Why don't some people want to see their relatives again after a year?

Unconsciously, the Spring Festival passed, and everyone went to work one after another and left their hometown. Suddenly looking back, I realized that the people below didn't want to associate with their relatives.

0 1 "rootless" people don't go back to their hometown and walk with their relatives during the New Year.

Bai Juyi wrote in "In addition to Night": "Think too much at the end of the year, and the end of the world has not returned. Old people are new, and diseases are old and glorious. " Someone stood at the door, looking forward to, thinking of distant relatives, but distant relatives did not come back, and people at home were even more sad. Such a picture makes people sad.

Especially elderly parents, why don't they want their children to go home early? Perhaps, parents have prepared a lot of delicious food for the Spring Festival. Years ago, I called countless times to call my children.

In fact, many people are used to drifting, and they have no "roots". Not only young people, but also some middle-aged people. Where is home in the vast sea of people? Think carefully-this peace of mind is my hometown; I regard a foreign land as my hometown.

People who don't go back to their hometown for several years are rooted in different places, or have been on the road, and the concept of family ties is getting weaker and weaker. Working hard, making money and living in different places are their real plans.

People who "refuse to climb relatives" have no enthusiasm for visiting relatives.

During the Chinese New Year, you will find this phenomenon: when the old people are together, they say "uncle, grandfather and aunt" as soon as they open their mouths, and when the young people open their mouths, they say "classmates, friends, colleagues and leaders".

Obviously, there is a generation gap between people. On a larger scale, there is no way to chat well. The older generation likes to comfort people like this: "If you really can't get along, just call uncle. He is doing well somewhere. " When you go to see your uncle, you often feel cold. Uncle is not as enthusiastic as he thought, and even refuses to help the younger generation. This feeling immediately turned cold.

Since generations can't help each other, don't associate. When a person has the idea of refusing to "climb relatives", he will naturally break off diplomatic relations with relatives. During the Chinese New Year, he will choose to associate with some interested people, not just relatives. For example, someone visits their boss with gifts, but ignores their elders.

"Down and out" people don't want to see their relatives and dare not talk about income and work.

There are many forms of visiting relatives and friends. Some people drive to pay New Year's greetings, some people take a ride to pay New Year's greetings, some people need a ride from their relatives, and even let them pick them up specially. Some people who drive luxury cars to pay New Year's greetings look dignified and speak loudly. Some very poor people are full of "cowards", even depending on the faces of their elders.

In addition, people who are down and out will be stingy when giving gifts, and they will be very concerned when giving red envelopes.

As the saying goes, "people are more angry than people." Relatives, compared with each other, will find that people who are down and out might as well stay at home and don't see outsiders. When he started talking about money and work, he really had no confidence. In my hometown, there is such a phenomenon: "dodging debts." In other words, at the end of the year and the beginning of the year, people who don't usually meet each other will probably go home for the New Year. Take this opportunity to settle the debt and get it back.

For those who are in debt, they are really afraid that someone will come to collect debts, so they have to hide and not meet their relatives and friends. Even if you return to your hometown, you will not reveal your whereabouts, and your parents will deliberately hide it. Poverty also reflects "no face, no self-confidence", so it is not surprising to break off diplomatic relations with relatives.

People who live a "fast-paced" life regard visiting relatives as a burden and always come and go in a hurry. The Spring Festival lasts more than ten days, in fact, it is only a few days. Some people who work outside the home rushed to their hometown from other places, and then went to other places from their hometown, and the road was delayed for two or three days. The time at home is three or four days. It seems difficult to visit all relatives. When I went to visit my relatives, I was driving and pulling a bunch of gifts to give to my elders. He left without saying a few words and went to the next one. Sometimes one morning, you can go to five or six houses, and everyone just meets, not emotionally contacts. Many people want to have a good rest during the Chinese New Year, instead of being busy, so he chose not to associate with relatives and live his own life. Some relatives are also accustomed to "leaving no food" and regard New Year greetings as a formal ceremony. Over time, everyone reached a * * * knowledge of less walking and less intersection. ?

As the saying goes: "First child, second child, third child, fourth child." It is unrealistic to arrange dates, eat at relatives' homes or even sleep for one night according to the order of New Year greetings.

If there are relatives living in remote mountainous areas, you may not plan to visit them at all, but send blessings and red envelopes through the Internet. Once in the countryside, more than half of the people in the village were relatives, so they went to visit when they had nothing to do, and took a message when they had something to do, and relatives got together.

Now, whether in the countryside or in the town, everyone is busy and happy. Whether at home or in a foreign land, you still have to live on your own. The weak concept of kinship is not only a change of concept, but also a necessity of life.

As the saying goes: "Kiss or not, blood ties." Anyway, I still have to visit relatives during the Spring Festival. We must understand a truth-"you come and go, only kiss; If you don't come, I won't go or kiss you. " Although there are some relatives with bad personalities and people who are unwilling to help, there are always a few people who will give you warmth at critical times. With the development of the times, there are more and more forms of communication between people. Besides meeting and chatting, we can also communicate with each other through the internet. As long as you have the heart, it is as lively as the New Year all year round.

Remember the goodness of others, learn to be grateful, and society will have a human touch.