Tongguan folk custom

Tongguan is in the middle reaches of the Yellow River, with the earliest civilization. In the past, the marriage customs always adhered to the old system of the former king, the orders of parents and the words of matchmakers. When you first got engaged, you gave the woman a pair of earrings. It's called engagement. Later, the man's family prepared clothes, jewelry and other things and sent them to the woman's family on an auspicious day. This is called Xu Kou. It means that the woman agreed to this marriage, which is also called eating noodles, because the woman entertained the matchmaker on this day and ate noodles, which means that it will remain unchanged for a hundred years and last forever. In modern customs, it is simpler than before, divided into betrothal, housekeeping and door recognition. Engagement means that the introducer talks back and forth, obtains the consent of both men and women, and meets and talks at the agreed place. If both sides have no opinion, give each other gifts as proof. The so-called housekeeping means that the man chooses an auspicious day to let the woman come to the house to look after the house, hold a banquet and buy clothes, commonly known as rags. This day is mainly for women, and the tables are rich. It is an auspicious day for the woman to recognize the door, let the man go home to recognize the door, and invite relatives to toast with him. Each relative will give the unmarried son-in-law a dress.

Wedding Ceremony: On the first day of the man's house, the gift box, wine, meat, clothes rack and food will be sent to the woman's house, because the person in charge who went that day will worship the woman's three generations of ancestors, which is called salute. It's much simpler, commonly known as "catching the box", taking pictures before entering the village and before eating. On the wedding day, people used to ride cars and horses, but now they all use cars to meet their relatives. Usually, the son-in-law goes to meet them with a box carrier, a dowry carrier and a gun. Sending relatives and holding weddings is called "passing by". The next day, the groom bought a new dish and went to his father-in-law's house to pay homage to his relatives and neighbors, and his father-in-law's house also set a table for each other. This is called recognizing the door, which means that the groom comes to recognize his father-in-law's door first, which is also called meeting the door. The new wife went out yesterday, came back today, and came back with her son-in-law in the afternoon. After seven or eight days, the daughter-in-law returns to her mother's house, which is called ten. Usually she stays at her parents' house for seven or eight days. People often say: "Go to seven or eight, two hairs.

The daughter-in-law has to change a pair of shoes when she gets into the sedan chair (car), that is, she won't step on her parents' soil. It turned out that when the daughter-in-law left her parents' house, she got off the kang, first stepped on the washbasin, then stood on the felt, and then rotated the felt onto the sedan chair (car). This set has been simplified.