Why does my mom always yell at me first when my brother and I fight?

Because you're bigger and you should know better, it's as simple as that! In fact, many adults feel that the big one should be able to give up a little bit of the small one, I believe that "Kong Rong" story we have heard, and its meaning "teach children to know how to give up" also convinced countless parents, so often you can see this kind of situation: the size of the two kids Playing together, but suddenly there is an argument, parents may be out of the "small age" of a kind of care, always have to give orders: "big to let the small", if the big party does not let, to be deducted "do not know how to do things "

The first thing you need to do is to make sure that you have a good idea of what you're doing and how you're doing it.

Then most of the quarrels and disputes between the children will be under the requirements of various parents, and the end is always to "the big one is not convinced, the small one smiles and laughs" end. But who has ever thought, "Kong Rong let the pear" said Kong Rong as a younger brother to give the pear to the older brothers, but when the parents of the "theory" applied to the "practical", but only seize the "humility". The story of the "Halloween" is a very interesting one, but it's also a very interesting one, because it's not a story that you're going to be able to tell, and it's not a story that you're going to be able to tell.

In my opinion, children are by nature selfish, and if the parents keep forcing the older one to take a step back, then the children will see it as favoritism! A few years ago, the Internet also broke the news "Kong Rong let the pear I do not let": school exams, there is a question called "If you are Kong Rong, you will do? The child immediately wrote down the answer "I do not let", but the teacher ruled wrong, because the standard answer is "to let". In the end, it's the concept of "the big give way to the small" that is so y rooted in people's minds that not only do parents do it, but teachers teach it as well!

I know that the parents' intention is good, and that the starting point is to teach their children to be polite and courteous, but the children don't see it that way, and they just think, "I'm not going to let you do this to me. But the children don't see it that way. They just think: "My brother and I are both children, so why should I give in to you?" Inwardly unwilling to face parental pressure, but have to give way, is really aggrieved! These in the eyes of the child, is clearly a "bias" behavior, in addition to aggrieved, more will be added to the brother, the parents of the jealousy and understanding of the brother, the parent-child relationship has a very bad influence.