On the necessity of moderate corporal punishment again

This semester, all teachers have the same feeling, that is, the educational environment is getting narrower and narrower, parents are increasingly dissatisfied with the teacher's education, they don't understand the teacher's work, and they are always finding fault with the teacher, blaming the teacher and complaining about the teacher. For children's disciplinary behavior, they can't cooperate with teachers to carry out proper education, but ignore it and let it go. If the teacher touches the child when he is angry because the child is in serious violation of discipline (many of them will not cause physical harm at all, such as hitting two or three hands, just giving the students a little lesson), it will be even more presumptuous and make a fuss, just like stirring up a hornet's nest. The recent incident in Wuhan is an example. Teacher Xia slapped ten children in the class with serious noise three times, which attracted the whole people's scolding. She was suspended and apologized, and the teacher's dignity was swept away. Now, in the whole educational environment, teachers feel like walking on thin ice. Everyone is afraid that one day, because their anger is out of control, they will be pestered by their parents, criticized, talked or even suspended by school leaders, the news media will be exposed quickly and in a big way, and the voices of criticism and cursing will flood in on the Internet. In this way, you can't stand on campus, and in class, students will be more presumptuous, because students no longer respect you, and your prestige will be gone. Parents, too, continue to hate you.

Why do teachers do this? Parents may have this question. First of all, how many parents have never touched their children? I bet the parents who beat their children are definitely the majority. Including myself, when my child was only three or four years old, I couldn't hold back all kinds of bad things and moved my hands several times. Of course, the child is so young that it must be wrong for me to attack him. But if the child is ten years old, if he always refuses to listen to advice, I will still start work on him. Then ask, why do parents do this? In fact, I know that the child must have made a big mistake. Sometimes it's useless to argue with a child, or he doesn't listen at all, or he always makes mistakes after listening. Think about it, you can't always teach a child by words, but a teacher has to face forty or fifty students with different personalities in a class. If one child doesn't obey the discipline, it will affect the study of all other children. When a child makes a serious mistake, sometimes he is really beaten a few times, teaching him a painful lesson. It is likely that he will have awe, will not violate discipline and will not do anything wrong at will. I was born in the 1980s. When my brother and I were lazy and delayed harvesting rice, my father gave us a good beating. In the evening, we were punished for not having dinner. We lit two incense sticks on the table. We knelt down in front of the table and put a big washbasin in front of us. Strictly speaking, let's kneel down and cry over a washbasin. Once, my brother and I secretly went swimming with many friends. Father found us, took a long bamboo pole, jumped straight into the pool from a dam several meters high, and beat us in front of many friends. My father's seemingly crazy appearance frightened me very much. Since these two things, I have never dared to disobey, and of course I have understood the truth of my father's education. Not only our two brothers, but every boy, who hasn't been severely beaten by his parents? In school, from the 1980s to the early 1990s, all older children who make noise and violate discipline in class must be punished by teachers. As above, the teacher slapped his face with his palm, or slapped his palm with a bamboo board, or knelt at the back of the classroom. Of course, sometimes teachers do it themselves, and it is common for thugs to slap him in the face. The key point is that almost all the children who were punished felt humiliated and were afraid that their parents would know about the beating. Sometimes, when parents know this, their first reaction is: you have been beaten, it must be a crime. The teacher played well. I hit you for your own good. Don't do it again. That's how we got here. We have never seen a student cry and play truant because he was beaten several times by the teacher or because of his psychological shadow, and even wanted to hit a wall and jump off a building. After everyone was punished, the next day, he was still alive and kicking.

Why did this happen at that time? At that time, teachers were unconditionally trusted by parents. Parents have given birth to many children, and there are too many jobs in the fields and mountains, so it is difficult to have the energy to manage their children's studies. Therefore, parents have the idea that teachers and children's learning and education are for you. If you don't obey, teach. Although we now know that this sentence is definitely wrong, education is the responsibility of schools, families and society, but under the historical conditions at that time, after the reform and opening up, the land contract responsibility system was determined, and the countryside finally ushered in the spring of hope. People should work hard to change their poor lives and create happy days. Therefore, parents leave the responsibility of educating their children to teachers.

I recall these things, not that it was right for the teacher to punish the students boldly at that time, but that corporal punishment could not be generalized and completely abandoned. Don't tremble and be nervous when you see these two words. Not to mention every child, but there are indeed many children, especially playful boys, who will deviate from the right track and behave badly when they grow up. If we don't help them correct, these wrong words and deeds will accumulate and become more and more serious, so that your closest parents will eventually become enemies. Just as gardeners need to trim flowers and trees regularly, flowers and trees can grow neatly and upright, otherwise they will escape sideways and have many branches. There is a saying: stealing needles when you are young, stealing gold when you are old. There are the same reasons for not following the rules and not becoming Fiona Fang. I believe you are willing to help children correct these bad or bad behavior habits. So, how to correct and educate him? Of course, it is very likely that he was very young at first, so we can naturally educate him with words. Of course, there is also a premise that you must be a qualified or competent parent, that is, you should know how to educate correctly and effectively. However, I think many of our parents may not really educate their children. They may scold the child with blunt words, or just hit the child. Maybe you'll think I'm contradicting myself: didn't you say you could hit children? I'm telling you, when the child was very young, he didn't go to primary school, and he was less than 6 years old. At this time, he should not be beaten. If you hit him at this time, you will probably hit him often, because you may be used to it. However, you are used to fighting, but it has left a long shadow in your child's heart, because he has been living in the fear of being beaten and scolded by you, and will become as timid or irritable as you. Therefore, when children are very young, such as 0 to 6 years old, never use corporal punishment. Of course, reasoning and other methods will do, and we should also pay attention to rationality, so as to achieve results, otherwise it will be a failure. For example, a child is rolling on the ground because he is clamoring to buy toys. At this time, you must never give in, nor rush to hit him, but look at him. On the one hand, don't let him suffer other trauma; The second is to move forward by yourself. If not, you can drag him up and go with him. If you are 6 years old and already in primary school, you should receive standardized education from the school. School is the epitome of society, and it is to prepare for entering the society in the future. Therefore, there will naturally be school rules and regulations, and teachers will slowly guide children to learn and abide by them. Parents should also know the intentions of schools and teachers and should cooperate. In the first grade and even the whole lower grade, children are still young and plastic, which is a good opportunity to educate children and guide them to grow up healthily. Children trust their teachers and parents very much. At this stage, if children make some small mistakes (generally not making any big ones), teachers will give priority to gentle education, and parents will be very willing to accept it.

If for various reasons, the child has not been corrected in the lower grades, or because of unexpected events such as family changes, the child's behavior becomes bad. On the one hand, we must find out the family reasons, whether the family education is in place, and whether there are problems. Nowadays, a topic that society is very concerned about is how to be a qualified parent. Indeed, parents are their children's first teachers, and they spend most of their time at home in the six years before going to school. It is conceivable that the key and importance of family education. The real problem is that many parents don't do preschool education for their children, which is not correct. Of course, the times are progressing and this phenomenon has been greatly improved.

When children enter the middle and high grades, if they don't have good conduct in the lower grades, or if their families suddenly change, their conduct will change greatly, such as becoming selfish, causing trouble, bullying classmates and so on. At this time, our parents should pay special attention to these problems seriously, instead of letting nature take its course. Because, at this time, it is still very possible to correct him. Otherwise, it will be difficult for him to correct it in junior high school. Just as farm work should conform to the solar terms, anything that should be done at any time is irreparable if it is missed.

Then, in the face of children with various problems in this age group, the outstanding performance is that they can't abide by classroom discipline and affect the whole class's study; Unwilling to complete the study task, or often bullying young people. In the case of teachers' persistent teaching, after communicating with parents, parents either don't cooperate, or have a weak attitude and limited educational methods, which can't achieve the effect at all. The education of this student will create a very difficult situation. Teachers will face a very difficult choice: either rely on their own conscience and teachers' responsibilities, resolutely stop and educate them to ensure the learning of other students; Or avoid all kinds of risks that may be brought about by educating children. For example, after severely scolding students, students will object to the teacher, so that the teacher will either lose his dignity in front of the whole class or stop the corporal punishment that may be brought about. Obviously, in the severe environment of tense relationship between home and school, do you want to lose your job because of strict management of students, or do you want to muddle along and keep your job? I believe all teachers will choose the latter. The so-called being a Buddhist teacher.

Some people may ask: Isn't there a better way to educate students? Isn't your teacher a professional? I believe all teachers can answer you, even many people who are not teachers can answer you. Education has nothing to do with school. Education exists in the social environment. If there is something wrong with this environment, how can education be immune to it? When students walk into the campus with all kinds of bad habits in society, do you think these bad habits will suddenly and magically disappear? Just like magic. Then talk about the social environment. Is our current social environment good? All kinds of online games and even violent online games are full of networks, game rooms and Internet cafes. Many parents are too busy at work or in other places to take care of their children, so they can only leave their children with their grandparents. Obviously, grandparents can only take care of their children's daily lives, but they can only spare enough energy for education. At this age, how many children can really have self-control? Most of them have no self-control, they all have herd mentality, and those things full of temptation and pursuit of excitement are mostly negative. Therefore, I don't need to say anything. Nowadays, due to the lack of family education, the society is full of temptations, which leads to an unsupervised vacuum for students during holidays, and children are easily exposed to various bad behaviors; A long time ago, there was a mathematical formula circulating in the education circle: 5+2=0, that is, the results of school education five days a week offset the negative effects of weekends. There is still a lot to be improved. After all, some parents attach importance to this issue and strengthen supervision and guidance for their children. However, the negative effects of the weekend still exist. There are still huge problems in the whole process of education for students.

So to be honest, teachers have very limited means to deal with naughty students. Because there are many laws that restrict teachers' educational behavior. Take the latest Detailed Rules for the Implementation of Disciplinary Action in Primary and Secondary Education (Trial Draft), which aims to strengthen the disciplinary education for students. The whole article does not specify how to effectively implement punishment. Reading through the whole article is an inefficient and ineffective educational means with complicated procedures, such as punishing public welfare and standing at the back of the classroom. It can be said that these means are useless to many students who violate discipline seriously. Moreover, time has been delayed, and the punishment will delay other students' valuable study time. This law has a fundamental flaw, that is, it blindly denies corporal punishment and seems to think that corporal punishment is an insurmountable red line. I said: big fallacy. Corporal punishment was an indispensable means of education in ancient China. From ancient times to the present, corporal punishment has obviously done more harm than good for China people to develop good moral quality and enterprising spirit since childhood. There are many examples of promoting children's progress in learning through strict education and making them succeed when they grow up. Even in contemporary times, in countries such as Japan, South Korea and Singapore, which belong to the East Asian cultural circle, corporal punishment is explicitly stipulated. Of course, there are strict operating rules for corporal punishment, and education is the first principle. For example, boys spank and girls spank their thighs. On the other hand, in our vast country, effective educational methods and appropriate corporal punishment have continued since ancient times. But suddenly, it disappeared completely. Therefore, today's education is very difficult, students are fearless, and parents are sensitive and suspicious. Teachers are walking on thin ice. Alas, education in China has gone astray for a long time.

As a big educational country in East Asia, even countries like Singapore and South Korea know that corporal punishment cannot be completely abandoned, which encourages stubborn students, but they all deny the educational means that have been passed down for thousands of years. This is a huge educational disaster that needs to be borne by the whole society. In fact, we can learn from these management methods in Singapore and South Korea, which belong to the Confucian cultural circle, and use moderate and reasonable corporal punishment to stop those students who seriously violate the discipline or refuse to correct it. This will not only save the lives of these students, but also be more fair and comforting to the other students who are serious in discipline. Imagine, if we don't stop those students who seriously endanger the class in time and give them corresponding punishment, it is unfair to these students who are seriously disciplined, and it is easy to induce their psychological orientation: it turns out that teachers can't do anything about these students who violate discipline, so that we can't learn well, and I will be as good as them. In this way, education in China will come to an end in summer.