How to joke with others correctly?

What is a joke? It means teasing others in a humorous and relaxed way, which is acceptable to both sides.

What are the benefits of joking? Can close the distance with others, resolve the embarrassing atmosphere, and win the favor of others. Especially joking between people who are relatively familiar will make the atmosphere more harmonious and make each other happier.

Is there any harm in joking? Ignorance and excessive jokes are certainly harmful.

Many years ago, I saw a news story about two colleagues who had a good relationship. Because of ignorance, one person put a high-pressure air pump into another person's anus to cheer up, which led to the tragedy of colleague's death. Jokers are also punished by law. The court finally sentenced him to two years in prison for the crime of negligent death, and compensated the family of the deceased for medical expenses, death compensation and other losses of 6.5438+0.4 million yuan. We are two good friends, but at first it was just a joke.

It's a pity that people died.

Are you kidding? Is there a boundary? The answer is yes. Jokes must be acceptable to both sides, and the content of jokes must not hurt others' self-esteem and feelings. If the other person's jokes always make you feel embarrassed, even angry, or even humiliated, then the other person must have crossed the line. You must tell each other clearly that you can't accept his joking behavior.

Secondly, the occasion and scale are very important. If the other person plays a big joke on you in public, his behavior is also out of line. Don't swallow it, tell the other person clearly that you don't accept it, don't like it, and don't do it next time.

After sorting out these problems, it is necessary to evaluate the scope and degree of acceptance of jokes.

I am a cheerful person. People make fun of me. Many times, I will laugh it off. Occasionally I will be possessed by the spirit of Ah Q: open it if you like, sacrifice me and be happy with most people. If you don't hack me, I will hack myself. But even so, I have a bottom line. I never agree with the frivolous evaluation of my body, humiliating my personality and hurting my self-esteem, which involves value evaluation.

Next, we need to determine whether there is bullying in other people's jokes.

What is bullying? Breaking your bottom line, crossing the boundary of your body, the joke content is beyond your tolerance, insulting your personality, involving your parents, and even showing disrespect for your parents. These are bullying, you must resolutely resist and never allow them! So, how to do it specifically?

First, give a direct warning and dare to sayno. I don't agree with the way of fighting violence with violence. It's mean to bully people by joking. If you fight back in the same way, won't you become a person you hate? When a mad dog bites you, is it necessary for you to turn yourself into a mad dog to bite? You just need to seriously warn each other, just this once. Do it again and you'll never stop! Your attitude and position determine the way others treat you. When I was studying, those boys nicknamed me "pumpkin" because my face was big and round. When I expressed my disgust, they actually said plausibly: What's the matter? We're just kidding. Well, it's a joke. I can accept this nickname.

Later, they nicknamed me "winter melon" because I was short and fat. I know, they are not just joking, they are obviously bullying me on the pretext of joking. I have to show my attitude, otherwise it will be endless, and I have no time to waste with them! So I found that group of boys, with a tough attitude and a cold tone, and said, I'll tell you clearly, I won't accept your joke! This is a warning. If there is a next time, I will definitely hand it over to the school, and I will let my mother handle it. I dare to go out behind my mother's back because I know my mother will always be on my side. If I am in trouble, she will certainly help me.

Now, I want to say a few more words. In fact, I am also on the side of every bullied classmate. No matter who bullies you, for whatever reason, you should think of me at the first time. I will definitely give you a helping hand and help you to the end!

Second, ask the teacher to intervene and hand over the contradiction to the teacher. This is not a sign of cowardice and incompetence, but a plan to shell. Why not leave the contradiction to the teacher and stay out of it? But the strategy should be used skillfully. Don't cry to the teacher, lest other students think you are timid, but tell each other with a tough attitude: I don't want to deal with you. I hope you will pay attention to your discretion in the future. Don't blame me if you cross the line again. When the bully knows that you don't want to take responsibility, but you are never afraid of things, your arrogance will not rise.

Third, show your bottom line. This is very important. Some people are used to joking, and they are very unhappy if they don't talk about it for a day. I used to have several male colleagues at school and always liked to make fun of some female colleagues. The jokes are all big and embarrassing. However, they never make fun of me. Why? Because as soon as their words came out, my bottom line came out. I killed them all and never dared again. Later, all my colleagues knew that I didn't accept such jokes, so they never played jokes that I didn't like.

Fourth, practice clever joke skills. Jokes are essential for communication between people, otherwise life will be so boring. However, joking is really a technical job. Some people will freeze the atmosphere when joking, while others will enliven the atmosphere when joking. There are two secrets to mastering jokes. One is to make fun of yourself. It's about not touching. The so-called self-mockery is self-mockery, that is, self-mockery.

When Yang Mi was playing "to the sky kingdom", many netizens complained on the Internet that Yang Mi's hairline was too high because of Yin Si's modeling, indicating that he would abandon the drama. Yang Mi said in her Weibo: I am a person who can't stand criticism. If you criticize me, I will get a hair transplant. This black, not only didn't make Yang Mi lose powder, but made many passers-by turn powder. This year, Yang Mi re-launched the heroine drama "Swing", and the hairline actually returned. Her whirlwind performance is very inspirational and her acting skills are not bursting, but she has really improved a lot. She became a traffic manager this summer.

Why should we emphasize the improvement of joking skills? Because only if you are a good clown can you resist the malice of those low-level clowns and you can easily win the contest with them. Of course, when others want to bully you, you should also weigh it in your heart. After all, consider the cost.