How to create a harmonious family atmosphere between husband and wife?

In marriage, when emotional conflict escalates, it will develop into confrontation. Some couples even have a long-term cold war, eating at the same table and sleeping in separate beds at night, becoming strangers. This abnormal marital status will cause a devastating blow to the whole family.

In this case, Alian was dissatisfied with her husband's behavior of sending text messages to his female colleagues at will, thus starting the cold war. A social psychologist investigated the psychological causes of marital disharmony and found that the wife's dissatisfaction with her husband mainly includes the following aspects:

(1) Husband is selfish and inconsiderate. Women also need the warmth of men, and selfishness is the number one enemy of love.

(2) No outstanding achievements in career. Women always want their husbands to get ahead, or at least make a difference.

(3) likes to complain and doesn't understand her taste. If a husband doesn't like his wife, he'd better not complain too much.

(4) Lack of interest in children and weak family values; Too strict with children, take them out if they are unhappy; Regardless of my family, I value my friends more than anything else.

(5) Rude, talkative and impolite; Lack of self-motivation, muddling along, lack of male desire for success, mediocrity and rigidity; Grumpy, impatient, above the family, unable to treat others equally, easy to get angry and unbearable; Love to criticize, lack of man's generosity; Bitter and nagging, like to find fault with small things.

Of course, "a clever woman can't cook without rice", only when both husband and wife have psychological bumps, the contradiction in marriage becomes more acute. Many times, the husband's dissatisfaction with his wife's following behaviors will also lead to disagreement between the two sides, resulting in a cold war:

The wife nagged endlessly. No matter big or small, no matter when and where, they always talk nonstop.

(2) Lack of interest in life. Like-minded people, they can't enjoy the fun of life together, and even contradict each other.

Selfishness and disregard for others are the most intolerable things for husbands.

(4) complain and interfere with your hobbies. Almost every man has his own hobby, which is an essential psychological balance factor in men's life. They absolutely don't allow others to interfere with their hobbies.

(5) Being disheveled means losing her husband's dignity and humiliating him.

(6) impatience. Any man wants his wife to be gentle and lovely, and impatience is an important factor leading to the breakdown of marriage.

(7) interfere with his discipline of his children. Many families belong to the "strict father loving mother" type, but if one is too strict and the other is too kind, conflicts will naturally arise.

(8) boasting and bluffing. This problem is common among men, and once the wife is found to have this quality, it will be very annoying.

(9) Emotional fragility. Mature women have stable feelings, men generally want their wives to be mature, and the fragile "little girl" wife makes her husband unacceptable for a long time.

(10) is narrow-minded and jealous.

(1 1) Neglect housework. Whatever the reason, it is unfavorable to neglect housework.

(12) argumentative and picky, which makes people feel at a loss. Arguing irrationally, whitewashing peace.

In short, in order to reduce the psychological confrontation between husband and wife in marriage and create a harmonious marriage environment, both husband and wife should tolerate each other's shortcomings and try to correct their bad habits and styles.