What ceremony does it take to recognize your daughter?

Due to the different geographical, ethnic and cultural backgrounds, the custom of "worshipping relatives" is also very different in etiquette and customs.

1, Beijing

It is generally believed that recognizing michel platini and dopted mother will be bad for their children, so they are not close friends. People generally dare not ask them to be their own children, michel platini and Yuma.

And worship the godmother, the two sides should exchange gifts and hold banquets. After that, every year, the godchildren will give gifts to michel platini and godmother, and michel platini and godmother will also give gifts back. Therefore, no wealthy family is difficult to socialize.

Since you want to "worship your relatives", you have to choose an auspicious day to hold the ceremony. At that time, parents should not only prepare a sumptuous banquet, but also prepare gifts for their children to pay tribute to michel platini and godmother. In this gift, the most important thing is the hat for michel platini and the shoes for dopted mother. In addition, items such as cloth should be provided. Of course, michel platini and dopted mother can't just go in and out.

Michel platini and dopted mother must give their adopted sons and daughters rice bowls, chopsticks and a long life lock. In addition, they should also have a set of small clothes, such as shoes and socks, hats, bibs and stomachs.

In the past, for these gifts, wealthy families would go to jewelry stores to order silver bowls and chopsticks, or go to Huguo Temple and Baita Temple to buy wooden bowls to prevent children from breaking them by mistake. It is considered unlucky to break the bowl in case.

2. In Henan

"Visiting relatives" is accomplished by "touching".

In Zhengzhou and Kaifeng, Henan Province, on the first morning of a baby's birth, the baby's father will go out and "touch" his surname. The first person "touches" the baby's father, regardless of sex, age, and child, will kneel and kowtow, and then explain to him that he has a baby at home and ask the other person to name the baby.

In the past, most people in rural areas were old scavengers, some of whom were unprepared, but because of customs, it was not convenient to drive them away, so they had to make up their minds. As a result, names such as "Dung Basket", "Rotou", "Dog Baby" and "Cat Baby" came out.

Although these names are a bit indecent, they are just nicknames, which are people's favorite names for children. It doesn't matter much if they are called children. In some places, people who are "touched" not only give the baby a name, but also give the baby a gift and are recognized as godmothers.

3. In Shaanxi

Generally speaking, the "godmother recognition" is carried out by a grandmother or grandfather on the day of a child's "full moon", and the first adult he meets after going out is worshipped as godmother or michel platini.

Of course, this kind of "collision" is random, and most occasions are arranged in advance. The first person Bump meets is someone who has a good relationship with his family or status.

4. In Sichuan

Michel platini is called "Bao Bao" and dopted mother is called "Bao Niang". Generally, the children's uncles play the role to enhance the feelings of the two families. Some people are influenced by superstition and choose beggars and strangers as "insurance".

In addition, "adopted son" also means son-in-law in Sichuan custom. In ancient times, "adopted son" was a derogatory term in ancient times.

5. In Hangzhou

There is another custom for children to "worship their godparents". The godfather godmother they worship is not a real person, but a "ghost" often mentioned in Lu Xun's articles. There, "parents are afraid that their son will not live long, and they are afraid that it will cost a lot of money to worship their parents, so they don't give it to others, but to ghosts", commonly known as "worship Hu Ganye".

According to local legend, ghosts are ghosts specially sent by Yan Luowang to detain the souls of the dead. He sent his children to the ghost, hoping that it would not detain his son's soul to protect his longevity. In the past, the world didn't know the name of the ghost and mistakenly thought it was Hu's surname, so it was called "Hu Ganye".

The way to pay homage to Hu Ganye is: the children's parents first make a brand-new white dress, then take it to the temple, change it into the old clothes on the statue of Hu Ganye, and burn it with soju, sesame seeds, incense sticks and silver ingots.

Finally, the messenger's son was named by the monks in the temple.

Since then, every July, the children's parents will take him to the temple to celebrate the birthday of Grandpa Hu until the children grow up to 16 years old.

Claiming to have a family relationship

Recognizing relatives is a popular folk custom in rural areas of Shanxi in the old days. After confession, most of them have frequent contacts and follow the way of family communication, forming a relatively fixed kinship.

In rural areas, although there is no fixed procedure, michel platini, godmother, godbrother and godsister are recognized as godmothers. The reasons for the formation of confession are roughly like this. The two families are friends and have a good relationship. In order to make this connection relatively fixed, the method of letting the next generation recognize and confess is adopted to deepen communication. For example, foster parents, foster mothers and so on.

Some are because one party has great kindness to the other family, and one party repays the kindness of the other party, so a long-term relationship with relatively fixed procedures is formed by adopting relatives and adopting children to achieve the purpose of gratitude. Also, because the children are delicate and afraid of premature death, they adopt the method of betraying relatives, and let the michel platini brothers and sisters leave their children behind, so that they can avoid misfortune and grow up.

There are also some families, in order to climb to the top, become expensive, so that their children can recognize wealth as michel platini, or they can benefit from it in the future.

There is also a new relationship between children and wet nurses by sending them to the wet nurse's house for breastfeeding. In rural areas, they are called wet nurses, wet dads and wet brothers. In fact, this is also a godmother relationship.

There are various reasons for recognizing kinship, but the appearance of this kinship naturally makes the relationship between the two families enter a sequence of kinship exchange.

I know relatives all over Shanxi, especially in Yanbei, Xinzhou, Jinzhong and Jinnan.

Rural customs, once the dopted mother is recognized, everything should be carried out in accordance with the general procedures of rural exchanges. All children who recognize michel platini's godmother should follow the procedures of rural customs in celebrating the Chinese New Year and celebrating their birthdays.

To be a godson, we should take care of michel platini and dopted mother, do our godson's duty and give some financial support. Michel platini dopted mother, on the other hand, has to ask her son about major activities such as getting married, having children and building a house, and give necessary support and funding.

With the development of society, there are fewer and fewer relatives in rural Shanxi, but they still exist in rural areas. This is a special kinship, which exists in the society and becomes one side of the social network.