Engagement etiquette

Marriage is a major event in life, and engagement is the most important thing before marriage, so you should know the engagement ceremony clearly. The following is my carefully collected engagement etiquette for you, I hope you like it! More information is in the etiquette column!

Traditional engagement ceremony process

1, ancestor worship

Ask the bride's uncle to light candles and burn incense, and the woman will give them to her mother's uncle? Candle lighting? Two pairs of incense (provided by the man), one for the woman's parents and four for the prospective couple. The matchmaker reads auspicious words, and then the woman's parents worship the gods and ancestors, suing for marriage and blessing. When inserting incense, you must not insert it once. (taboo: the possibility of bigamy)

Step 2 give away cakes

The woman will distribute the engagement wedding cake to relatives and friends, and the bride is not allowed to eat her own wedding cake.

3. ancestor worship

Before leaving, the man offered sacrifices to his ancestors and prayed for a happy marriage.

4. engagement party

After the engagement ceremony, the woman gave a banquet. After dinner, the man's parents gave it to him Table pressing ceremony? Red envelopes? Sister table? Red envelopes. The woman should also prepare chicken legs with red paper and attach red envelopes to the young man. The younger generation of the woman washed her hands with washbasin water (with towels in it) for the man's visitors (given by the man? Holding a basin of water? Red envelopes), such as banquets in restaurants, can be omitted. The man also gave red envelopes to all those who had helped him as a thank-you gift. At the end of the banquet, don't say goodbye when the man leaves, so as not to breed complications. The prospective father-in-law gave it to the new son-in-law? Thank you for this gift? (omitted). A prospective mother-in-law gives a new wife one? Thank you for this gift? (omitted).

Step 5 welcome

When the man hired a motorcade to go about 100 meters in front of the woman's house, she fired a shot and the woman responded. The matchmaker gets off first, and others are next; Finally, the groom was invited out by the younger generation of the woman's family, and the groom gave the younger generation a red envelope (opening ceremony).

Step 6 introduce

The man's relatives and friends filed into the woman's house in turn, and the matchmaker formally introduced the relatives and friends of both sides; Introduce the man to the woman first.

7. Zheng Na

The man's staff carried Chunsheng (now known as the red wooden box) into the woman's living room as a bride price, and the woman accepted the bride price and rewarded it with a red envelope (a gift from the porter/driver) to show the bride price one by one. The matchmaker sends gifts such as dowry and gold ornaments to the woman's parents, and the woman's relatives and friends collect the dowry and display the offerings on the altar.

8. Serve sweet tea

The elder of the woman asks the relative of the man to sit down according to his age, and the groom comes last. At this time, the bride was led out of the hall by a blessed woman, holding sweet tea for the man's guests one by one. The number of cups is the same as the number of people drinking tea, neither more nor less. The matchmaker reads auspicious words and wishes.

9, tea ou

Later, the blessed woman will take the tea tray to lead the bride out of the hall to collect the tea cups, and the relatives and friends of the man will put the red envelopes and the tea cups (the red envelopes are rolled up and put in the cups) on the tea tray one by one.

10, ring

The gold-dividing ring and the bronze ring (taking its sound, meaning concentric or diamond ring can be used instead) are connected with red lines. At that time, the blessed woman will lead the bride into the hall. In the presence of parents and relatives of both parties, the bride-to-be sits in the high chair in the hall facing outward, with her feet on the low chair (if it is supernumerary, facing inward). Wear a ring, first the bride's middle finger and then the groom's middle finger (generally only to the second knuckle, both men and women are left-handed), and the matchmaker reads auspicious words. The groom gives official money (red envelopes) to the bride, and the matchmaker reads auspicious words. The prospective mother-in-law put a necklace on the bride as a gift. After putting on the engagement ring, the matchmaker suggested that both parties change their names and address them one by one.

1 1, the woman replies.

What is the name of the gift that the woman gives back to the man? Huisheng? (also known as? Did you press it ), put it in a man? Rent a gift? Take it out of the empty container. A woman sent it from a man? Rent a gift? Send back a part. The bride prepares personal belongings (6 pieces or 12 pieces) for the groom from head to toe in advance. Tradition returns. If the divorce fee or only a small refund, the woman will leave a red note, and the matchmaker will take it from the woman's parents to the man's parents.

Matters needing attention in engagement ceremony

1, the two sides communicate well.

Before the engagement, both parents meet to exchange local customs, which is a respect for the woman's parents (after all, her daughter is so old that she will become your family). On the day of engagement, both parents can discuss the process casually.

The engagement money is as much as 1117 thousand and 3850 thousand, depending on your financial ability

The engagement money is wrapped in red envelopes by the man's parents on the engagement day and given to the woman's parents (most of them will be given to the bride and groom later).

When engaged, the man must buy more sugar, and when the woman's parents leave, they should take it back and distribute it to relatives and friends.

Then there is Sanjin (jewelry), which can be bought at the time of engagement or marriage, or directly given to the woman for her own purchase.

You can change your mind if you are engaged or married. When you change your mouth, both parents will give you red envelopes, ranging from tens to hundreds, depending on the economic situation.

The wedding date is usually set in advance.

Half a year in advance can give both parties enough time to prepare for the wedding. Before the date, the man will go to the woman's house to ask for the bride's eight characters. When they arrive, the parents will take the horoscope of the bride and groom to find the date of fortune telling, and the horoscope that the best man and bridesmaid should avoid. Inform the woman after the date is determined. Generally, the date cannot be changed at will. The hotel must be booked one or two months before the wedding, so as not to be booked at that time. The bride price is usually given to the woman before the wedding (about 10 thousand yuan) The bride will follow the bride, and she will use the money to buy things needed for the wedding. Just when the bride is getting married, she goes to the bride's house to discuss the wedding day process.

3. The required items are ready.

Gifts that men should prepare:

1) Engagement fees can be divided into big engagement and small engagement, which should be evenly and properly wrapped in red paper.

2) Bridal gifts Usually, the bride price of the man can be divided into six simple gifts or twelve big gifts and sent to the woman's home.

3) How much is the banquet that the woman's family is going to entertain the man's family, and it will be paid in cash in the gift bag.

4) The matchmaker gave the man a little more gifts than the woman's.

5.) The number of people leaving the man's house for the woman's house is 6 or 10 or 12.

Gifts that women should prepare:

1) Pick some red envelopes to give gifts.

2) Prepare sweet tea.

3) Prepare dumplings and snacks.

4) Serve.

5) Give the groom 6 pieces or 12 pieces (hat, tie, cloth, cufflinks, etc. ).

6) The matchmaker gives some gifts.

4. Engagement gifts should be prepared:

1W 1 (one in a million, 1W 1 yuan, steel shovel rebate1000,2000 yuan).

2W2 (both ends are sent together, 2W and 2000 yuan are returned as gifts of 2000 yuan and 6000 yuan)

3W 1 (three companies send it together, 3W0 1 0000 yuan is cashed back, 10000 yuan)

5W 1 (foolproof, 5W0 1000 yuan rebate 10000 yuan, 20000 yuan)

6W6 (two families, 6W6,000 yuan rebate, 10000 yuan, 22000 yuan)

Gift money can also be returned according to the man's conditions, some of which are more than those sent by the man's matchmaker, so I won't explain it here!

5. Engagement time

Generally, the time required for engagement is to arrive at the woman's house at 10: 00 in the morning (meaning perfect). Seats will be open before noon 12: 00. After the opening ceremony, the hero and heroine need to bring jewelry to the heroine one by one in the big female seat. )

6. Fighting convoys

7. Engagement video

If possible, remember to reserve a video in advance to record your engagement process, which is quite meaningful.

8. On the day of engagement, the woman returns what the man needs.

1) includes needle (common needle)

2) Line (red line)

3) Incense (two incense sticks wrapped in red thread/paper)

4) raccoon (a plant. Two raccoons are wrapped in red thread/paper, so this word is replaced by raccoon) belt.

8) clothes (one of the two clothes that the woman bought for the man)

Different men and women negotiate in the region (commonly known as six-color ceremony)

9. What do you need to go back to your relatives' house (go to the woman's house the next day)

1) There are cigarettes, wine, sugar, tea and fish (carp).

2) Meat (tenderloin) (commonly known as six-color ceremony),

3) If the woman has an uncle (if she has grandparents, she should also send them), and send cigarettes, wine, sugar and tea (commonly known as four-color gifts) in a unified way, one for each family.

4) No aunt! (only send men and not women! )

What is suitable for participation:

I believe everyone knows that at a formal wedding, men wear suits and women wear wedding dresses, but engagement is different. There is no such rigid requirement for engagement, and it can be decent and elegant.

For the traditional engagement ceremony in China, ladies usually wear cheongsam and Tang suit, and most of them are red. This festive color can not only set off the atmosphere well, but also be beautiful.

For more solemn hotel weddings and western-style banquets, it is much more serious. Girls are usually dresses, simple wedding dresses without sweeping skirts, noble, beautiful and dignified, while men are suits.

Insiders introduced:? You can choose casual clothes, dresses or traditional Tang clothes. The key is whether the clothes are suitable for the temperament of the couple and the occasion at that time.

Complete background music suitable for participation

First, the background music of the wedding group admission

1, dream wedding:

Step 2 get married

3. The most beautiful scenery in the world

4. Because of you

5. Love certificate

6. You are going to marry me today

7. Here you are

8. Just love you

Second, review the love history of prospective couples. background music

1, hold hands

I caught a cold in that corner.

3. THEPRAYER & lt celine dion >

4. Canon piano music

SweetDream & lt Anglenala >

6. Love must be

7. Promise me when I count to five.

8. Give me your love

Third, the background music recommendation of prospective newcomers

1, March:

2. Wedding March;

3. Wedding March:

4. Figaro's wedding;

Give me your hand & lt Bandari Orchestra >

6. ido & lt98 degrees & gt

7. Avimaria < celine dion >

4. background music played by the person who announced the engagement ceremony

1 is wear & lt； Bandari Philharmonic Orchestra >

2. Perfect Moment & lt Pure Music >

3. I love you < pure music >

4. There is a person.

5, everythingIdo & lt accompaniment >

6. Proverbs of love _ accompaniment

7. Onlytime & lt Enya >

SAYYES & lt chuck and the bird >

Five, the prospective newcomers swear background music recommendation

1, mysterious garden;

2, the joy of love

3. I am willing to

4. I believe _ piano music

The moon represents my heart.

6. Onceinabluemoon & lt pure music >

7. The promise will not be easily fulfilled.

8. Romance of love

Six, token exchange background music recommendation

1, Love Concerto

2. Love Only & lt English Star 2>

3. transparent

4.SweetDream Piano Edition;

5. Beauty and < Coconut >

6. Follow me all my life

This is your love.

8. The most romantic thing

Seven, champagne ceremony background music recommendation

1, love life

2. Get close to you

3. Lovewillkeepsave < Eagles >

4. Dreaming of you

IKnewILovedYou & lt Savage Garden >

6. Hero < Maria Kelly >

7. Happy moments

8. Love is you

Eight, thank your parents for recommending the background music of the ceremony.

1, love home

2. ode to the virgin Mary

3, contentment _ companionship;

Step 4 understand you

5. The price of love

6. Schumann dreams < Di Yun >

7.kites

8. Who do you like best

Nine. Parents' speech background music recommendation

1, Dandelion's agreement _ accompaniment

2. Were you there along the way?

3. Born this way

4. Two lonely people in the world

5. Congratulations on your love tonight

6. You are love

May 1 day

8. I love you more and more every day _ pure music

X. recommendation of background music for newcomers' exit after ceremony

1, lovewillkeepsalive < eagles >

2. Ode to Joy;

Love you for not two or three days

4. The frequency of love

5. Time is up. Bye.

Matters needing attention in engagement party

Note 1: basic information of wedding banquet hotel

Determine the wedding time and find out how many wedding banquets there are on that day.

Discuss with the hotel how to determine the number of tables.

Ask about the discount items of the engagement party.

Note 2: Wedding menu

If there is not enough food on the wedding table, can we make up the food? How fast?

/kloc-Can we add seats to the banquet for 0/0?

The number of hot and cold dishes, soup and staple food in the menu.

Is there a service charge for preparing the table?

Does a minor child count as a person?

The charge and service scope of the banquet should be clearly stated in black and white, and no verbal commitment should be made. Don't accept some ambiguous words about dishes on the menu.

Note 3: Wedding drinks

Can I bring my own drink? Are there any restrictions on the types you bring? If you can't bring your own, are there any drinks in the store? What discount is there for using the drinks in the store? Is there an extra service charge? Is there a bottle opening fee?

The hotel does not provide free tea. It is necessary for everyone to pay attention to this. In case a guest wants tea that day, tea in a star hotel is not cheap. Bring your own tea if you can. They didn't say tea was not allowed.

Are there any extra charges for towels, paper towels and tea? Send wedding cakes? How old?/How big? What kind? Do you send champagne and champagne towers? Do you deliver red wine? Do you deliver fruit bowls? Whether to provide candy box or candy basket, poster big picture output.

Note 4: Hotel wedding banquet layout

Whether the hotel provides the layout of the wedding scene should be clearly written in the contract.

Are there any special restrictions on the banquet venue, such as spreading petals, blowing bubble machines, pulling firecrackers or setting off fireworks, lighting candles or fairy wand, and setting off dry ice or fireworks?

Ask whether the roof and walls of the hotel are allowed to be hung, nailed and decorated, and whether cold fireworks are allowed.

Table cloth color; Can you add a bow to the chair cover? Colors of tablecloths and chair covers.

Is there a time limit for the use of the venue? How long can the venue be arranged or rehearsed before the seats are opened?

Some hotels don't allow things with shells, such as peanuts and melon seeds. See if the hotel can allow them and get ready. The price of each table, the number of people, the service charge, whether to give fruit desserts, side dishes, melon seeds, sweets, and tasting dishes free of charge or other discounts.

Note 5: Lighting problems of hotel audio equipment.

Does the hotel provide audio equipment, and can the hotel provide someone to take charge of audio and lighting? Do you provide wedding music, microphones (wireless and wired), amplification equipment, projectors and curtains?

Note 6: Hotel services

Consult the hotel waiter to serve several wedding banquets at the same time. Is it for someone special? Is there anyone at the door who is responsible for guiding the guests to their seats? Is there anyone who is in charge or coordinating the wedding reception?

Confirm the tourist rest area.

Confirm whether there is a storage service.

Check the sanitation of the wedding banquet venue in advance.

Note 7: Your favorite hotel has not been booked yet.

Although there are many venues, considering the reputation, reasonable price, convenient transportation and auspicious choice, who are the newcomers? Collision marriage? The probability is naturally not low, it depends on who can take the lead. If you take a fancy to your favorite venue, especially the popular venue, it is certain to pay the deposit six months in advance to avoid falling asleep. Booking in advance can also prevent the market price from rising during the peak period. In short, the sooner you choose the site, the better the planning.

Note 8: The traffic at the meeting place is inconvenient.

Try to choose a location with convenient transportation and extending in all directions for the wedding venue, which can maximize the convenience of guests. If you choose a venue that you are not particularly familiar with, it is recommended to indicate the feasible transportation route on the invitation letter. If the wedding is held in a remote villa, it is best to arrange the shuttle bus in the city center in advance.

Note 9: The venue is not big enough.

Master the number of guests, and try to keep the average number floating at 1 to facilitate the scheduling on the wedding day. In addition, the vacant space gives people a great sense of relaxation and transparency. However, after the guests are seated on the wedding day, the increase in the distance between tables and chairs, the reserved passage between adjacent tables, and the shape and position of the tables themselves will affect the overall spatial layout, which should be taken into account.

Note 10: The stage is too small.

The big stage has become a trend of weddings. As a game? Show? Only a large space can bring your mind into play, and different venue layouts can meet the needs of different wedding ceremonies. Some brides wear long white dresses with large bottoms. If they stand on a narrow stage, it is very troublesome to turn around and walk around. In addition, the popular indoor flower throwing ceremony also needs enough stage space. In addition, the spacious and romantic stage scenery can set off the beautiful image of the bride and groom on the stage and become the focus of attention. The photos taken are naturally suitable for distance and diversity.

Note 1 1: The food tastes bad.

Food is the most important thing for the people. Even in the most beautiful venue, there is no food, which is a sign of rudeness in the wedding. ? Does it taste good？ It is one of the important indexes of site selection. It is recommended to choose dishes that satisfy the tastes of most guests. You can enrich the form, pay attention to the collocation of color and oral color, and avoid particularly exciting and weird food. It is also necessary to ensure the freshness and hygiene of food materials to prevent excessive freezing and rough processing of stocks.

Note 12: The hotel service is poor.

Service quality is an important factor in the atmosphere of the wedding venue. Hotel waiter, music Andhadhun, hotel doorman, etc. They all provide different levels of services and become the second environment of the wedding scene. So communicate with the hotel in advance. For example, explain the process and rhythm of serving to the manager on duty in advance; Tell Andhadhun in advance what kind of music atmosphere he needs, and so on, all of which need attention.

Engagement party introduction

Engagement party introduction 1. Make a clear record.

Name, telephone number, fax number, address, e-mail address and contact person of the hotel.

Engagement party introduction ii. General project costs involved

1. Catering standard: How much is each table or person?

2. Service charge: What is the service charge and whether it can be reduced or exempted.

3, the cost of drinks and snacks, which are free, and whether there is a time limit for free gifts.

Engagement party strategy three. Hotel configuration or distribution project

1. Bride lounge: Is there a bridal dressing room, is it provided free of charge or charged (how much), and the distance between the lounge and the banquet hall?

2. Cake: Do you want to send a cake? If yes, please give the style and number of layers of the cake. If charging, the charging price and the corresponding style.

3. Signature books and pens: Whether to give signature books and pens, consult the number of sets when there are many guests to avoid the congestion of signing in on the wedding day.

4. Wedding car: whether to give the wedding car, the style, color, kilometers and time limit of the wedding car. What's the charge for exceeding the limit?

5. Champagne Tower: Do you want a champagne tower? The third floor (14 PCs), the fifth floor (55 PCs) and the sixth floor (9 1 PCs)?

6. Champagne: Do you serve champagne?

7. Red carpet: Whether to provide the red carpet for free, and how to charge if not.

8. Parking spaces: whether there are enough parking spaces, how many are provided free of charge, and how to charge for additional parking spaces.

Engagement party introduction 4. Hotel service

1. Soft drinks: whether to drink freely, what kinds of soft drinks are included in free drinking, and when to drink freely. How to give people away if they don't drink, what kinds of soft drinks are contained in several bottles per table, and how to charge for extra different soft drinks.

2. Red wine: whether to give red wine (if yes, how much); Can I bring my own wine? Is there a limit to the quantity? Is there a corkage fee (if so, how much is it)?

3. Other wines: whether there are gifts and the quantity of gifts. Can I take it with me if I don't send it? Is there a bottle opening fee? You can't bring your own hotel. What is the price?

4. Lighting: Can it be adjusted? Is there a lighting engineer in charge of the hotel?

5. Spotlight: Is it free? What is the cost if it is not provided free of charge?

6. Stage lighting: Is it provided free of charge? If it is not provided free of charge, what is the cost?

7. Sound system: How many wireless microphones are provided, how many limited microphones are provided, and whether sound engineers are equipped. What kind of music can be used in the venue: CD, VCD, DVD, MP3.

8. Imaging system: whether the projector and projection screen are provided free of charge, and how to charge if not.

9. Service personnel: Each table is equipped with several service personnel, and several other service personnel arranged by the hotel for this banquet are responsible for those things.

Engagement Party Raiders V. Layout

1. Check-in table flower: Did you check-in table flower? If so, what is it?

2. Stage size: the length, width and height of the stage. If it is a small stage, the size of the small stage and the number provided.

3. Pillars: Are there any pillars in the banquet hall? If so, how much will it affect the layout and vision?

4. Hall height: What is the height of the banquet hall, which will affect the height of the background?

5. Decoration style: What is the decoration style of the banquet hall?

6. Ballroom size: How many tables can it hold? Be sure to say hello. Is the stage space reserved?

7. Main table table flowers: Are there any main table table flowers? If there is a flower material, what is it?

8. Master Desktop Material: Is there a master desktop material? If so, where is it? Table cloth or apron or mouth cloth or chair back

9. Table flowers on the guest table: Are there table flowers on the main table? If there is a flower material, what is it?

10. Guest dining tablecloth: Is there a guest dining tablecloth? If so, where is it? Table cloth or apron or mouth cloth or chair back

1 1. Background: Is the background provided free of charge? If yes, how to charge it? What kind of background can I choose?

12. deployment time: how long in advance?