Shandong Qihe engagement custom

Hehe, this question, I just saw the wedding customs in Qihe.

There is a saying that betrothal is "big and small". "Small meeting" refers to the informal contact between men and women arranged by the matchmaker. If a preliminary agreement is reached, the two sides will agree to choose an auspicious day for a "big meeting." At the meeting, the man must bring gifts and prizes to the woman. After the conference, men and women can communicate at will. With the further deepening of the relationship between the two sides, the matchmaker can choose the right date for betrothal. When engaged, the man still has to bring gifts (usually four-color gifts such as alcohol, tobacco, sugar and meat) and bride price, and accompanied by the matchmaker and clan elders, he formally exchanges "Geng Tie" with the woman, also known as "engagement Tie". This is a formal engagement.

Both men and women shall register with the registration authority with the letter of introduction from the unit and obtain a marriage certificate before they are legal couples. Weddings are generally superstitious, and most of them are held in rural areas during the slack season. The form is greatly simplified, but auspicious days should be chosen. Offices are usually held on holidays. Before marriage, the man must formally ask the woman for a "wedding sticker" and a bride price (clothes, cloth, jewelry, etc. ), at the same time, let the Yin and Yang teacher write a "face sticker" and give it to the woman. The contents include auspicious wedding day, taboo of employing people (the woman who sends the bride to get on and off the sedan chair should push forward from the bride's animal sign, and if the bride is a pig, there is no need for dogs, horses and tigers), matters on the way ("Lu Yu well, stone, temple paved with red carpet", etc.) and where to get on and off the sedan chair. There are big and small weddings in the southern region: those who have drum music, deacons greet their relatives, and those who entertain guests and friends are big weddings; Those who greet the bride in a sedan chair (the groom doesn't go) without waiting for the guests are married. There is a difference between marriage and delivery in the northern region: the groom marries the woman; If a woman sends it to a man, say it's sent.

In the 1980s, bonuses were generally "246", that is, 2,000 yuan, 4,000 yuan and 6,000 yuan, and the woman returned them at her discretion. In the 1990s, it was increased to "468" (4,000 yuan, 6,600 yuan and 8,800 yuan), and "three golds and one wood" (gold earrings, gold necklaces, gold rings and a Qingqi brand Mulan motorcycle) were added, and wedding photos were taken as a souvenir after receiving the marriage certificate; 265438+At the beginning of the 20th century, the bonus was increased to "one in a million, foolproof" (i.e. 100 1 yuan, 150 10 yuan) and "three golds and one building".

Before marriage, the woman prepares a dowry and delivers it to the man the day before or early in the morning; The man decorated the new house, posted invitations, wedding invitations, wrapped red bricks (wrapped two new bricks in red paper, tied two new red chopsticks with red thread and put them on the concierge), and set the table.

The man hired a car and asked someone to carry a box full of "four-color gifts" (there must be a knife of meat) and "joint noodles", and also brought a black rooster called "long-lived chicken" to attend the woman's wedding. The hostess planned to prepare the table and treat guests. After eating jiaozi, the bride was dressed as a palace gown with a rockhopper and her head covered with red, and was helped to a sedan chair. Usually her brother and sister-in-law accompany her to the man's house. The man still carried the box back with the remaining "joint surface" and brought back the "long-lived chicken" (black hen) accompanied by the woman and the chicken brought by the man. Before the bride gets off the sedan chair, people set off firecrackers around the sedan chair, which is called "Liao sedan chair". After getting off the sedan chair, sitting in a chair, he was carried to the front of the incense table in the hospital (later carried to the hospital by the groom), and the ceremony of offering sacrifices to heaven, parents and husband and wife began. When the bride enters the door, she must cross the saddle placed on the threshold to pray for peace after marriage; Others crossed the brazier again (in the middle of the house) in order to live a rich life. Since 1980s, the procedure of paying tribute to the bride is relatively simple, and since 1990s, wedding celebrations have mushroomed. The ceremony is operated by a professional master of ceremonies to set off and render the atmosphere of the scene. On the same day, a banquet was held to entertain relatives and friends and receive gifts. The bride pays homage to relatives, friends and elders, and the worshippers need to contribute in return, which is called "gold worship". At night, candles are lit all night, which is called "long-lived lamp". It is common for young people to listen to songs in the middle of the night.

The next day, the husband and wife accompanied the person with the gift to the woman's "back door" (poor people don't return to the door when they get married), and the woman gave a banquet and invited relatives and friends to accompany her son-in-law and receive gifts. Come back early after the banquet. There is a saying that "the newcomer can't come." In the afternoon, the sister-in-law or sister guides the bride to pay homage to her ancestors, and then visits the elders who live by the door. The worshippers still need money (money is wrapped in red paper). At this point, the bride takes off her wedding dress.

Within one month after marriage, the woman regularly picks up her daughter, ranging from three to six days or four to eight days. The first call, send, must be dad or uncle, uncle to call, mom or aunt to send, there is a saying called "dad told mom to send, never get sick." Going back to my husband's house near the full moon to "cross the moon". Within three years, you must live in your mother's house on the fifteenth day of the first lunar month and the fifteenth day of August. There is also "on the fifteenth day of the first month, you don't watch the lights, you watch the lights die; Mother-in-law died when she didn't enjoy the moon on August 15th. It will be three years before you can come and go freely. Now it has been gradually liberalized, and it has long been abandoned in the homes of urban residents.

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