You must know these taboos about sharing a room.

How to give birth to a smart and healthy child as the inheritance of our family is definitely not casual, but has certain norms. Parents live in the same room, and such a large magnetic field between heaven and earth has a great influence on children and parents, so it is very important for us to choose a suitable atmosphere between heaven and earth.

In terms of time, we must first avoid extreme weather and natural disasters. Why?

When you live between heaven and earth, you will be induced by the qi of heaven and earth. There are six qi between heaven and earth, namely wind, cold, heat, humidity, dryness and fire, which are normal climate changes and can nourish us. However, the six qi changes too much. If it exceeds a certain limit, the six qi will be harmful to the human body and become the pathogenic six yin, which means excessive. If you share a bed in an abnormal atmosphere, it will disturb your mind, break the balance of yin and yang, lead to qi and blood disorder, affect the health of both men and women, and naturally it is not good for children.

There are many expositions in this respect, such as "Be prepared in case of emergency, make up in the room", "New Books for Children" and "The Complete Book of Jingyue, Women's Rules and Children's Classes". You can read the following original text carefully:

In addition to avoiding extreme weather and natural disasters, we should also pay attention to avoiding the four departures, four unique, four vertical, two bisections and two solstices in the 24 solar terms. Why? Four-day departure and four-day departure are the times when the four seasons intersect, the seasons change and the yin and yang are out of balance. The four-day departure is the day before the vernal equinox, autumnal equinox, summer solstice and winter solstice, and the departure is the day of separation of yin and yang. The four wonders are beginning of spring the day before, Changxia, beginning of autumn and beginning of winter. Four are beginning of spring, Changxia, beginning of autumn and beginning of winter; The dichotomy is vernal equinox and autumnal equinox; The second solstice is the summer solstice and the winter solstice. One or several days before and after this seasonal change, the ancients thought it was the key point of the alternating change of yin and yang between heaven and earth. The yin and yang of the human body are influenced by heaven and earth, so these time points are not suitable for the combination of men and women and embryonic development.

Then there is the taboo of yin and yang. The first and fifteenth days of each month are the days when the outline of the moon is deficient. Remember to look at the lunar calendar. The first and fifteenth days of each month are not suitable for sharing a room. Every year, the fifth, sixth, seventh, fifteenth, sixteenth, seventeenth, twenty-fifth, twenty-sixth and twenty-seventh days of the fifth lunar month, commonly known as Nine Poison Days, are taboo for sexual intercourse. It is said that the fifth day of May is a day when the Qi of Yin and Yang is contending, Yin prevails over Yang, and the poisonous gas of plague runs rampant for a while. We call it the dumping of Yang as the spirit or poisoning, so sexual life must be forbidden on such a day.

There is also the Double Ninth Festival in September, when the yang flourishes and the yin declines. Chongyang is the peak of yang number, so after reaching the limit, it will immediately go to another level and become a negative number. Therefore, to avoid all rash behavior, we must be cautious, including sexual intercourse. There is also the morning twilight every day, which is also the moment when yin and yang are transformed and handed over. Remember to have sex.

The Sutra of the Plain Woman summarizes nine taboos about the timing of pregnancy-"Husband and wife must avoid nine yin and nine disasters", which says: "The beginning of human life lies in the combination of yin and yang. Harmony between yin and yang avoids nine disasters. Nine evils, the son of Japan and China, born with rebellion, one also; At midnight, the world is closed, and if it is not dark, it will be deaf and blind. Secondly; The son of the eclipse, physical damage, three also; The son of thunder and lightning, angry and prosperous, will change clothes, four also; The son and mother of the eclipse are fierce, five also; Arcobaleno, if ominous, six also; The son of winter and summer harms his parents to the day, seven also; The son of string hope will be blind as a mutinous soldier, eight also; A drunken son must be sick, gangrene, hemorrhoids and sores.

Taboo days for husband and wife to conceive in the same room:

I'm here to tell you that if you really believe in traditional wisdom, in fact, before giving birth, I suggest browsing Huangdi Neijing and Su Nv Jing a little first.

Most of the contents in Huangdi Neijing are about the relationship between man and heaven, including life and death, the conditions needed for health, the causes of diseases and so on. If we can learn something from it and apply it to our pregnancy preparation, it will be very beneficial.

The Sutra of Plain Woman is a good book to teach women how to be a mother or become a mother. I saw it before the baby was born. You can look for it. It tells us many taboos about having children, including having boys and girls, and how to avoid some things. I think every mother should finish reading this book in advance. Although we are talking about these things, after reading them, we will know that these are all great wisdom accumulated by our ancestors, and we can pass this wisdom on to our children.

In fact, this so-called sex education has long existed in China. The sex education of the ancients was very deep and cultured, so we parents will find that some things can actually warn children subtly with wisdom.

I remember when I read these books before pregnancy, I was in awe, because after reading the dates written by the ancients, I stood in line all day, trying to rule out these days and choose sunny days. Later, I saw that few days were suitable days, but even so, I was in poor health, but I was pregnant with a healthy and intelligent baby in a short time, which also confirmed what the ancients said.

So we should also follow the taboos handed down by our ancestors. There are also warnings in the Sutra of Plain Woman. For example, some days we really can't share a room, because the atmosphere of heaven and earth is not harmonious, and children born in the same room are prone to blindness or some congenital disabilities. Some children with congenital defects can be seen at a glance. For example, his eyes are spaced apart, his eyes are dull, and his whole face is sunken. For example, children in congenital deafness, we will find that their faces are somewhat similar, that is to say, the aura that affected them at that time was very similar.

Five thousand years ago, the Sutra of the Plain Woman in the era of the Yellow Emperor recorded the dialogue between the Yellow Emperor and Motome about sexual health and prenatal and postnatal care, and some medical works, such as Prescription for Emergency Use, also discussed prenatal and postnatal care. Other ancient books will tell us that on some days, if men and women share a room, it is easy to hurt men a hundred times and make women sick. It means that if we don't choose a date, not only will we not get a healthy child, but we will also let men hurt their bodies and make women sick. I think the ancients' vision is much farther than ours. As a young man now, we might as well look at what the ancients summed up, so we can take a lot of detours less.

Choosing land is the key to a good pregnancy.

You know, people are in a certain time and space. We should not only choose the right time, but also have the right place, just like sowing seeds, and we should also consider the season and environment. Chinese medicine believes that it is not recommended to conceive in the sun during the day, under the stars and the moon at night, under the fire, and in all remote and special places such as wells, stoves, toilets and graves.

Bad environment will affect the mood of both men and women, hinder the quality of sexual intercourse, and also affect the development of the fetus.

Sun Simiao in the book "for emergencies, room color" is introduced like this:

"Meet ... and avoid the sun, the moon, the stars, the morning, the fire, the sides of Buddhist temples, kitchens and toilets, and the sides of tombs. When a husband meets the law, he is blessed with great wisdom and good people, and he can still make his sexual behavior smooth and harmonious and his family prosperous and auspicious. If the law is not so good, there will be poor, stupid and immoral people to raise the fetus, which will still put parents' sexual behavior at risk, and they can't do it. The family will not work, and disasters will come again and again. Although they grow up, their country will perish. "

Sun Simiao, a famous doctor in Tang Dynasty

The Secret of the Jade House also says: "Anyone who is a god of mountains and rivers is also taboo." Just can't share a room in the wild in broad daylight. Society refers to the land temple, Suzhi Valley God, which means that all temples are not allowed.

In short, it's best to choose a place that we are familiar with and feel warm and comfortable, preferably in our own home. Even in your own home, there are taboos, and it is not recommended to be around the toilet, around the stove and in the living room. Zhang Jiebin (Jingyue), a medical scientist in the Ming Dynasty, also said:

"The right place is not important for children, and there are suitable children in the mansion. Only those who are angry and taboo are the most auspicious ... In addition, if they have sexual intercourse in a dormitory, they should also be known and taboo. "

It's best to choose our bedroom, which is clean, tidy and ventilated. In short, a comfortable and comfortable environment is good for roommates and health.

This article is taken from Niu Ma's Ancient Parenting Enlightenment.