Is Najib in China's traditional wedding similar to his engagement now?

From the initial parents' agreement to the bridal chamber, the marriage of the ancients consists of six processes: "recruiting relatives, asking names, Naji, recruiting relatives, inviting parties and welcoming relatives". In the Book of Rites, it is recorded that "those who are confused by the ceremony must benefit from the two surnames, and the upper one is the temple, and the lower one inherits the latter, so the gentleman values it." The so-called "confused ceremony" means wedding. In the Shang and Zhou Dynasties, the word "confused" prevailed and was universal with marriage, from which the six paths of wedding came. From this, we can basically conclude that the six processes of ancient marriage should begin in the Zhou Dynasty.

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Na is the first of the six rites. If the man wants to form a daughter-in-law with the woman, he will often find a matchmaker to propose marriage to the other person's house. If the woman agrees, the man will prepare the bride price, that is, the "election ceremony", which is equivalent to the fact that the woman came to the door for the first time today and sealed some pocket money with her in-laws. "Yili Shi Soul Ceremony" records that "faint ceremony, hair to pick, and goose", goose is a bird, goose. The reason why the "wild goose" is used as a bride price stems from the hope of "Hongyan passing books". Since then, the bride price has taken various forms, including brocade, jade and silk, all of which are the evolution of later generations.

Q. Name

"Ask the name" is the second etiquette of the Six Rites. The man asked the matchmaker to go to the woman's house to inquire about her name and birthday. Many people can't understand why men and women ask names when they get married, because in ancient society, women were kept in the inner room and no one knew her, so it was normal not to know girls' names. Asking the name is secondary, asking the birthday is the key. When the man gets the woman, he will ask the warlock for divination when he is born. When he thinks men and women are suitable, he will choose a good day for both parties to get married. "Yili Shi Soul Li" said, "What's your name, Bin Zhi? Master Xu, your honor is here. People who ask names will have good or bad luck. "

Najib

When the man gets the result of "asking the name for divination", it is natural to inform the woman of the wedding date chosen, and the prospective in-laws can't go home empty-handed, so the ceremony of "Naji" is derived. Najib is equivalent to today's engagement ceremony. For the first time, both parents sat down to talk about marriage. The man should show his sincerity appropriately. Najib and Nacai are one thing, but Nacai is an informal request for help. Najib is the man's parents personally present, and the bride price is also a wild goose. Therefore, the literature records that "it is a good omen to return to the temple, and then the messenger will tell you that the marriage is settled."

Zheng Na

Zheng Na is also called "Nacheng, Nabi". "Levy" means "success", "take money first and then get married". After several rounds of discussion, both sides expressed their intention to get married. At this time, the man should formally give the bride price to the woman. "Zheng" is the most expensive part of the six gifts, so the way of sending geese is no longer used, and gold and silver must be used.

Invitation date

Now it's called "superior" Near the wedding day, the man will send two people to the woman's house as guests. One is to inform the man of the wedding date, and the other is to inform the man of the wedding ceremony, so that the woman's family can get ready and avoid making jokes at the wedding scene. "The Wedding of Yi Li the World" said: "Please say goodbye to the goose, and the guest will tell the date." The invitation ceremony never changed. The man wrote down the basic process of the wedding in red paper, including the date and procession, and the trustee sent it to the woman's home.

Meet sb. in person

The wedding ceremony was originally called "wedding ceremony", which means that the man must marry the bride in person to show his respect for the woman. In the Book of Songs, there is a saying that "a great country has a son, a sister of heaven, and a woman is determined to be fragrant and greet her in Wei", which shows that the wedding ceremony has a long history. In ancient times, it was customary to greet relatives, unlike now, they all greeted the woman's house. The girl was put in a sedan chair by her mother's brother and began to walk to the man's house. The boy either walked a few miles to meet him or stood at the door to meet him. After six complicated procedures, the men and women finally met, and then they were sent to the bridal chamber after worshipping the heavens and the earth, and a complete wedding process was completed.

Reading ancient history, the wedding ceremony has not changed much for thousands of years, but some changes have taken place in its content. The biggest change is that the bride price is getting higher and higher. Take third-tier cities as an example. "Colored green" is popular in some places. Roughly speaking, the gift money alone has reached several hundred thousand, plus houses, cars and gold and silver jewelry, no two million people dare not even think about getting married. No wonder some people think that "this marriage cannot be married".