What are the methods of family education in kindergartens?

Introduction: Looking at the evolution of the concept of family education in various countries, referring to the descriptions of family education by famous experts and combining our practical experience in family education, we define family education as a social activity in which parents intentionally influence their children through physical education, lifestyle, emotion and communication in their daily lives, and then family members interact for life.

Method 1: stable? Small volcano soothes rebellious psychology

Rebellious psychology is an inevitable manifestation of children's knowledge and experience growth, personality and independence development. Every child will show different degrees and different ways of rebellious psychology. It was found that 5% ~ 15% of school-age children showed signs of rebellious behavior. Children with rebellious emotions usually show as follows: they often lose their temper; Excessive quarrel with parents; Obviously resist and reject the demands and principles of adults; Blame others for your mistakes or misconduct; Non-cooperation, confrontation and hostile behavior, such as frequent anger and resentment towards others. Naughty children's rebellious psychology is more prominent than that of ordinary children, which is due to both personality and educational accumulation. If we conform to their psychological characteristics and adopt a calm and democratic attitude, then? Naughty boy? Again? Stubborn? It can also be transformed.

1. Set a reasonable boundary between freedom and discipline to reduce and avoid unnecessary conflicts.

Naughty children are born with adventure, curiosity and fantasy, and exploratory imitation is their main behavioral feature. With the growth of age, the gradual expansion of hobbies and the enhancement of imitation ability, they are exploring and trying more and more activities. But because of weak cognitive ability and poor self-cultivation, everything is always easy? Out of line? , from a large number of? Naughty behavior? 、? A prank? .

Therefore, too much regulation or too tight institutional framework actually does more harm than good. In fact, raising naughty children to death will hinder them from learning from life. Montessori said: External compulsory discipline not only stifles children's lively nature, inhibits children's life potential, and stifles children's curiosity and thirst for knowledge, but also can only cultivate people who are slow-witted, slow-witted and full of servility. ? At the same time, as Russell said, once children are suppressed, they will retaliate with hatred. And generally speaking, if he can't release his hatred to the fullest, then this anger will be trapped in his heart, and he may fall into an unconscious state and mix with all kinds of strange things all his life? .

The management of naughty children is not to abolish discipline, but to be extensive, which can change from strict, fine and rich to loose, rough and scarce at different levels. By changing the management strength, they can release their playful nature to a certain extent, which is more conducive to mobilizing the positive factors in their personality.

2. Listen to children's voices and enter their spiritual world.

Naughty children are usually active and unstable, and always appear in conflicts and sabotage. In fact, many children are naughty out of curiosity rather than malice, or an inappropriate desire to vent, and some are not? Do bad things with good intentions? Phenomenon. Parents can consciously create more opportunities for their children to show themselves with their hands and brains in daily life, so that children can gain a sense of honor and accomplishment, and can also prevent children from using their hands? Grandstanding? Ways to satisfy positive desires. Any child has a strong desire to be affirmed, appreciated and respected in his heart. Once this desire is satisfied, those potentials that are usually difficult to detect will be miraculously stimulated and even unimaginable success will be achieved. On the contrary, if this desire is frustrated again and again, or has been suppressed, then their various potentials will most likely disappear and even lead to various tragedies. Timely appreciation may change their behavior and even affect their life.

Parents should give their children opportunities to express and perform; Blindly beating and preaching will not help, and it is easy to cause children's resistance. Parents should explore the real reasons behind the incident and avoid creating some? Unfair injustice? . Only by analyzing naughty children's desires, listening to their voices and understanding them deeply can we enter their spiritual world. At the same time, it is also of great significance for children to learn to express themselves reasonably and then understand and master the skills of communicating with the outside world. Of course, criticism as a means of education is also essential, and appropriate criticism is also needed to control naughty children's bad words and deeds and desires.

Although rebellious psychology hinders children's physical and mental development, it also has many positive effects, and it is not useless. Rebellious psychology contains many positive psychological qualities: strong self-awareness, courage, strong sense of competition, enterprising spirit, courage to seek differences, innovative spirit and so on. To some extent, it can prevent the formation of some bad qualities. Children with strong rebellious mentality can release unpleasant and negative emotions that are not conducive to their physical and mental health if they dare to attack when they are unhappy, bored, depressed and dissatisfied. They will not be timid, depressed, timid, conservative, resigned, and can maintain physical and mental health. Therefore, rebellious psychology should not be eliminated or obliterated. Parents should be good at discovering positive factors in rebellious psychology and making good use of them.

Method 2: Tolerance? Small volcano creates a harmonious family ecological environment

The ecosystem view holds that individuals are placed in different systems after birth, such as family, kindergarten, school, community and society. Only when different system structures can support their growth and development needs and give them physical and psychological satisfaction, can all kinds of communication between individuals and the environment produce satisfactory results, and individuals can grow up healthily and adapt to society. Six educational methods for naughty babies >>

In other words, adaptation depends on each system interface, including individuals, families, kindergartens, schools, communities and society, all of which can reach a compatible state. However, most naughty children's system interfaces are incompatible. System? Treatment? Not ideal, even inhuman: hated by teachers in kindergartens and schools, ridiculed by peers, scolded by parents at home, and even hated by everyone in the community. They are in a generally unacceptable or even excluded situation, so they are more likely to have rebellious psychology and even antagonistic psychology. If children are left in an excluded position, they will often stifle their talents and even create anti-social elements.

How many kinds of families produce naughty children? High risk area? : improper means of education, doting or simple and rude; Parents have low comprehensive quality and despise family education; Family disharmony or single-parent families; Parents are too busy to take care of their children's education.

Family is the closest microsystem to a child, and family is the closest thing? Other? . Parents can make a difference in this system. Families should strive to create an inclusive but not indulgent normal spiritual home for naughty children, so as to resolve and weaken the negative emotions caused by the sense of exclusion from the external system, give them a sense of belonging and security, and handle the reasonable position of naughty children in the family and the harmonious relationship between family members, so as to maintain their physical and mental stability and balance and let their hearts fly freely in a broader space.

Method 3: Guide? Small volcano for rent? Small volcano? Energy together.

1. Guide the direction of interest and gather psychology? Thermal energy?

Naughty children are both destructive and creative. They are generally curious, interested, fantastic in fantasy, active in inspiration and excellent in practical ability.

However, before having a stable hobby, these psychological characteristics are generally opposite to the expected direction of adults. It is the responsibility of kindergartens, schools and parents to concentrate the natural energy of naughty children on healthy and formal channels.

Naughty children's interests are quite different from those of ordinary children. Generally speaking, children's interests are related to what they come into contact with in kindergarten, school or family. Once they have other interests, do they often? Time has changed? , very easy to transfer. And some naughty children are interested in things outside their homework, which often develops to the point of infatuation, which may be the starting point for their future career success. In addition, naughty children have more interests than ordinary children, but this often limits the possibility of their in-depth exploration in a certain field.

Parents should carefully observe the hobbies and personality characteristics of naughty children, master their personality characteristics and guide them correctly. Sometimes the expectations of parents and teachers are not always children's ideals. Many parents think that cultivating hobbies only includes some formal training, such as piano, calligraphy, painting, martial arts, go, etc., while excluding games that really attract children, or even think? Play? It is wrong to do nothing. In fact, playing with children, especially naughty children, is a necessary way of life for children and a way of learning. Gardner believes that children's intelligence is not single, but multiple, and everyone's intelligence structure is very different. Parents should accurately analyze the real advantages of children's intelligence, so as to guide them according to the situation and teach them in accordance with their aptitude.

Parents should pay attention to the fact that many naughty children have excellent intelligence, but this often becomes an obstacle for them to study hard or understand advanced knowledge. On the one hand, because they are used to mastering knowledge easily, with the increase of learning difficulty, they will easily get bored and refuse to work hard when they encounter difficulties. Therefore, naughty children can easily develop bad study habits. On the other hand, most naughty children are too energetic and inattentive. Although they are active and quick-thinking, their thinking is short-lived, which also brings some difficulties to their good academic performance. Therefore, a relatively stable hobby is a necessary condition for naughty children to develop good study habits.

2. Strengthen regular physical exercise and concentrate? Thermal energy?

Naughty children sleep less than ordinary children on average and are full of energy. Strengthening regular physical exercise can effectively prevent and avoid improper venting of excess energy and possible dangerous behaviors of naughty children, and resolve unnecessary conflicts between naughty children and the environment. At the same time, developing one or two sports specialties is also beneficial for children to actively participate in class collective activities and eliminate the relationship with the group. Psychological gap? . In addition, through regular physical exercise such as ball games, naughty children can learn certain rules in the game, strengthen their understanding of discipline and system in a subtle way, cultivate their self-management ability, and enhance their sense of ownership and collective honor.

Naughty children, on the one hand, make their parents worry and worry, on the other hand, they also bear great psychological pressure: being punished for getting into trouble, falling behind in study and so on. ? Is this child too fat? This is the most common evaluation of naughty children by parents. This will not only make children lose their self-esteem, but also add a dark color to their self-concept. On the contrary, some parents (especially mothers) tend to think of themselves as naughty children? Anecdote? Some parents even preach to their children? Naughty is smart? , and so on.

The side effects of these behaviors are also obvious? Children will think that adults are completely positive or even appreciative of their mischief, which will make them more laissez-faire. Naughty is a kind of human nature, but it is played incisively and vividly in naughty children. Parents should be calm, peaceful and normal. Only on the basis of tolerance and acceptance can naughty children tolerate others and accept themselves. What is the purpose of education first? Adults? And then what? Become a talent? . Parents' high expectations and low evaluation may have a negative impact on their children's growth.

Knowledge expansion: What's wrong with playing with mud and sand?

In Seoul, last year and the first half of this year, 50,000 children participated? Playing with mud? . Playing with mud is not only enjoyed by children, but also by parents. In the past, children were afraid that their mothers would blame them for soiling their clothes. Now, how do parents educate their children? It doesn't matter if they play with mud, sand or water. As long as they have fun, it doesn't matter if they get dirty. Doctors also believe that proper dirtiness is not only good for the mood, but also good for improving the child's resistance. This will help them fight bacteria and viruses and prevent various diseases.

Breastfeeding and cloth diapers

On the issue of food, mothers in Seoul personally went out as models to advertise and strongly appealed? Insist on breastfeeding your child? . Breastfeeding has become a natural and glorious thing. Some mothers are doing breast-feeding performances in the subway, and dad is cheering.

In the past, parents loved to use disposable diapers. Now, for the sake of their children's health, more and more parents use cloth to make diapers. Li, a 33-year-old mother who uses cloth diapers for both her children, said: Although it is a bit troublesome to make diapers and breastfeed, I heard that it is good for children, and I intend to continue to do it. ? By her side, there are many mothers like her.

Don't give the child medicine.

In Seoul, there is a pediatrician who is famous for not using drugs. Dr. Gao stressed:? More than 90% of children's diseases are caused by viruses. Even if you don't take medicine, you will naturally recover after a certain period of time. ?

At the beginning, some parents asked their children to get better soon. Now, these parents believe that only when their children have been suffering, can they overcome the pain. Today, with the development of medicine, it is not too late to take medicine when it is time to take it. ? They very much agree with Dr. Gao's practice, thinking that this can achieve effective therapeutic effect with less drugs and prevent other adverse reactions caused by drugs.

There are still many parents who are upset because their children don't eat. Experts believe that children eat in a certain amount. Don't just pursue quantity, but care about quality. Even if you eat less, let your children eat a variety of diets with high nutritional value, so as to store energy and fight against diseases when they are sick.

Let the children sleep alone since childhood.

Whether babies or young children, Koreans have become popular to let children sleep alone. Because letting children sleep alone can not only enhance the intimacy between parents and children, but also cultivate children's sense of independence from childhood.

Dr. Park of Seoul Maternal and Child Health Hospital said: In the past, we used to put our children to sleep beside us from infancy. In doing so, some are convenient for breastfeeding; Some don't trust the baby to sleep by himself, what are you afraid of? Some are afraid that children will catch cold under the quilt and get sick when they sleep; Others are afraid of sleeping in separate beds and losing affection with their children. In fact, from the health point of view, it is more scientific to let children sleep alone, because parents and children sleep in the same bed, and the polluted air exhaled by parents is easy to be inhaled by children, which is not good for children's health. ?

Let the children grow up slowly

At Yonsei University School of Medicine in Seoul, Professor Shen of Pediatric Psychiatry wrote a book "Wise Parents Let Children Grow Slowly", the main content of which was against early education, because he saw that dozens of children who were sick because of excessive early education came to see a doctor every day, thus realizing the harm. Professor Shen advocates that when a child wants to learn, he should first observe what the child does, and when he finds that the child is curious about something, he should gently push it behind his back to let the child grow up independently faster.

Encourage children to take part in adventure activities

Encourage children to do some meaningful adventure activities, such as mountain climbing and rock climbing. Korean parents are popular in cultivating and exercising their children's strong will and brave spirit.

Kim Goodwill, an education expert in Seoul, said: In the past, most of our parents not only discouraged their children from taking risks, but also stopped them as soon as they heard that their children were going rock climbing, mainly for fear that something would happen to them. However, it is extremely unfavorable to cultivate and exercise children's brave spirit and strong will, and it is better to let children grow up in the stormy waves. Nowadays, many families have only one child, and many parents attach great importance to their children's growth, so they should let their children participate in some interesting adventures in nature. ?

Cultivate sentiment in nature

? Mom, I don't want to go home. When I go home, I can't run or shout. I only play with toys. How boring! ? In the past, Korean mothers always liked to keep their children indoors and let them learn to read, count, tell stories and look at pictures, thinking that this was the cultivation of intelligence.

Now, Korean parents believe that the most beautiful nature is the richest and most comprehensive textbook for educating children. Mountains, rivers, birds and flowers in nature make children feel kind and beautiful. Lovely little animals in nature, towering trees and green grass broaden their horizons and enrich their knowledge. In nature, children learn to analyze and compare various things and find out the relationship between them, thus inspiring and developing their wisdom. □ Ho Choi

Use the dining table as a classroom.

Are there any English families? Think of the dining table as a classroom? Our tradition starts from the first day when children go to the table.

Children grow up to one and a half years old and begin to like to drink soup with spoons. The vast majority of British parents believe that children have to eat by themselves, which indicates a right? Independent personality? If you yearn for it, you should give positive encouragement and let the children eat it themselves. Moreover, the British generally believe that a person's bad habit of being partial to food and picky eaters is mostly caused by parents' accommodation in childhood, so they pay special attention to children's partial to food and picky eaters. For example, if a child eats a certain dish and ignores other dishes, parents often put it away. They also believe that accommodating children at the dinner table will not only affect their comprehensive and adequate nutritional intake, but also make them develop a willful, selfish, uncontrollable and annoying character.

Generally, British children begin to learn dining etiquette systematically at the age of two, and begin to learn all dining etiquette at the age of four. For older children (about five years old), parents will let them do some chores such as setting the table before meals and clearing the table after meals. On the one hand, it can reduce the burden on parents, on the other hand, it can also make children feel involved.

In addition, under the guidance and education of parents, do children aged five or six know which ones are recycled? Environmentally friendly tableware? Which plastic bags may pollute the environment? Permanent garbage? . Before going out to travel, they will make their own drinks under the guidance of their parents, buy as little ready-made food as possible and pay attention to saving water and electricity, because what education have they got from adults? Abuse of resources means infringement on the environment. ?