Everything you say reveals your quality.

Home decoration has come to an end, and the old house was bought for a sister. The day before yesterday, my sister was very curious. I hope we can invite her to visit the new house. I promised her very kindly.

As soon as she got home, Big Sister entered the Grand View Garden like Granny Liu, looking around and touching it from time to time. Then he started chatting with me, asking questions rather than chatting.

"Min, why do you want to use floor tiles instead of floors in the living room? How cold is it in winter? I don't like how to use such a gray cracked texture. "

Before I could answer, she went on to ask, "Xiao Min, your curtains are beautiful. How much is it? "

"Around 200 yuan".

"Ah, to 200? You must have been cheated. Before our sister's beauty shop was renovated, she bought a flat one with more than 70 yuan, which is as beautiful as yours. "

"The quality should be different." I smiled.

"Mandy, you this sofa is linen? Choosing such a light color is not resistant to dirt. You young people are like this. You never think about what you will do in the future. Buy a sofa cushion to cover it. "

Okay, I don't want to talk about it anymore.

I believe that you will meet such people in your daily life, and you can talk to death in one sentence.

The owner of the decoration company is my friend. He asked me when I would move and whether I had asked the master to choose an auspicious day. I said I really didn't think about this piece, maybe I didn't pay much attention to it.

My friend didn't say anything. You must invite me, or everything will go wrong if you move in.

He answered me like this: "I can understand that the choice of auspicious day depends on whether the individual attaches importance to it." Some people care more about this piece, but your character is good. When you meet an auspicious day, it is good for people and the world. "

Everything you say reveals your quality.

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This happened yesterday when I took the bus.

I got on the bus at the bus company, found a place to sit down, and then I have been reading e-books. The car runs very smoothly. At the last stop near home, a male passenger of about 60 years old suddenly scolded the driver.

Only in the noise, the driver didn't take two steps after the vehicle started. The male passenger asked the driver to open the door for him. The driver explained that the car had started and could not open the door. Please let him get off at the next stop and then transfer to the opposite station.

But the old man didn't listen at all and kept knocking on the door: "Open the door, open the door, you open the door for me. Can't you see I'm getting old? You don't respect old people. Are there no old people in your family? Are they all dead? You beast, you beast, if you don't open the door for the old man, your whole family will die. "

At that time, I greeted the driver for eight generations and said it was ugly. After the bus arrived at the station, I didn't forget to kick the door hard, which made me unwilling to leave. The driver just repeated the previous sentence and asked him to turn it several times.

I want to say to the old man, what else do you have besides getting older with the years?

03

Speaking reflects a person's way of thinking, cultivation and three views. What to say on different occasions and how to say it are very important.

Today, I don't want to share with you the way old people and big sisters talk. I want to talk about communication in the workplace. As a professional, it is very important to be able to chat.

First of all: he decides what kind of people you can meet.

Cattle people generally have the ability to distinguish people. After talking to you, they can have a general understanding of you and a basic judgment of your personality, way of thinking, your knowledge and your cultivation. If you can't chat, you will lose many opportunities.

Secondly, chatting will determine whether you are appreciated and reused.

No matter what we do, we must communicate with others. The quality of communication is the quality of work, and the quality of communication determines the outcome of things. A person who talks to death in minutes can't even speak clearly. How can you expect him to take on a heavy responsibility?

Third: He also determines our popularity.

Whether in love or making friends, the most important thing is emotional intelligence. Why are some people the focus of everyone wherever they go? They can always talk and laugh and make everyone who gets along with them feel comfortable.

I once met a girl who praised men for looking young in suits, but she added: Just like my dad's. This frankness made the atmosphere awkward at once.

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In fact, many people can't chat, but their speaking ability is very uneven. They can chat easily with familiar friends and have many topics, but once they meet people who are completely different from their age, position, knowledge and life experience, they don't know how to answer questions. Such as bosses, investors, professional elites, etc. But it is these people who will promote your career development and give you many career opportunities.

If you want to chat happily, the following points are very important and indispensable.

1, communication desire

We are willing to chat with one person is the basis of everything, otherwise we will only talk more than half a sentence; There are some people we are sure we can't communicate with, like the big sister mentioned at the beginning of the article. I have no desire to communicate with them, and I will even try to avoid communicating with her in the future. If a person has no desire to communicate, it is easy for the other person to feel it, just like those who only give you the word "hehe" on WeChat.

2. sense of participation

Chatting is not a single-player game, and both parties need to exchange information; If a person is talking nonsense and no one else can get a word in, then simply say it in the mirror. During my previous business communication, I will leave a special message about the customer's sense of participation. If it's just me and the customer doesn't respond, we should generally change the topic or terminate the communication.

Step 3 pay attention

When chatting, concentration is the minimum respect for people. Looking around, he will only make people feel disrespected. If we do have something more important, we can express it to each other in a friendly way and ask them to wait a moment or make changes. We can't start talking without saying a word. Of course, if the other person you are chatting with is not focused, we also need to pay attention. It's not good for others to interrupt our small talk on their own initiative, so take the initiative to ask.

4. Logic

Although it is a chat, it is not a business conversation. It also needs clear logic, and the feeling that the preface doesn't match the latter will make people reluctant to chat with you. Open the topic, but don't jump blindly, so that others don't know what you really want to say.

5. Clear vision

The content of the chat must be an event or a person. We need to have our own clear views and opinions on something, which can reflect the overall quality of individuals. However, when chatting with people, you need to pay special attention. Other people's privacy is out of the question. No opinion on personal behavior is an opinion. Everyone is different, and it is normal for the same thing to be handled in different ways. Understanding and inclusive views can reflect our model.

6. Narrative power

Narrative power is expressive power, and words can't convey meaning, but they spoil the boat; Modern people need the ability to tell stories. When chatting, it is vivid and attractive, so that others have the desire to listen and participate.

If the other person can feel that we can understand him and read him, we can shorten the sense of distance in an instant. Whether you can chat or not is tested by a standard, that is, making people feel comfortable.

I hope we can all become professionals who can chat and carry on the chat happily to the end.

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Qi Fan Qi wrote from the media category.