There are many things to set up monuments in rural areas. What's the matter? Why can't the old man stand a monument three years after his death?

China has a vast territory and a large population. Due to the different and diverse living environment, various customs have been formed in various places.

Besides some common customs, there are some different customs in different places.

Take the custom of erecting monuments in rural areas as an example. In some places, the elderly can't stand a monument three years after their death, and in some places they don't pay attention to it.

1. Why can't the old man stand a monument three years after his death?

On this matter, Bian Xiao summed up three different versions.

1, rest in peace

Feng Weimin, a Chinese opera writer in the Ming Dynasty, wrote in The Grey Skull of the Actor that "it is a matter of time before the coffin is buried.

"Many rural people think that we should respect the dead.

Most of them think that the deceased should not stay at home for too long after death, and should be buried as soon as possible, and the soil on the grave should not be moved casually, so as not to disturb the rest of the deceased.

In some places, tombstones are erected together when the dead are buried. This way is not only convenient, but also a respect for the dead.

After the dead are buried, the custom of not touching the grave soil for three years also exists

In some places, there is even a custom of not erecting a monument.

People in this place think that when erecting a monument, they will touch the soil of the grave, which is an unlucky symbol.

In addition, people have different understandings of the concept of "within three years".

What is "three years", when does it start and when does it end? There are two ways to say this. First of all, "three years" is the third year after the tomb was built.

At this time, monuments can be erected, tombs can be renovated, and some new soil can be added to the tombs.

Another view is that "three years" means three years, excluding the third year, that is to say, the monument will not be built until the fourth year.

2, the new grave test period

There was a saying of geomantic omen in ancient China. In the old countryside, people often associate the burial place of ancestors with the rise and fall of families.

They believe that burying ancestors in places with good feng shui can bring good luck to their families, while burying ancestors in places with bad feng shui will bring disaster to their families.

So how do you see if the place where your ancestors were buried is a treasure trove of geomantic omen?

In the past, although most rural people believed in Feng Shui, not many people were proficient in Feng Shui. In order to confirm the geomantic omen of the cemetery, people often observe the newly built graves for three years.

If everything goes well at home in the past three years, the average person will not choose to erect a monument, so as not to destroy the geomantic omen of the cemetery.

If there are many disasters at home in the past three years, people will choose two ways to solve them. One is to erect a monument to the grave to change the feng shui of the grave, and the other is to move the grave to other places with good feng shui.

Although geomantic omen is a feudal superstition, it is indeed one of the reasons leading to the custom of "not erecting a monument for three years"

3. Filial piety

In ancient China, filial piety was very important. The ancients said that "filial piety of all virtues comes first", which shows the high moral status of filial piety.

Filial piety is a manifestation of filial piety. Later it became a system of the imperial court. No matter the poor or the official, parents should be filial when they are buried at home, and the period of filial piety is generally three years.

Don't touch the grave soil during mourning. In order to prevent other people or animals from touching the soil of the grave, people will build a hut next to the grave to protect it.

If someone wants to shorten or evade filial piety, once they are found, they will be dismissed from their official positions or put in prison.

Second, whether the monument can be erected and whether the shape of the monument is exquisite.

In ancient times, people gave this mountain a tall image. They think that the mountain breeds everything, and the wrong position of the tombstone will affect the vitality in the mountain and the tomb itself.

Therefore, people are very particular about the location of the monument in the mountains. Some places can erect monuments, while others can't.

The traditional tombstones in China can be divided into two types, one is relatively simple, mainly composed of a rectangular slate.

The other is more complicated, called the Pentagon Monument, which is named after it has four eaves and a box roof.

Moreover, the focus of the site selection of these two historic sites is also different.

Third, the time to set up the monument is exquisite.

Some people will ask, if the grave soil can't be moved, what should I do if the grave is broken? If you don't repair it, isn't it disrespectful to your ancestors? In fact, the soil in the grave can be moved, but it can only be moved within the specified time.

It is generally believed that the following three nodes can move the grave soil.

One is the anniversary of the death of the deceased, and the other is the Cold Clothes Festival. These two customs exist only in a few places.

And there is a season that everyone generally agrees with, and that is Tomb-Sweeping Day.

It is considered that there is no taboo to repair graves at three time nodes.

The year is also one of the factors that affect whether people will move their graves. People think leap years are unlucky, so people will not choose to build graves in leap years.

However, some people are more particular and will carefully choose a good day to set up a tombstone.

Up to now, some places need to be abandoned and some places are worth inheriting.

In today's new era, the funeral custom has also undergone great changes, so it is not necessary to pay so much attention to erecting monuments.