or even late at night.

What's the difference between marriage proposal and engagement?

1, with different purposes.

Proposal: It is the man who brings gifts to the woman's house to express his desire to marry their daughter. Generally speaking, the man's parents and the man himself go to the woman's house together and tell her parents the idea of getting married, which is also a formal occasion for both parents to meet.

Engagement: engagement is the final decision for marriage, that is, engagement between men and women is the prelude to marriage.

2. The process is different

Propose marriage: Propose marriage is relatively simple. Families of both men and women discuss marriage and get to know each other. The gifts brought by the man when proposing marriage are relatively simple, usually some accompanying gifts, such as tea gift boxes and fruits.

Engagement: Engagement is relatively complicated and requires an engagement ceremony and an engagement party. At the same time, it is more expensive for the man to prepare gifts to show his sincerity. Generally, when engaged, the man will prepare bride price, bride price money and engagement ring, and the woman will return the gift according to the custom.