How to deal with a mother-in-law who specializes in picking things up behind her back?

First of all, we must unite our wives, and secondly, we must show our attitude in front of our wives and family, with a firm tone, a tough attitude and a clear position. There must be no hesitation in your eyes. Give what you should and don't give more points for what you shouldn't, otherwise people will never want to suffer again once they eat sugar!