What do you mean, the bride price is three times and nine times?

"Three times" refers to wine, chicken wine and wedding, which are the three major ceremonies attended by relatives and friends. "Jiuzhuan" refers to the "six rituals" including "three times", that is, making friends, eating more wine, giving chicken wine, giving gifts, socializing and getting married. Propose to the woman's family for the first time. The parents of the man's family either take their sons by themselves or invite the matchmaker to go. Generally, they will arrive at the woman's house at dusk and then return. If the journey is long, they will return early the next morning. If the woman's family accepts gifts such as sugar, tea and wine, but there is no sauerkraut in the food received, the man's family can take the second step as soon as possible. The second step is to eat more wine, also known as gambling eight characters, seeking eight characters and ordering wine. Just ask the woman's horoscope to see if she is married. Under normal circumstances, parents of both children will come. There is no big conflict in the zodiac, and both sides are satisfied, even if they are engaged. Next, let's discuss the date of delivering chicken wine. When delivering chicken wine, the woman's family should invite her close relatives to congratulate her. The man's family either carries it or carries it. In addition to the rice, wine, chicken and ham that must be sent, a gift (mostly a box of biscuits, two cover strips, a brown sugar, a pot of wine and a bag of tea) should be prepared for each family's close relatives. When giving chicken wine, both men and women usually change their minds and call each other's parents, and the man will take the woman home during the Chinese New Year holiday. The ceremony is that the man's family sends an agreed bride price, and then agrees on a happy year. After the man chooses an auspicious day, he will go to "mail", that is, inform the wedding date so that the woman's family can prepare the dowry and the man's family will begin to entertain guests. Dowry can be given by the man's family at the ceremony or prepared by the woman's family for the wedding. As long as there are satin clothes, all kinds of silver animals are ordered on the clothes, and bells are tied to the mouths of animals, which is called silver coir; A bun embroidered with beautiful flowers ordered 250 to 300 silver hat flowers, 5 green knots, 3 silver pendants, 10 silver collar boxes, 3 syringes, 1 vase, a pair of bracelets and 3 to 5 rings (later sheepskin jacket became a necessary dowry).

In the past, during the wedding, the woman's family didn't hold banquets or treat guests, only eight to ten couples were invited to see her off. On the wedding day, the two sides waited for each other halfway. The bride's parents carried the bride on their backs and personally sent it to the man's house. The man's family beat gongs and drums and invited three relatives and six relatives to have a big banquet. In the evening, the bride's parents carry the bride on their backs, and invite relatives to play the sanxian, the lusheng, the sheepskin beating and the singing. The woman's parents should lead the singer "A three-year-old girl is a daughter-in-law, everything depends on the old woman" and "The girl is young and ignorant, and the family lacks common sense". And "I have to forgive the peeling of cherries and the broken belly of chickens." The next day, after lunch, the guests left, and the bride had to follow her parents back to her family. It took a week before she was picked up by the man.

With the acceleration of marriage of all ethnic groups, the regional characteristics of marriage customs are becoming less and less. Now, the Yi people in niujie also respect each other's wedding customs. The "three times" of marriage proposal, chicken wine and wedding are still the same, while singing, dancing, wine and food are still the same, but the custom of not inviting guests to the wedding has changed, and the dowry has gradually been simplified to a single one.