My sister is deaf and dumb. After marriage, my husband's family is very bad. She was very scared when she saw her husband's family. She has lived in her home for a year. How did she go through the div

My sister is deaf and dumb. After marriage, my husband's family is very bad. She was very scared when she saw her husband's family. She has lived in her home for a year. How did she go through the divorce procedure? Before the founding of the People's Republic of China, there was a custom of early marriage, and men and women got married at the age of fifteen or sixteen. Men and women get married at the orders of their parents and the words of matchmakers, and there is no freedom of marriage. In the second year of the Republic of China (19 13) and 10, Governor Shen Bingren announced; It is forbidden for men and women to get married freely, thinking that "there is nothing more shameful than free marriage". The order of marriage is from big to small, and the first brother and sister have new suits. On the man's side, some still hang New Pants at the bride's house or at her maiden's door. When the bride enters the door, she has to get under her pants. To get married, you should marry the right person, "three teas and six rituals" ("three teas" refers to the next tea; "Six gifts" refers to six gifts, such as receiving gifts, asking names, receiving gifts, inviting guests and welcoming relatives. Otherwise, it is "sexual intercourse without media." If adultery is found, it is considered immoral, or expelled from the village, or paraded in the streets, or put in a pig cage and thrown into the river to drown. The etiquette of "three teas and six rituals" is complicated. By the end of Qing Dynasty, it was slightly simplified and widely adopted. One is "asking for the name", that is, sending a "Nian Geng Tie", writing down the date of birth of the suitor on red paper, and giving it to the matchmaker to hand it over to the other party. Parents of both men and women give the "Niangeng Post" to the fortune teller to see if there are similarities. Then let relatives and friends inquire about each other for three generations and send "three generations of stickers". Both sides use red stickers to write their great-grandfathers, grandparents and parents' names and places of origin, commonly known as "three-generation stickers", to investigate whether there are genetic diseases such as leprosy, and to investigate each other's personality, ability and economic situation to see if it is appropriate. The second is "invitation", that is, sending "gift stickers". The man wrote down the wedding date in red and informed the woman. The woman will reply to the man after receiving the "gift sticker". The third is to "recruit relatives", that is, the man's family sends someone to send a bride price to the woman's family. First, the man sends "three generations of stickers" to the woman, which is also called "making gifts". After receiving the gift, the woman gave her "three generations of stickers" to the man. The fourth kind is "pro-welcoming". According to the auspicious day agreed by both parties, the wedding is held in a sedan chair. It was not until the middle of the Republic of China that men and women met in society, commonly known as "meeting." Generally, it is the matchmaker who leads the way, and both men and women exchange tokens after agreement before they can get engaged. Most of the tokens are gold rings and necklaces, and the poor are just a pack of "red envelopes". After the marriage is settled, we will agree on an auspicious day, get married in a sedan chair and get married formally. Before the founding of the People's Republic of China, the man had complicated etiquette such as "climbing to the top", "welcoming relatives", "making trouble in a new house" and "going back to the door three times", and also after marriage. Before getting married in the sedan chair, the woman has the custom of crying wedding songs. Most of the content is to thank her parents for their kindness and the mutual help and friendship between brothers and sisters. During the occupation, some people accused the Japanese of invading China by crying and singing songs about marrying women. After marriage, a woman should be faithful to her life, be "sober" after her husband's death, and never remarry under any circumstances. Anyone who remarries is called "dishonor" and is discriminated against. On the contrary, a man with power and money can have three wives and four concubines. After his wife dies, she can continue to get married. In addition, when a woman marries, there are some vulgar customs, such as "marrying a raw chicken" and "marrying a god's main card". The so-called "married chickens" are mostly overseas Chinese who make a living abroad and can't come back to get married. Parents of both men and women arranged a wedding with a raw chicken instead of the groom to worship the world and ancestors. Rich families marry their dead sons, and after the bride goes through the door, she accepts an adopted son to continue her inheritance. This kind of "life-saving" marriage is called "marrying the Lord of God". After the founding of People's Republic of China (PRC), the above two bad habits have been abolished. Advocate freedom of marriage and keep the wedding frugal and simple. Bridal sedan chair wedding was abolished as early as the land reform 1952, and brides walked or rode bicycles. The atmosphere of the wine throwing banquet has also been greatly reduced. In the 1980s, the ostentation and extravagance of weddings rose again. Wealthy families usually get married by car (some by motorcycle), and some send out 10 cars to form a motorcade, set off firecrackers along the way, and set off more than 100 seats at the wedding. The wedding of villagers and fishermen in Shatian District of Xinhui City is a boat instead of a sedan chair, and both men and women express their love with salty songs. Enping cookies and marriage customs There is a traditional custom that men marry women in Enping urban and rural areas: the man must give Enping cookies to the woman as a gift cake. This custom began in the Ming Dynasty and is still quite popular today. Enping sesame seed cake, commonly known as "Enping Shao", is a specialty of Enping, which is famous for its exquisite production and unique flavor. Enping sesame seed cake was created in the Ming Dynasty, with a history of more than 600 years. According to legend, the master who founded the sesame seed cake was a young teacher in Enping. He once opened a private school to recruit children from poor families. Later, private schools were forced to close down due to insufficient funds for running schools. In order to make a living, teachers have to make sesame cakes to sell. Mr. Teaching has the courage to innovate in teaching and made a unique soft cake. This kind of cake is sweet and delicious, has a unique flavor and can be kept fresh for many days, so it is very popular. At that time, the magistrate of Zhaoqing was very economical. In order to prosper the market and promote economic development, he held a cake making competition to select the best products and promote them. Enping county magistrate ate the cake made by the teacher and praised it greatly. Teachers are strongly recommended to participate in the competition in Zhaoqing this time. On the day of the competition, famous bakers from all walks of life tried their best to stand out. The magistrate was born in a family that made cakes. It is not easy to get his approval. The magistrate tasted Enping sesame cake, and the more he chewed it, the more fragrant it became. He ate three cakes in a row, full of praise: "Soft and delicious, fragrant but not vulgar, sweet but not greasy, good cake?" As a result, Enping sesame seed cake won the championship in one fell swoop. In fact, there is another purpose for Enping magistrate to recommend teachers, that is, to take the opportunity to choose a son-in-law. As expected, the teacher won the first prize in one fell swoop and became a well-known celebrity. The magistrate decided to choose a teacher to be a good husband. When he told his daughter his plan, her daughter refused to do anything. She thinks the cake maker has no future. Later, the teacher made a fortune by selling sesame cakes, so he reopened a private school to let poor children continue their studies, which became a story for a while. Besides teaching, teachers also sell cookies after school to accumulate and maintain their schools. He learned that the father and daughter of the magistrate liked to eat his cakes. In order to show his respect, he kept a catty for every catty of 100 biscuits, which can be used as gift cakes in the future. Later, the daughter of the magistrate saw that the teacher was knowledgeable, diligent and caring, and finally moved her heart. When the gift cakes accumulated to 100 kg, the daughter of the magistrate took them back, indicating that she accepted the teacher's love. Since then, proposing marriage and sending baked wheat cakes has gradually evolved into a kind of etiquette. Enping men and women must take baked wheat cakes as gift cakes when they get married. When a local woman becomes a monk, she is called "getting a cake" instead of getting married, indicating that she has accepted the love of the other party. Today, Enping people asked the young girl if she was married, instead of: "Are you married?" Instead, he asked, "Did you get the cake?" This interesting marriage custom originated from the story of the teacher, and it has continued to this day. How to make Enping sesame seed cake? Its main raw materials are glutinous rice flour, including yellow sugar and white sugar, with chilled meat and sesame seeds; Another kind of stuffing is bean paste or lotus seed paste, which must be carefully processed. After the cake blank is made, put it in a flat-bottomed round iron basin and fry it up and down with strong fire. In this way, the sesame seed cake has the characteristics of soft and smooth entrance, and it is sweet and moist with roast pork, which makes people never tire of eating it. Every wedding season, stalls for making Enping biscuits can be seen everywhere in urban and rural areas of enping city. Flames, fragrance floating in Wan Li. Enping biscuits have their own characteristics and become a major food and cultural landscape in Enping. Taishan has a good scenery, but its marriage characteristics have not been found. Heshan has the marriage customs of Hakka women. Most of the Hakkas in Heshan migrated from Meizhou, Huizhou and Heyuan after the establishment of the county (1732). Living in he cheng (the original county), the language and marriage customs are certainly different. Before liberation, with the help of matchmakers, grown-up women exchanged wedding invitations and horoscopes if they were suitable for each other. If they disagree with each other, they choose a good day to plan their marriage. When they get married, they must perform several customs. One is called Night Spectrum ("crying" means "crying" and "singing"). Two nights before marriage, a group of female companions acted as a foil in the woman's boudoir, commonly known as "girls". Married women are very reluctant to tell their partners that their happy events are realized through traditional crying and singing. Some people learn traditional lyrics very early, and those who can't sing will be taught by middle-aged women until they can sing by heart. If they don't sing, it is disrespectful or unlucky. This custom gradually disappeared after liberation, and today only women around the age of 80 can sing. Crying is different from singing folk songs. Crying and singing is joyful and boring, and there is no extension in singing and singing. The following excerpt is from a lyric: the golden rooster crows at five o'clock, and he laughs at himself (me); The tree is still alive after being cut, and there are still two nights before my parents. 2. The wedding procession consists of men, four children holding colorful flags first, then the matchmaker leading the way, two sedan chair elders, six six-tone drummers, and several people carrying dowry. The wine delivery man was carried by a lucky man. Among the two baskets, there is an altar of wine, pork, eggs, big black salted fish, betel nut and other foods, as well as a round red wine tray with two cypress leaves and two sealed markets. The trumpeter passed by the village and played music to inform people of their interest. Go to the woman's house to play for a while, and then the bride will cry and sing: sweep the bottle in the upper hall and pick up the matchmaker in the lower hall; Sweep the door, put the sedan chair, sweep the eaves and hang colorful flags. Third, there was a farce before bidding farewell to our ancestors, called "drag sister" (bride). Outside the door, middle-aged women forcibly entered the married woman's room and asked her to come out and get on the sedan chair, but they insisted on not letting in, pushing and pulling each other, and even spraying wine with their mouths to prevent problems. In order not to delay the bride's return to the man's house, the old escort finally dragged the bride out to bid farewell to her ancestors and cried and sang after paying homage to her parents. 4. The bride's own brother opens the umbrella when she goes out, and other relatives open it if she doesn't have a brother. The umbrella opener stands on the left side of the gate. After opening the umbrella, the escort pulled the bride under it. Walking to the front of the sedan chair, the bride was a little reluctant to go in, even crying and singing, and even kicking the door of the sedan chair. She accompanied her mother to persuade her to get on the sedan chair with auspicious words of marrying a man and a woman or going back to have an early baby. From saying goodbye to my ancestors to getting on the sedan chair, I really cried and sang, because I lived with my parents for 10 years, and I was deeply reluctant to leave suddenly. Why not let her cry and sing: in the past, it was cheaper to take an umbrella to take advantage of the market, but today I take an umbrella to send my sister; It's hard for an elder sister to cry when she marries her brother. Take good care of your parents. The sedan chair was given by all the men, women and children in the village. The mileage is usually about one mile, but you have to stop the sedan chair three times in the middle to show that you can't bear to leave your loved ones. The bride also scattered some red envelopes in the sedan chair, and whoever found them would return them to him. After getting off the bus for the third time, I went back to the man's house and stopped crying and singing. The last two sentences: my brother sent the sedan chair to the river and went back to the house to ask for money; The fine guy sent the sedan chair on the road, went back to start a business and got married early. Six, to the husband's family to the husband's family door, by the man's old chaperone in front of the sedan chair to say something auspicious, such as "white-haired Qi Mei, hold two in three years". Put a washbasin in front of the door in advance, fill it with a small amount of water, put a kitchen knife, a ruler, a handful of thatch and peach leaves, which means to drive away ghosts, and at the same time make a fire with a small bundle of hay, which means to go back to my husband's house cleanly. The bride, led by the bridesmaid, covered her head with a rice screen, first passed through the basin, then through a small fire and entered the new house. After dinner, the groom invited the young men and women in the village to see the bride, commonly known as "disturbing the bride", and both entered the bridal chamber after seeing her off at night. The next morning, the bride, led by a guard, offered tea to her ancestors, grandparents and presented her with jewels and money. Seven, explore seven dynasties after returning to her husband's family seven dynasties, the woman organized a dozen middle-aged women to go to the man's house to explore seven dynasties. As on the wedding day, the groom wore a felt hat and robe to propose a toast to his mother-in-law. After the Three Dynasties, accompanied by a middle-aged woman, the man went to the bride's house with a simple personal letter and two green-skinned sugar cane with heads and leaves, which meant that the two in-laws were as sweet as sugar and won every day. After living in her parents' home for three generations, the woman's mother sent the bride back to her in-laws' house, knocking on the door of her new in-laws for the first time, and then she was not bound by all kinds of rules and regulations. Kaiping folk songs and marriage customs 70 or 80 years ago, Kaiping folk songs were quite popular. At that time, women and children liked to reflect their lives and express their feelings by singing. Every wedding celebration is often celebrated by singing, including the song of the first ceremony, blessing song, the song of disorderly house, etc. If you comb your hair, there will be "a comb to the eyebrows, white hair Qi Mei;" Two combs to the tail, one head and one tail; Three combs fall to the ground, and children and grandchildren are full. Although the words used in different places are different, they are all similar. Another example is that a married woman is dissatisfied with her marriage and sends out a plaintive song. Even funerals are white, and mourning is expressed in the form of crying songs. Attachment: Baidu search: Give birth to boys and girls.